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papillon

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A puppy story
« on: February 26, 2008, 06:30:14 AM »
I have a new puppy called Goldie. She's a gorgeous 8 month a Groodle. For those who don't know, that's a cross between a golden retriever and a poodle. She's from an animal rescue org who give me mistreated/abandoned pups from death row. There's only a limited time for 'reframing' them or else they end up being put down.

My job now is to reframe her perceptions, socialize her and try to help her overcome her past traumas. Hopefully she'll adapt and become socially acceptable. Because Goldie's obviously been badly abused she's exhibiting very clear agressive, paranoid, depresssed and anti-social tendencies.

For example, whenever I move suddenly she becomes either terrified and cowering or aggressive, projecting onto me her former experiences from her former owners. The clothes blowing in the breeze on the line drive her crazy. Loud voices send her into a (literal) tail-spin. She completely cowers and shakes and wees herself at a kind hand. She snaps food from my hand and growls if I look to take it away.

When I walk her she often has to be dragged, she's so afraid of open spaces. She either cowers or wants to fight when she sees other dogs. If they're bigger she cowers, if they're smaller she bullies. She loves playing with children, but only on her terms. Goldie has a story too. She tells me all about her past by the way she interracts with me and others, and especially by the way she reacts to me, my tones and my movements.

My role is to give her a home, patience, consistency, understanding, love, and of course I have to challenge her thinking. My other role is to introduce her to as many experiences as possible in as safe and a fun environment as possible and to help her re-experience what frightened her, but in a new/opposite context. Once I've done my job (fingers crossed) she'll still probably be a bit neurotic and quirky, but at the same time very lovable and understandable. She's already lovable, just extremely neurotic, which is very time consuming.

And because she can't, I'll have the opportunity to explain to her new owners (fingers crossed again) what I think she must have experienced in the past, and in what ways I think she needs to be shielded/contained/restrained in the future. I've had worse cases than Goldie and it's been worth every minute. I cry when they go and wish I could keep them all, but I can't, it becomes very expensive. I make more of a difference doing it this way, and also I'll admit, I love the challenge.


Thanks for reading about Goldie,

Papillon.

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Re: A puppy story
« Reply #1 on: February 26, 2008, 07:34:04 AM »
Papillon,
You are so sweet to rescue that poor puppy. And I believe she will do well once she starts to feel more secure. I have a bulldog, and he was terrified of everything as a puppy (just his nature). He feared bags of all sorts, insects and scores of other things. Of course, I did not have to surmount abuse to have him become more secure.
Give her love and more love and continue to socialize her as you are doing. And check out the Dog Whisperer. I swear the man is magic - and everything he says to do works.
I am sure you realize this, but your story can also be seen as a metaphor for all our lives here.
Thanks again for your story.
Love, Beth
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Re: A puppy story
« Reply #2 on: February 26, 2008, 09:15:32 AM »
Oh Papillion
  How beautiful that you rescued that dog. As Beth said, we all(I think) can relate to how afraid he is. I love Poodles. My Standard Poodle(13 years)just died. What fiece loyalty they have to their Masters.Thanks for all you do,Papilion !                         Love   Ami
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Re: A puppy story
« Reply #3 on: February 26, 2008, 10:47:40 AM »

Papillon, in a beautiful puppy story you told us a lot not only about you and Goldie, but also about ACN's perspectives, about hope if the cycle of abuse is broken.

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Re: A puppy story
« Reply #4 on: February 26, 2008, 04:41:55 PM »
Thankyou for your kind responses and insights HardToTrust, Ami and Gratitude2.

'about hope if the cycle of abuse is broken' HTT
'we all(I think) can relate to how afraid he is' Ami
'but your story can also be seen as a metaphor for all our lives here' G28


May I add some thoughts to yours?

Goldie and the others have helped me more than even I realise at times. It's quite the reciprocal relationship. Whenever I'm angered, afraid, projecting, reacting, growling, cowering, blaming, over-reacting or just feeling low and uncreative I re-frame and remind myself that I'm an adult now, I'm in control and I'm free if I choose to be. This is a new world I live in today. I challenge myself to re-frame whatever my problem or confusion or issue is. I've found I need only ask myself 2 questions. This is all I've found I need, and I'm usually able to go right there. I find it has become easier and easier.

I find if I bring other people into that conversation it takes too long to explain my 'SELF' and I need to wade through the issues that they have with my issues :shock:!

So I reference internally, have the conversation with 'SELF', resolve what I need to do, and then do it. I find it has become easier and easier for me to process these questions, and act on it quickly. My confidence in my ability to work things out in my life has grown as a result too. Obviously it's not a one hat fits all thing, but I can say wholeheartedly that it does work for me.

Question a) What is my true issue/confusion/unhappiness etc now/here?

and then the most important question in my life,

Question b) What am I going to do about it? 

No lengthy psycho- ananlysis anymore, and no constantly dragging the burdensome history I had no say in around with me everywhere I go. No more dirty digging either. Forever pulling weeds out of the garden of my past, which I never planted. Life's become far too short for that, and I have a lot to 'do' and 'be' before I get too old to enjoy them. I've been living this philosophy for quite a few years now and it works for me.

Thanks for reading

Papillon



 



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Re: A puppy story
« Reply #5 on: February 26, 2008, 04:52:26 PM »
Dear Papillon,

Love the choice of name!

Thank you so much for sharing your poignant puppy story.

And more importantly;

thank you for affirmation and validation of my heart's thought and desire, presently ...

No lengthy psycho- ananlysis anymore, and no constantly dragging the burdensome history I had no say in around with me everywhere I go. No more dirty digging either. Forever pulling weeds out of the garden of my past, which I never planted. Life's become far too short for that, and I have a lot to 'do' and 'be' before I get too old to enjoy them. I've been living this philosophy for quite a few years now and it works for me.

In the garden of my heart is grace with serenity, and inner joy, peace and deep contentment.  I quite like it that way and it's a wonderful life, of which I wish to enjoy, with purpose and deep inner joy, to simply, BE.

Grateful thanks,

Leah x
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Re: A puppy story
« Reply #6 on: February 26, 2008, 06:26:50 PM »
Thanks Leah,

'In the garden of my heart is grace with serenity, and inner joy, peace and deep contentment.  I quite like it that way and it's a wonderful life, of which I wish to enjoy, with purpose and deep inner joy, to simply, BE.'

That sounds like a nice world to 'BE' in, I hope you make your wish come true.



Papillon

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Re: A puppy story
« Reply #7 on: February 27, 2008, 10:53:41 AM »
Great advice, Papillon.

Everytime I read about Goldie's symptoms, I relate. ACNs are not that much different.

Is it possible to post or send a picture of Goldie?

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Re: A puppy story
« Reply #8 on: February 27, 2008, 11:45:14 AM »


May I add some thoughts to yours?

Goldie and the others have helped me more than even I realise at times. It's quite the reciprocal relationship. Whenever I'm angered, afraid, projecting, reacting, growling, cowering, blaming, over-reacting or just feeling low and uncreative I re-frame and remind myself that I'm an adult now, I'm in control and I'm free if I choose to be.



Oh, Papillon,
What beautiful and healing work you are doing with your animals and yourself.  I am presently sitting up in my bed, very ill, with my beloved dog and 2 cats surrounding me and comforting me, and loving me.  While I do not rescue animals as you do, I can so relate about what you wrote about how much our animals help while we are "helping them."  Bless you for your uplifting post!  Violet

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Re: A puppy story
« Reply #9 on: February 27, 2008, 03:04:09 PM »
Hi Violet and Hardtotrust,

Violent, I think it's totally rotten that you're in bed ill, but I'm happy to read that you have such loving company while you are ill, as in your dog and 2 cats. I do hope you'll be better soon. Sending you my strongest good health wishes.

Hardtotrust, yes, I relate to Goldie's issues too. I'll take a pic today or tomorrow and try and put it in this thread for you, so check back in a day or 2. And hey, thanks for the chat.


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Re: A puppy story
« Reply #10 on: February 27, 2008, 06:29:09 PM »
I think it's totally rotten that you're in bed ill, but I'm happy to read that you have such loving company while you are ill, as in your dog and 2 cats. I do hope you'll be better soon. Sending you my strongest good health wishes.

Papillon

 

Thanks!  Violet

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Re: A puppy story
« Reply #11 on: February 28, 2008, 04:20:55 AM »
Hi to all the dog lovers here.

Ami, I'm sorry. How sad it must have been for you to lose your standard poodle. I have a question for you about your standard poodle you just lost. Was he/she as great as they say they are? I've never had one. Probably because they're so expensive. I've heard and read amazing things about them, and especially in the field of working with narcolepsy sufferers. My understanding is because of their size, and particularly their jaws they're much more suitable than labradors for this role. They're supposed to be incredibly in-tune with humans emotions. They can sense a seizure coming on in their master and they'll stand, protect and even drag their master or phsically help at times of danger. I saw a video of one actually phsically supporting her master to stop her from falling off a seat when her master went to sleep at a bus stop. The dog wore a collar that informed people her master was a narcoleptic and to leaveg her alone. The dog wouldn't allow anyone to rob or interfere with her master. How fantastic. The woman, prior to getting her standard poodle companion had been too afraid to leave the house. With her dog she had found some freedom to do things she otherwise was too afraid to do. From everything I've heard the standards are just awesome and magnificent dogs. 

Gratitude28, I've heard of the horse whisperer but not the dog whisperer. I'll check it out, thanks. Bulldogs are just so cute and gorgeous aren't they? Is yours called Winston Churchill? I think all bulldogs should be called that name.


Hardtotrust, I've made a blog for Goldie at http://goldiethegroodle.blogspot.com/ for you to take a peek.

Thanks everyone for the discussion,
Papillon

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Re: A puppy story
« Reply #12 on: February 28, 2008, 10:11:52 AM »

They're supposed to be incredibly in-tune with humans emotions.

An ex-girlfriend and I had a mini toy poodle. It had much more empathy than almost all humans I have met. It was so strong, I sometimes felt guilty when I was down, because she would get sad as well. One day I was crying, she ran to me and tried to lick my tears. She died of cancer, maybe some connection...

Hardtotrust, I've made a blog for Goldie at http://goldiethegroodle.blogspot.com/ for you to take a peek.

Great!!! I just looked at it, but couldn't see any pictures. I guess it is this computer I am using. I will take a look later, at home.

Thank you very much!

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Re: A puppy story
« Reply #13 on: February 28, 2008, 08:47:41 PM »
Oh, I have seen the picture !!!

You gotta protect HER from ME. I want to bite her! She's lovely and reminds me of the animals at cuteoverload.

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Re: A puppy story
« Reply #14 on: February 29, 2008, 08:27:30 AM »
May I share one more puppy story? 
When I was 13, my family was given a beautiful white female German Shepherd.  Of all the children, I was the one who checked out books at the library and submerged myself into training the dog and spent all my free time with her.  I loved her more than anything in the world.  One day I came home from school, and my Nmom had given her away.  I think it took 30 years to get over that.  Not sure if I am over it yet.   Violet