a hermit?

[Certain Hope]

Lupita,

I think that you can make choices right now... whether or not you want to spend this night agonizing about what may happen on Monday. For myself, I choose not to agonize about Monday, or Sunday, or Saturday, or even 3 hours from now.

Where does that leave us?  With right now, this minute.

How could this very moment, this minute, be better?

Love to you,
Carolyn

[Lupita]

Because you know that your husband has income, you can have peace, it is the two of you. If you lose your job, there is him. I am alone. If I lose my job........................... I dont even want to think about it. You are right.

I am going to have a drink and go to bed.

[Certain Hope]

Lupita,

You don't know my circumstances... and I don't have a sugar daddy.    For someone only slightly above the poverty level, I do alright... and that is only by God's grace.
I think, sincerely, and in all love and the spirit of gentleness, that this is a Friday night blow-out thing with you...
and that's okay...  I can relate...
just maybe if you're aware of your own patterns, and if I'm aware of mine, they can be tempered somewhat... and balanced.

Love,
Carolyn

[Lupita]

Friday night blow-out thing with you



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I am going to check my other posts of Fridays.

[Hermes]

Rest well, Lupita.  I can understand your feelings of unease.  I have been there.  I can remember thinking I would be joining the dole queue, LOL.  I didn't happen.  It won't happen.  

I remember a psychiatrist friend of mine saying to me, back then in those bad times:  "Don't futurise, Hermes".  You know it was the best advice I ever had.  We don't even know what is going to happen tomorrow, less so control it.

Abrazos
Hermes

[Lupita]

I guess I touched a sensible fiber of you and you did one of mine. That is OK.

How many years did you stay single before you re-married? Just curious.

[Lupita]

Hi Hermes, in cognitive therapy, it is called fortune telling and mind reading. Yes, I do a lot of that. So, what do you do for a living?

[Certain Hope]

Friday night blow-out thing with you



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I am going to check my other posts of Fridays.

okay... wow, that sure is alot of question marks. I only gave you my own sense of what happens, Lupita... I may be wrong... but feels like a pressure cooker blowing out steam from its little cap...  or maybe that's my own feeling and I'm imposing it on you. If so, I may have to ask you permission to apologize...  

[Lupita]

Why do you apologize? I am not apologizing because I told you you can rest knowing you have a husband. And it obviously bothered you. It is like in reality, your husband dont give you too much of a peace? or I heard you say good things about your husband. So, that must be reassuring to have him, why did that made you feel invalidated?

[Lupita]

If you dont want to engage, it is OK too. I was willing to stay awake for you. But it is OK. Maybe God is protecting me from something.

God bless you anyway.

[Certain Hope]

Why do you apologize? I am not apologizing because I told you you can rest knowing you have a husband. And it obviously bothered you. It is like in reality, your husband dont give you too much of a peace? or I heard you say good things about your husband. So, that must be reassuring to have him, why did that made you feel invalidated?

Lupita, I didn't feel invalidated by you... just unknown. There is a difference, I think.

My husband is not a "bad" person and I can say many good things about him. I can also truthfully say that being with him has turned my mind inside out and my life upside down. No, my husband does not give me too much of a peace. God gives me peace, as I'm willing to receive that peace from Him.

You see, my husband is a very... busy-minded, easily distracted, self-absorbed person in many ways. Maybe attention-deficit or manic, I don't know... but many of his ways have been quite extremely distressing to me and required a great deal of prayer and adjustment on my part.
So it strikes me as ironic to think of his being here as bringing me peace in the way you suggested... because it's been just the opposite, in so many ways. It would take me many, many words to try to put all of this into balance so that it doesn't sound like I'm sorry to be in my situation... but all I have is my certain confidence that God brought my husband and me together for His reasons and so I rest in that.

[Certain Hope]

If you dont want to engage, it is OK too. I was willing to stay awake for you. But it is OK. Maybe God is protecting me from something.

God bless you anyway.

I say the same to you, dear Lupita... don't stay awake if you're ready for sleep! I am not upset or aggravated at all with you, only trying to be direct.  God bless you, too.

[Hermes]

LOL Lupita.  

I am actually quite good at mind reading, and even at fortune-telling.  Nothing supernatural about it.  Just a combination of experience and intuition, and instinct.  And, yes, sometimes I do get premonitions, and they turn out to be correct.  

Hermes

[Certain Hope]

Oops, I think I've misunderstood something here, Lupita...  wasn't sure which of your posts was addressed to whom.

Anyhow, all is well and I hope you'll have a restful night.

Carolyn

[Lupita]

So, how long did you stay married before you re-married?

I do believe that when it is God's will you feel peace. If you do not have peace, it is not God's will. But, God has his plans and human have plans too. Many times we do not follwo God's will.

I do not beleave that a husband who causes you distress is the will of God.

Is he a Chrsitian? Does he go to church?

The bible says that believers should not married the non believers. If we do that we get in deep trouble, because the non believer is going to bring the pleasure of the flesh (not meaning sex) and the pleasure of the flesh will bring pain of the flesh (not meaning STDs) but the pain of a person who doe snot have fear of god brings to our lives.

Proverbs 1 vers 7 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge and foolish dispise ...........

So, I tell my students, when you look for a boyfriend, the first thing you have to clear is if he has fear or god and if he does not let him or her GOOOOOOOOOO. But what happens, church is full of women, and very few good Chrsitians are available, and with being so picky, ...... you know the rest.

I have been alone for 17 years and I will not enage in a relationship unless I find a devoted Chrsitian, around my age, available..... in extintion species.

So, I deviated from the subject......... so, I do not believe that a distressful husband is the will or god.

Of course maybe he is a good believer and I am jumping in to conclussions, then I will apologize for that.