May I share, from my own life experience, and also, from a few other people, who have affirmed my thinking here in REAL life.
When an innocent "Injured" party has lived a childhood, then an adult life, of emotional torture and torment, by one's own birth mother:
Trying to talk about one's experience and explain to someone who lacks an awareness and knowledge of someone with a personality disorder is fruitless:
Worse still a label is then inevitably, automatically, applied as considered, as a natural progression to the child, out of sheer ignorance.
Labels by lay people, untrained, unqualified, are disrespectful and disregarding, to the integrity of a person, as a whole human being.
Labels hurt, labels harm, for they deter healthy healing and recovery. Labels therefore, are destructive.
Labels are usually based on Assumptions and Presumptions -- from unqualified people.
This is my own personal view, from my own personal life journey experience, and discussions with people in REAL life.
Sincerely, Leah