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DivineSunshine

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Well, my NH is in jail for the night......
« on: November 07, 2007, 04:27:31 AM »
I just wanted to quick update since it is the middle of the night, but I called to report the email violations and texts to the kids and the police arrested him! 

Comforting---??   Yikes!   Kinda?  Surreal, I guess.

I guess I am speechless and up all night because I kicked the hornets nest here, again.   And I am still scared of his "kin".  Tomorrows gonna  be interesting!

Check back  tomorrow.  I just wanted to update.

Sunny 
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Re: Well, my NH is in jail for the night......
« Reply #1 on: November 07, 2007, 06:50:44 AM »
Dear Sunny,
  I truly am inspired by your courage. I have been so 'wimpy' when I should have been strong.I wish all the joy and happiness that life holds to be yours when this awful dilemma is over.
 You are in my prayers                    Love   Ami

(((((((((((((((((Sunny))))))))))))))))
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Re: Well, my NH is in jail for the night......
« Reply #2 on: November 07, 2007, 07:03:23 AM »
You found some support and availed yourself to it.

That was exactly what you were supposed to do.

Brava for you, Sun.

That's the way those violations are SUPPOSED to be recorded.

You did exactly what the GBI and FBI would have told you to do, had you asked them.

You received support and God Bless you for holding N accountable and letting him know there truly is a line......

it's there for him too (special undies or no) and you're not going to let him stomp all over the Judge's boundaries anymore.

If you don't hold him accountable now, the court and police won't in the future.

You had no choice. 

Call the police on his kin if they make you feel threatened, as well.

::placing honorary feathered headress of calm and courage, under fire, on Hope's head::

I know it's not pretty but..... you're doing amazingly well.

It had to be done, Sun.......

 he was begging to go to jail, IMO.....

just a matter of time,

 and his time came.

You didn't have to decide.... he did it for you.




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Re: Well, my NH is in jail for the night......
« Reply #3 on: November 07, 2007, 07:11:04 AM »
Dear Sunny,

Well done for doing what you are entitled to do - standing up for yourself and your children. I know it's so hard to actually do it, but that's what the law is there for. Your NH knew the rules as well as you. He just chose to ignore them. And this is the result.

(I must admit, I smiled when I saw the title of your post, and thought 'GOOD!!!)


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Re: Well, my NH is in jail for the night......
« Reply #4 on: November 07, 2007, 07:15:02 AM »
GOOD FOR YOU, Sun. You have to protect yourself. I haven't been following much lately - are you making plans to move? It sounds like you really need to - for your safety.
Love, Beth
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Re: Well, my NH is in jail for the night......
« Reply #5 on: November 07, 2007, 07:41:33 AM »
BRAVO, Sunny!
I am so proud of you I could float.

Yes, be safe and take any precautions necessary.
As to the kin and flock and family and church, keep an eye on your boundaries there too, okay?

You do not owe ANYONE an explanation.
It is perfectly acceptable to reply:
"It's painful to discuss this, it's really a private matter. But I really appreciate your caring." Full stop.

Just in case you need a reminder. I think we survivors-of-Ns often forget that we don't have to spill our guts or explain ourselves or justify our actions or defend ourselves verbally or respond to questions from people who may not have our backs. We don't have to jusify SQUAT.

You have children. You have yourself. That's all the reason you need.

So so proud of you for doing what was fair and right and reasonable.

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Re: Well, my NH is in jail for the night......
« Reply #6 on: November 07, 2007, 08:34:42 AM »


((( Sunny )))

Well done for making a good stand of what is right and reasonable in any universal court of law.

If I were you then I would personally save a copy of that website onto PC ........ which is actually what I did do.

Have sent you a PM with details of how to Save that website as it may not be wise for your wellbeing if I post it on this thread.

Love to you.

Leah
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Re: Well, my NH is in jail for the night......
« Reply #7 on: November 07, 2007, 10:17:29 AM »
Good for you Sunny!  Kudos on your brave and necessary steps!
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Re: Well, my NH is in jail for the night......
« Reply #8 on: November 07, 2007, 11:32:53 AM »
Oh Sunny-

I am so in awe of you and your strength and moxie!!!! Please continue to do everything you can to protect yourself, especially now. I  know this is a tough and perilous passage, but you are the captain of your own ship now, and I see you coming through just beautifully. ((((((((Sunny and her babies)))))))

In Love and Support,

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Re: Well, my NH is in jail for the night......
« Reply #9 on: November 07, 2007, 02:03:28 PM »
WTG , Sunny

It warms the cockles of my heart to 'see' an N in the hoosegow!

Wish we all had that opportunity.

Love
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Re: Well, my NH is in jail for the night......
« Reply #10 on: November 07, 2007, 02:05:51 PM »
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Re: Well, my NH is in jail for the night......
« Reply #11 on: November 07, 2007, 07:49:36 PM »
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Well, my NH is in jail for the night...... 


Hope his cellmate was one of the hillbillies in Deliverance.

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Re: Well, my NH is in jail for the night......
« Reply #12 on: November 08, 2007, 05:54:43 AM »
Mud,

You have such a gift for short, to-the-point sentiments!

So nice to see your smiling face signature... :D

Love
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Re: Well, my NH is in jail for the night......
« Reply #13 on: November 08, 2007, 07:02:15 AM »
Way to go!  I bet you are psyched!  Careful and watch your back!
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Re: Well, my NH is in jail for the night......
« Reply #14 on: November 08, 2007, 01:30:33 PM »

HE IS STILL IN THERE!! 

I gotta find out what is up, but I do know that he is in there with NO BAIL!!   But we all got some decent sleep last night and the kids are in school since he is still "in there"!

Why do I still feel bad for him?  In a weird way.  But then again, he tried to have me arrested twice already and I spent a week in shelter which was safe but not very fantastic either, especially for the kids!

He still maintains I am crazy.  He thinks the woman (my friend---and his old friends wife) he was using to send threats to me that night is responsible for telling me what to do.  Still he thinks I don't have a mind of my own. 

Idiot sent me 20+ emails, 17 texts to the kids, and called their cell phones several times each.  And then sent a link to his MYSpace page to his oldest daughter by text!!  In his page, he is slamming me, calling me crazy, saying I stole the kids, the whole nine yards.  Not stuff children should see, especially right now.  Then threatened to come after me in court with all he had to get HIS kids and blah blah blah.  He has 3 counts of misdemeanors or some dang thing.  I have been too busy with surviving to look it up online, but have avoided it since I know the full impact will hit when I see it in writing what he is going through.  I hope he will think hard about something other than killing me, but my hopes are not too high since I have known him for far too long. 

People other than me have now witness his mood swings and understand and tell me I should get an award for putting up with him and they have only had a taste of it.  I don't say that to toot my horn, but the validation is priceless! 

Gotta run---(not literally--ha ha!)

Sunny

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