Well, my NH is in jail for the night......

[isittoolate]

Great to hear all going so well, sunny

and same for you changing.

If it weren't so serious, it sounds like it could be made into a movie, comedy of course.

Hang in there both of you, and I ,too, am dazzled by such proceedings, never having had to experience them.

Love
Izzy

[lighter]

How's it going, Sun?

[Leah]

Thinking of you (((( Sunny ))))

Trusting that all is well, with you, and your precious children.

Love, Leah

[DivineSunshine]

All is well for once in quite some time!

Dumdum (NH) is finally silent for the last few days----what a treat!  Apparently all of his huffing and puffing about being wrongfully jailed is only that.  Bottom line---he knows I have the rights no matter how much he likes to claim otherwise. Was threatening to sue me. 

He brought a statement to court last week at the last minute from him and his mommy to try to claim I lied to get the PO in the first place trying (by lying) to make me look bad, and in doing so he admitted all of it---shoving me down repeatedly, running through the house with a gun, and hitting me down when I restrained him from chasing after the kids in anger......BUT his defense IS.....it was all my fault! 

He only got the gun out and threatened to take his own life "to get his point across"
And when he threw me around?  Well, he was simply "worried" about me!
The kids?  Well, they should not have done what they did---so he got mad! 

All justified!   Total N behavior!

I don't check his stupid MySpace page but I hear it is pathetic!  Anyone want the address?  Ha ha!  Man I would love to have him "flamed" ----is that the right word?  Don't think it legally wise though.

He apparently is calling his best friend a "mole" for me.  This time he thinks he is James Bond or something.

Oh and he is becoming ultra religious, even attending our congregation for our area and telling everyone (my neighbors) I never allowed him to go to church and how evil and lost I am ruining his children.  My kids are disgusted and end up defending me to their friends----like they need that extra stress!  He does not care though.  He is trying to have neighbors work extra hard to "activate" them. They just roll their eyes.

I know I just gotta move, but  I can't just yet---the kids are sick of it all too BUT----we have ALL had some peace for a few days and it has been well worth the fight!  I know it is far from the end of this battle, but I am glad for the break----even if I did have to jail him and risk being called a @&€%¥@ for doing it!

Court again Tuesday.....wish me strength to stand my ground---eh?  So var so good, but every little bit helps!

Love you guys!

Sunny

[changing]

Dear Sunshine-

I am so glad to see your post. Sorry that your husband is continuing his war- please keep safe and vigilant. My NH lied to the court about me as well, and as a result, was admonished. Still, he seems as arrogant as ever. With these Ns, we just have to keep focused on our agendas, and not get sidetracked . I hope your court date is for something good, like getting temporary support, etc., stipulations that your mortgage and car payments will be made, etc. I will be praying for you - stay strong and happy.

Love to You and Your Little Ones-

Changing

[Hopalong]

Hi Sunny,
You are a tiger. I'm so impressed and I know you are drawing strength from all six kids and from every stupid move he makes.

Remember...nothing he says about you means anything.

Delightful that he displayed his own bad behavior in his court document.

I'd be happy to look at his MySpace page if you want to PM me the link. I won't write on it, but I'm curious. (And if that's a tacky motive...then ignore me.)

love and courage for Tuesday,
Hops

[lighter]

So glad you're getting some peaceful days in, Sun.

That sounds like a lot of court..... what's being accomplished?

I'd like to take a look at his MySpace page also.  PM it to me, if you don't mind, please.  I won't write anything either but, I just gotta see.

Some things are so unfair....... raising 6 children alone, with a troll trying to undermine and sabotage you the whole way..... that's up there, on the list.

Has the Judge ordered him to pay anything yet?

He's going to end up jailed, yet again, if he doesn't go back to work and make payments on the house, car and family expenses.   

What did his attorney say about his statement (admitting everything you're alleging about H's behavior?)

(((sun))) 

[Leah]

Oh and he is becoming ultra religious, even attending our congregation for our area and telling everyone (my neighbors) I never allowed him to go to church and how evil and lost I am

((((( Sunny )))))

Mine did that also.  He told them that I had 'gone off and left him' .... so they had certain assumptions, that he decided to build on for his purpose.
That episode put me off going to any church for a period of time, for the sheer hypocrisy.  (he wouldn't allow us to go to the particular church previously!)

Here especially, when a woman gets taken into a safe house, quietly done, unknowledgeable people assume that they have run off with someone!  BUT the truth will out and eventually all becomes discernable --- which is sooner in your N's case by his behaviour.

Your lawyer will be keeping tabs on his myspace, and wisely, you don't want to invalidate in any way that valuable piece of work as evidence. 

Great to hear you so strong and assertive --- you and your children are going to do well in your new lives ahead. Just know it.

Much Love,

Leah

[Ami]

(((((((((((((((Sunny))))))))))))))))))              Love   Ami

[DivineSunshine]

Ohhh, Tuesdays court is the 4th time I have had to face him and his games simply because he is claiming I "mislead" the court on my statements of  my original Protective  Order over a month ago.  He has been dragging it out by not showing with attorney, saying he won't show and then does, saying he is not ready yet since I had him (wrongly) jailed, and now he has submitted last minute false statements to which I have had to have time to refute. 

The kids are very annoyed that I have to keep going to court for this stupid thing.   

But like I said, he admitted to pulling out a gun in the house in his statements, the attorney seems to think that is enough to have the order extended and the nonsense to stop for a while.   

He and his mommy are irate my attorney "spoke for me" and denied him access to his kids again since the judge said the PO would be in place but they could ASK to see the kids during the week, but hell...he is violent, suicidal, and lying and manipulative, and I am expected to grant him easy access to the minds and hearts of these innocent children? I allowed it for tooo long as it stands!! 

 And not only him now, but his mother is in on it too???    The kids themselves have told me they are scared, and worried about seeing him and his family right now because of the mind games and for a long time to come.  I will have to do what I can to help them.    He never asks how they feel, he just asserts he is ENTITLED and he has RIGHTS!!!

BS!!!!!   ---I will fight him----I don't care what they all call me.  His family anyway......

Sunny

[isittoolate]

((((((DS))))))

What a horror story you are living!
I tried to imagine being cuffed and hauled away right now when I am 'innocent' and it is beyond belief. It is betrayal to the nth degree.

And he continues with a gun and chasing .......

How are your children taking this?

You sound as though you are in control of you, as you are on the right side. 'Right is Might'!

Hurrah!!!!!!! for you
Love
Izzy

[changing]

Hi Sunshine-

You are a marvel! A stellar mom and a fighter! Now you have to fight back both DUM DUM and DUM MUM. But you are doing very well indeed. As for what they call you- who cares what the DUM DUM family thinks!!!
As to the visitation, have the children expressed their preference to the court that they remain safely away from him? MUM DUM has no visitation rights in my state, most likely not in yours either (your lawyer will know.) Don't give her or the DUM DUM family anything that she/the family is not entitled to according to a court order. Do not violate any court orders though (I know that you know this).
I will be praying for your family's peace and security, and for you to continue to have the wisdom to prevail against NH DUM DUM and his mommy Dum. You are on the right, as Izzy says.

Love and Prayers,

Chnaging

[lighter]

Ummmm... Sun:

What was the outcome.... the PO still stands and there's not going to be any visitation with the children, right?

The gun incident, and his admitting to the allegation, should very definately be enough to prove he's not rational or stable enough to be trusted with children.  Suicidal, raving and it's none of it their fault.....  usually don't bode well for litigants in this State Especially if there's a loaded weapon involved. 

WHERE ARE ALL THE GUNS NOW?

About his mother..... he's been feeding her bs about you for years.  He's been telling tales and she doesn't want your 'tales' to be true, so......  She believes him bc what would it say about her widdle puddin..... about herself..... if he's a lying sack of puppy chow?


Maybe this is CB's social denial at work?  I'm guessing it is. 

When do you go back and can your attorney stick something IMPORTANT on that next hearing?  Like temp support?

[lighter]

Alleging FRAUD!?!?!?

::sigh:: for some reason I thought you were done and through all this, CB.

Fraud?

What the heck does that mean and what's he want by alleging that?

Sorry CB.

[changing]

CB- I am so sorry. What a vicious N thing to do, not signing divorce papers for some phoney trumped up mess...You WILL get through this. One last futile N stab at control won't keep you down. And your youngest really loves and values you and the sibs. It will work out. Keep strong my Dear- you are close to the finsih line- Finish Strong!!! The sweet fruits of victory await!!

Love and Thumbs Up,

Changing