I've been wondering, pondering (I know, uh ohhhhh)
When we ask someone something and are expecting a favorable answer, do we not phrase our question so as to MANIPULATE the person's favorable response?
When we post on this board, do we not manipulate to get people to see our side? Even by just saying what we do, someone will feel lightly urged to see things our way
At least that's how I see it.
I think LIFE is manipulative. I KNOW sales jobs ARE. I SEE that children ARE. N's and BPD's definitely ARE.
Am I? Well, when I say "I don't mind private messages, bring em on!" doesn't that seem like I want to manipulate people into sending me private messages so i can have attention? Probably so.
If I say "Go ahead and TRY ME" I'm egging people on to come at me.
If I say "I don't give a rip" that's manipulating people by making me appear so strong and noncommital
See what i mean? Don't we ALL manipulate in some way even when we're just communicating?
Just a thought and by the way, I LOVE pms so bring em on!

Cheers,
Laura