Our Common Purpose

[gratitude28]

Here are my ideas (in a nutshell). Please add any you think are important.

-Grow as an individual, apart from the N(s) in our life.
-Deal with life on life's terms.
-Create healthy relationships with good people.
-Teach our children (if we have them) to be self-sufficient, happy people with good self-esteem.
-Learn how we can avoid past errors.
-Learn what is good and useful in our lives.
-Cast out negative tapes, low self-esteem.
-Help others on their journeys.

Love, Beth

[Leah]

Dear Beth,

Is this, your thread in response to my question on the other thread "Hermes"

as someone posted that we all are disordered people on this board posting !!! --- which startled, shocked even, me personally.

Thanks,

Love, Leah

[Leah]

 
Dear Beth,  I have copied and pasted my question from the other thread.  Leah x

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Not saying it's easy, just suggesting that staying aware of the fact that it is a board for disordered people to express themselves is wise.

What startled me, yesterday, or the day before, was the above statement on a thread post. 

I would feel reassured to know exactly what is the Purpose of VESMB    ~    and for Whom exactly is the board for ? 



>   Voicelessness

>   Emotional Survival

I may have it wrong, but personally, Voicelessness means to me, that I was voiceless as in never being able to Voice the injuries incurred.  No-one to share with as no-one understands the reasons why.

I would sincerely value any feedback.

Grateful thanks, Leah x


PS >   Leaving definitions and conficts and triggers ASIDE from the question.

[gratitude28]

Yes, Leah, I think it would be reat for people to chime in and state our common desires for the board in a clear fashion!!
Love, Beth

[Leah]

Here are my ideas (in a nutshell). Please add any you think are important.

-Grow as an individual, apart from the N(s) in our life.
-Deal with life on life's terms.
-Create healthy relationships with good people.
-Teach our children (if we have them) to be self-sufficient, happy people with good self-esteem.
-Learn how we can avoid past errors.
-Learn what is good and useful in our lives.
-Cast out negative tapes, low self-esteem.
-Help others on their journeys.

Love, Beth

Dear Beth,

I resonate and agree with full accord, as your listing was my understanding and reasons, when I joined the board, and remain my understanding and reason for being present here on the board.   

Just remembered, we had a thread on "reasons why I am on board" (or words to that effect) a month or so ago.

And this recent statement was not posted then

that we are all disordered people on the board posting

as I recall.

Love, Leah x

[Leah]

>  Reciprocal journey of healing, recovery, restoration and growth.
>  Excavating one's authentic self with freedom
>  Supporting another with openness, sincerity and honesty, likewise.
>  Serenity to accept that we cannot bring change and to accept.
>  Acceptance
>  Freedom to stand aside from one's feelings, thoughts and emotions

>  Freedom to Walk Away from the Table
>  Freedom to Forgive and Forget
>  Freedom to Let it go

>  To be able to say "No"  "that's not okay"
>  To be able to ask "Why?"

>  To BE authentic, as oneself, a unique individual human being
>  Work out one's journey as an integral whole person (human being)

>  Instead of Assumption and Presumption -- ask questions / seek clarification
>  Hear what the person is saying
>  Give support and understaning with kind consideration
>  Step into the other person's shoes for a moment of thought before responding

>  Reciprocal kindness, genuine, consideration for another

>  Seek, search, research, evaluate, ask questions, and grow in learning and enlightenment
>  Express a sense of humor and inner joy

Leah x


It's a Wonderful Life out there!   Worth living with fullness of inner joy and contentment -- to simply, BE !   

[Hopalong]

--letting go of gripes and grievances
--learning to let go
--taking ourselves less seriously
--voicing pain and pleasure
--holding silences
--forgiving
--learning to stop repetition compulsion
--accepting loving criticism
--offering same
--sharing goofy pet stories

Hi Henry!

xo
Hops

[gratitude28]

I LOVE these ideas!!!!!
Especially anything to do with Bad Ol' Henry!!!

-Lessening the impact of the N on our life (if still a part of our life).
-Letting go of guilt imposed by the N.
-Being comfortable with ourselves as we are.
-Making sure we are giving love to those around us who deserve it, instead of using that energy to combat the N.
-Reveling in the snoring of our aminals (OK,, maybe that one is particular to my household).
-Reducing the amount os assuming we do in daily life (this is a big one for me - I am always assigning emotions to people FOR them out of my fears).

Thanks all for keeping this going.
Love, Beth

[DailyMail]

- to not feel alone in my experience

(other than that I have no agenda, no goal)

if I or anyone else grows, learns how to deal with conflict, or builds self-esteem then thats all incredibly valuable gravy for the meat

[Overcomer]

* to be heard
* to be understood
* to be accepted for who you are
* to not be judged
* to get a hug
* to give good advice
* to ask good questions
* to not assume anything without further clarification
* to be kind
* to be there for others
* to accept people being there for you
* to not be defensive
* to accept constructive criticism

[Certain Hope]

((((((((((Beth)))))))))) This is an awesome thread. Been sitting here just studying your original post and I already feel refreshed!

Thank you for this breath of fresh air.

With love,
Carolyn

[axa]

Beth,

Great post.

To give back some of care I have received

To continue to receive what supports me

To hear voices which challenge me with respect

To be reminded of the gift of being Nfree

To be part of a generous and holding community

To be heard

To value my silence

To laugh out loud


axa