Dear Iz,
I have no excuse for being harsh on Ami. I saw her post about her husband knowing in advance about the son and suicide and my mind immediately went to a “Scott is alive”-frame of mind, as he could have been. It connected to the long estrangement from my daughter, who might as well have been dead, to our finding ourselves again after 27 years.. She has never mentioned a word about my website building and today asked my opinion on the best Software, as she is going to take a Course in Website Building. Something like that is small but it is large to me, because that means I am more important than Google.
As well, I would have preferred that Ami respond to my post before her fans jumped in and trashed me. She said only that I asked too many questions she couldn’t answer. The others were standing up for her, so why speak up, and she didn’t stand up for herself until I asked if she couldn’t.
Yes. Dr. Grossman said I had been harsh. Then he complimented Ami for asserting herself. He waited before he stepped in.
I will be forever silent very soon and will have no one who understands, for feedback, but it’s the price I feel I must pay for jumping the gun
Thank you very much and I publicly thank all of those who have PMd me.
Izzy
and remember, Hops, Happy Birthday to us both on April 28th
You have been a part of my learning an important lesson about VESMB. It's the part where you write that you think the rest of us should have waited for Ami to respond before jumping you. And that is what I have learned. I haven't established a time frame, but in the future I will wait for that to happen or at least give the respondent adequate time to counter. Thank you for this lesson Iz. Dr. Grossman's messages also point in that direction. Even when the board is torn apart, he posts saying that he is giving a certain amount of time for all who wish to respond.
I now know that timing is important and in the future I will do my best to be prudent in my timing when incidences like the one between you and Ami arise.
Iz, you have my greatest respect. My disagreeing with you (even if expressed in an untimely manner) has not diminished my fondness for you, your wit, and your willingness to share your inner self so selflessly.
Much love,
tt