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Re: so blue I'm purple
« Reply #15 on: April 09, 2008, 08:03:26 AM »
(((((((((Hops)))))))))  I'm thinking of you daily... and praying, too.

Feels like he's treating you in the way he'd really like to treat his (your) mother. At least that's how my brother did me, back when we were in the same universe.

It will end. In the meanwhile, I've not stopped rejoicing that you've changed the locks on your home.... because that's what it is and you deserve to have a sanctuary.

Love and more hugs,
Carolyn

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Re: so blue I'm purple
« Reply #16 on: April 10, 2008, 01:37:01 AM »
Thank you, loving friends...
I partly haven't posted because I feel guilty for not thanking all of you individually, ToWrite, CH, Beth, Izz, Lighter, Amber, GS, Kel, Flowerpower...and forgive me for one HAPPY EXPLOSION...

H&H??? For REAL?  :D  You had the baby! What a joy to hear from you!  :cry: :lol: (mix up those icons). Thank you for logging in to cheer me up. I can't wait to hear more about Jacob.

Everybody, I'm okay, just feel very very draggy and am postponing assembling all the documents for the lawyer. Part paperphobia (not really necessary, as things are in order) and part fear. I am so uneven with paperwork, what if my paper trail as Mom's home-accountant is full of errors I never noticed?? I think that's it.

But I've got to get to it.
I will keep you posted.

Not a peep from my brother since I changed the locks and emailed him that he couldn't stay.
Mom's pitiful, these days. I go every other evening.

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Hops
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Re: so blue I'm purple
« Reply #17 on: April 10, 2008, 09:07:38 AM »
Thinking of you, Hops!                            Sending Cyberspace 'strength" and peace,   Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

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Re: so blue I'm purple
« Reply #18 on: April 10, 2008, 03:43:46 PM »
H&H??? For REAL?  :D  You had the baby! What a joy to hear from you!  :cry: :lol: (mix up those icons). Thank you for logging in to cheer me up. I can't wait to hear more about Jacob.

Everybody, I'm okay, just feel very very draggy and am postponing assembling all the documents for the lawyer. Part paperphobia (not really necessary, as things are in order) and part fear. I am so uneven with paperwork, what if my paper trail as Mom's home-accountant is full of errors I never noticed?? I think that's it.

But I've got to get to it.
I will keep you posted.

Not a peep from my brother since I changed the locks and emailed him that he couldn't stay.
Mom's pitiful, these days. I go every other evening.

love
Hops

Yes for real, and I'm so sorry for not logging in for so long.... I know I've never felt so tired and there never seems to be enough hours in the day but it's getting better. 

Even if you've made errors with your Mum's paperwork, the lawyer will be able to put you on the right track.

I'm so glad you changed the locks and haven't heard a peep from your brother.  He can crawl back into his hole!

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Hoppy)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Love H&H xx
Here's a little hug for u
To make you smilie while ur feeling blue
To make u happy if you're sad
To let u know, life ain't so bad
Now I've given a hug to u
Somehow, I feel better too!
Hugs r better when u share
So pass one on & show u care

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Re: so blue I'm purple
« Reply #19 on: April 10, 2008, 09:41:49 PM »
(((((((((((hops)))))))))))))

All you are dealing and you still have the presence of mind for your supportive posts for me.

It's only your lawyer who will spot the errors, if you made any!!????

In Canada, it is only a conscious decision to not pay the Taxes, that causes the hangman to come. An accounting error would just mean paying the difference plus interest, or maybe receiving a fat refund.

I just know you will be fine..... and GREAT re keeping your brother away!

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Re: so blue I'm purple
« Reply #20 on: April 11, 2008, 12:14:50 AM »
Errrgghh.

Izz, I was in charge of making sure Mom's quarterly estimated taxes were paid and I missed two so now there's a bill plus penalty due.

Hangman?

My brother would gladly volunteer.

I hope the fact that I took it all to her accountant and am eager to pay the late ones as well as what's due now...I hope that'll make it okay. I'm also paying her penalty out of my own funds.

Hops
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Re: so blue I'm purple
« Reply #21 on: April 11, 2008, 12:35:25 AM »
Oh, Hops,

That's a piece of cake-----so to speak!

No Hangman awaiting you. Paying the outstanding amount plus penalty sounds right....you just need the money. Are you OK there????

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Re: so blue I'm purple
« Reply #22 on: April 11, 2008, 01:13:39 AM »
Nooooooooo...I'm not.
I'm several thousand short.
And with my brother licking his chops in the wings, I'm finding it harder than it NORMALLY is to sit down with the calculator and make sense of it all.

I'm no genius at paperwork...so managing two sets of finances has been a lot.

It was just foolish to hire the extra caregiver w/o really assessing the budget, and everything piled up at once (along with a new-used fridge and a bunch of plumbing emergencies, etc.). I just was not paying attention.

Fingers crossed. I will be trying to get a grip on it this weekend.

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Hops
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Re: so blue I'm purple
« Reply #23 on: April 11, 2008, 08:27:02 AM »
I am sorry, Hops.It sounds very overwhelming. I know that paperwork was not your strength and now you have this. It seems  almost too much to bear,especially with your brother ready to pounce. I think only supernatural grace will get you though and I am praying for that.
((((((((((Hops))))))))))))))))))))                                      Love,   Ami
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Re: so blue I'm purple
« Reply #24 on: April 11, 2008, 11:30:39 AM »
Just got promised a small bonus, so that'll help!

 :D

Hops
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Re: so blue I'm purple
« Reply #25 on: April 11, 2008, 12:57:21 PM »
Hi Hops
....nice re the Bonus
....and do you know someone who would co-sign a loan for you, if you cannot get one on your own?
....I would let you borrow from me, but we have funny coloured money up here  :lol:  and that used to be a problem for me: lending to the wrong people, like N-SIL, for fear of losing my daughter, which I did anyway.

Neither a borrower nor a lender be.  That must be no longer quoted in today's times.

Good Luck, and I always think of the fact that as long as one pays something on an amount outstanding, it shows a promise to continue, and keeps the IRS man from the door--- in Canada, anyway.

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Re: so blue I'm purple
« Reply #26 on: April 11, 2008, 08:03:21 PM »
Thanks, Izz...
I'll cope. You're kind to worry, but no need.

It's the PROCESS of finances that overwhelms me. Not the realities of limits, so much.

The rest is kind of...well, if you got it you got it, if you don't, you don't.

But it'll be okay. I only slept 1 hour last night so I was feeling jaggedy.

Meanwhile, I'm going to watch KOLYA (haven't seen it but people I like recommend it strongly) and crash.

Tomorrow is another day (said Scahlett O'Hara...)

Wishing you a peaceful weekend (and everyone)

xxxooo
Hops
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Re: so blue I'm purple
« Reply #27 on: April 12, 2008, 12:10:26 AM »
::thinking of a warm cup of tea finding serenity in the craziness::

(((Hops)))  It'll be ok.

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Re: so blue I'm purple
« Reply #28 on: April 12, 2008, 08:16:54 AM »
Thanks, (((((((((((Lighter))))))))))))))))

It's all a matter of perspective.

thinking of you, too,

Hops
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Re: so blue I'm purple
« Reply #29 on: April 12, 2008, 05:25:39 PM »
Dear Hops,
 I am sending you prayers for the best outcome in your trying situation, Hops.                      Love Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
   Carl Jung