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Re: horrible headlines
« Reply #15 on: January 11, 2008, 12:51:11 PM »
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The question that is being asked is how is it possible for four children to disappear for weeks without SOMEONE noticing...neighbors, playmates knocking on the door, etc.

And THIS confirms exactly what I was talking with Leah about on another thread.  If you SEE or KNOW abuse is going on , REPORT IT!  Don't just sit there, assuming "someone else" is going to or is.

How can this happen?  Because of people who don't want to get involved and want to keep their noses clean, even right in their own family. STOP THAT AND REPORT IT, PLEASE, so another child/adult/elderly person isn't found dead because of people doing NOTHING.

my plea to anyone!

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« Reply #16 on: January 11, 2008, 01:00:58 PM »
As it turns out, the mayor found evidence that this case had been reported to social services more than once, while these kids were still alive, and THEY DROPPED THE BALL MORE THAN ONCE!  Sounds like some heads are going to be pink-slipped out the door!

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Re: horrible headlines
« Reply #17 on: January 11, 2008, 01:15:40 PM »
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The question that is being asked is how is it possible for four children to disappear for weeks without SOMEONE noticing...neighbors, playmates knocking on the door, etc.

And THIS confirms exactly what I was talking with Leah about on another thread.  If you SEE or KNOW abuse is going on , REPORT IT!  Don't just sit there, assuming "someone else" is going to or is.

How can this happen?  Because of people who don't want to get involved and want to keep their noses clean, even right in their own family. STOP THAT AND REPORT IT, PLEASE, so another child/adult/elderly person isn't found dead because of people doing NOTHING.

my plea to anyone!


I didn't discuss this on the other thread   :shock:   

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Re: horrible headlines
« Reply #18 on: January 11, 2008, 02:08:26 PM »
oh oops, Leah, I'm sorry, it was someone else I discussed it with then...maybe Lighter?  I can't remember now.  sigh

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Re: horrible headlines
« Reply #19 on: January 11, 2008, 02:16:05 PM »
no problem, Laura, as all is well.   :)           oops, did not check my typing (again!)   :)
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Re: horrible headlines
« Reply #20 on: January 11, 2008, 06:32:25 PM »
The overt violence towards children is so awful, Hops. I share your outrage. Those headlines triggered me; reminding me of the way my mother used children as `weapons' to hurt her first husband. She din't toss us over a bridge to hurt him, but perhaps only because its illegal!!! 

He had three toddlers at the time of their divorce. She says he hated us and beat us up all the time, but he tells a different story (I'm inclined to believe his). In fact, what disturbs me now, knowing how N's project, I fear that my mother did a lot fo beating of her babies!! . I have no memory of that, but I remember her getting into a habit of it with one of my sisters, when she was 5. She would close her bedroom door each night, and beat and `hiss' at  her over and over. She would try to get her to read books too `old' for her, and when she failed, my mother allowed herself to beat my sister for many hours. My bed was in the next room, and i could hear it all.

Our mother made us call our real father `Mr Blurky'. We couldn't call him Dad, or by his real name. She violated visitation rights, but she would make us call him and tell him we didn't want to see him. Boy he was graceful about it. He never said a  bad word about her in that entire time, and he would only say `are you sure that what's You want?'

Its only in the last year that I learned of their court battle, instigated by him, to have visitation rights. He won, so my mother relocated the family to another state.

She didn't pass on gifts he had bought me. She told me he hated me and didn't want me. the story keeps changing as the years go by, but the one fact that becomes clearer each year is that he wanted his children VERY badly, and she used us to hurt him.

Hops, the really cruel headlines do not surprise me, considering what happens in divorced families.

but they do make me feel very grateful to be alive!!!!

thanks for sharing:)




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Re: horrible headlines
« Reply #21 on: January 11, 2008, 07:47:17 PM »
Bella,

Your post brought back a fact in my own life.  When I was 3 and my dad blew off his visiting time that weekend (parents were divorced), after telling me how much fun he had planned this day, my heart was broken.

I didn't see my father from that moment, while i was left on the porch sobbing and arguing with my mother that "DADDY WILL COME GET ME! HE PROMISED!"  until years later when he was waiting for me at a bus stop and i didn't even recognize him.

He told me that my mother never gave me all the letters and cards he sent me.  my mother says it's a lie:

To this day, I don't know what to believe.

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« Reply #22 on: January 11, 2008, 07:59:18 PM »
Hugs Laura, I really understand what thats like....not knowing who believe, and wondering if you wanted?  I'm 38 now, and I still have so much  resistance to belieivng my father, as I was heavily indocrinated. Its softened a lot over the last year, because I've let myself spend time with him, and really hear him.

But holy cow, I think that was so awful a memory to have, being abandoned on the porch like that. No doubt his beahviour was reflection his `war' with his ex wife, and not a reflecton on you. I think parents at war forget their kids are not objects.

I am s sorry youe xperienced that abandonment, laura. Thanks for sharign that wit me too.

X bella


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Re: horrible headlines
« Reply #23 on: January 11, 2008, 08:26:41 PM »
Thanks Bella.

My dad was big time into his band stuff.  My mother tells me stories of how he'd scream at me as a toddler if I came in the room while he was listening to his records.  I can't remember that, but I do have little glimpses of other things. 

My father had some weird issues and still does.  He lives in a perpetual childhood, believing he will be the next Elvis at times.  Though the man can sing, he's old now and his big-band dream was nothing but a fantasy all these years.  I feel sad for him, but he also would let me go hungry rather than go to work back then, because his records and band meant the most...a real fixation.

My mom divorced him when I was about 3 or 4...long enough time for me to have some weird flashbacks from memories back then.

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Re: horrible headlines
« Reply #24 on: January 12, 2008, 01:44:35 AM »
My god, Bella.
That is devastating.
I am so sorry.

How could she.

Your sister...did she survive?

Was your mother ever diagnosed or treated?

I am stunned and so very sad for what your childhood was like.

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Re: horrible headlines
« Reply #25 on: January 12, 2008, 01:50:43 AM »
RM,

I am so sad your Dad wasn't there for you.

Hops
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« Reply #26 on: January 12, 2008, 02:17:16 AM »
Hops, I have always held you in the utmost esteem, because you have a real gift for lifting people up, using the wisest, most lyrical, and most caring of words. I really hope some day I can listen like you do, and write like you do.  I just wanted you to know that  I am so grateful that you exist:)

Yeah, my childhood was weird but I really do see a lot of upsides. Its hard to explain, but I have the gift of gratitude. I appreciate little things. A smile. A kindness. People have meaning to me, and I love all the little things they do that are thoughtful or kind. You know, my partner told me this week that I have incredible charm? i didn't know that. Noone ever said it before. If its true, its only because I am grateful... For everything people give me that isn't abuse. 

Laura, I have known so many male peers like your father, and i wondered what it would be like for their children? I can respect artistic careers, and that theres not a lot of money in it. But you'd think with all taht spare time, he'd have been a better father? I am really sorry that he was so unavailable for you.

X bella





 

 

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Re: horrible headlines
« Reply #27 on: January 25, 2008, 06:48:15 PM »
A stupid idiot imbecil "because he fought with his stupid girlfriend", he put his two little poppies in the car an burn them. I am very sorry for those inocent dogs in the hands of that retarded idiot.