Amends

[Ami]

Then STOP giving them!

[Gabben]

hey lighter,

I didn't say you were holding out.  So are you? 

If so, I've also found (not saying you should to) only because my therapist suggested this, that if you want something, the best way to get it is to ask.  I used to wish for mind reading, but alas, humans haven't evolved that far yet.  darn



bean

Hi Bean,

Have you ever seen that bumper sticker that says:

"I used to have mind reading powers but my therapist took them away from me."

?

Lise

[reallyME]

Ok now, those of you that understand the signs of covert abuse, would this NOT be considered COVERT abuse of Ami?

__________.... respectfully.... every suggestion I ever made to ______, died a terrible death in private convos with her.

I am leaving out the names so I'm not accused of pointing a finger at anyone directly, but I want all to look at this and examine it very closely.

The person who posted it, has a wondrous sense of humor, however, at times humor can be used to JAB at people.  I am not refuting that this person had problems getting their message across to the other member of the board, but please look:

first, "respectfully" implies that you are going to be RESPECTFUL, which is debateable after reading what came next.

Next, was it not covertly implying a problem you had with another member yet in PUBLIC?  Is THIS not a wrong way to treat people on this board?

Would it not be the same as if I said "Lovingly I say this...maryjo came over to my house and was a real pain in my #@$_&*#@&!" 

Again, can ya feeeeeeeeeeeeeeeel the love in the air...UGH

[Ami]

Laura
  You seemed to have had a deep healing. Your "spirit" seems so much happier . Tell me about it.                        Ami

[reallyME]

Honestly Ami, I think it's the recent marriage weekend I went on with my husband.  It seems like when your immediate family is working well, other things are so minor in comparison.

I still feel frustrated at times about things, but I'm able to communicate them in a better way to my husband and others.  I think when you are doing better too, you tend to notice fault around you more, so it's a challenge to not want to "fix" but I'm making it!

YAY

~Laura

[Ami]

Laura
  I have 'known" you for a year and a half. You seem like a totally different person--more confident and joyful. You seem very joyful and centered. I am so happy to see that.
 You credit the marraige weekend. ?

[reallyME]

Good answer, bean

[lighter]

Even more preposterous is the idea that others can influence us that much.  The evil Ami is plotting against lighter, and has brainwashed Lise....


right

::slapping forehead and wishing I could point to the thread the Doc locked::

[Leah]

Even more preposterous is the idea that others can influence us that much

Patricia Evans has written much about that subject, Bean

Leah


Someone has kindly taken much time and effort to post the entire back cover of Patricia Evans superb book (life tool) on

your 'backwards connections' thread, Bean

Wonderful stuff!  Thank you for starting that thread. 



http://www.voicelessness.com/disc3//index.php?topic=6381.0

[lighter]

Bean....

::dropping head::

Never mind.


ps... did you read Janet's thread on clearing things up?

[lighter]

lighter,

yes I read the whole thread as it unfolded.  I'm sorry, but I still don't see what you've implied.

bean

I didn't imply anything. 

The thread had information, you and Laura drew similar conclusions... I'm going for more ice.

[reallyME]

excuse me too?  gonna guess on what she means here, Bean...

If I'm hearing you correctly, Lighter, you saying that Bean and I agreed that you were making a JAB at Ami, because of what you said about "every suggestion I ever made to Lise, died a terrible death in Ami's PM box."

Now that I re-read it, I'm thinking you meant that when you gave Lise suggestions, Lise then privately consulted Ami about it and Lise decided not to take your suggestions?  Correct?  If so, it still seems like a covert humourous "dig" at both Lise and Ami.  maybe?  AND, I can't speak for my friend, Bean, but I'll let her handle her response from here if she so chooses.

Please though, I know you are a funny person, Lighter, it's just maybe not a good thing to poke fun at individuals or what they do? ya think?

~Laura

[Gabben]

Hi Ami -- I ate a banana for breakfast. Normally, I don't eat bananas, could it have been the power of suggestion?

Lise