Dear Laura,
The relief and support in receiving the validation from the counsellor must feel wonderful.
Truly, I am so very happy for you that your H was and is willing to go along with you to marriage counselling, and with sincerity, will pray that God works a mighty miracle in your marriage.
Sadly, my H would refused to go to marriage counselling. And he would not consider counselling for himself alone. If he had then things may well have been different, however, he turned physical against me in the end and so after 29 years of marriage the heartbreaking decision to end the marriage was made despite my hearts desire of keeping my marriage vows as a loyal wife, a good thing, of "till death do us part" Twice I stopped the divorce proceedings for fear of doing wrong, against God. Mercifully, God used a pastor and his wife to show me the 3 areas in scripture regarding marriage vows and covenant, that my then H had broken his covenant vows of marriage and that God would not punish me for ending my marriage. Though I had that knowledge and truth, it still remained a heart wrenching process to end the marriage. He had no desire to seek counsel and it was not within my power to change his will.
Regarding your H, it certainly is good news that he has responded to seeking counsel and that in itself is most hopeful. The process may be slow going, but my hope and prayers for you Laura is that your H will 'hear' and 'see' the changes that need to be made, for both of you and for your children.
Much love,
Leah