New Therapist for me!

[Izzy_*now*]

Hi
I feel really good about how I am now.
…content
…good at my work
…no toxic people around me
…have the toxic family fenced off
…left the female therapist who wasn’t understanding
…have lost all resentment and anger
…have come to terms with a crooked leg. It’s not that bad.
…my place is clean and orderly
…have a new therapist

He is just 7 minutes away from me and because I have all my ducks in a row, and my life is built with good bricks, holding together, I want to talk with him and for him to supply the mortar for where it’s missing.

I saw him today for the first time, after I explained a lot in an email. I see him next week for 3 hours and he knows what I want, in terms of being a short-term client/patient.

He sucked in his breath and said, “Not right! Not right!” when I mentioned my sister bringing my daughter only once in 2 months. He said I was totally justified in making it an issue with her. YAYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!

[Certain Hope]

 

Good going, Izzy!  I am very, very happy for you.

Anything you'd like to share about your areas of interest and how this works out with him, I'll be listening.

Love,
Carolyn

[Izzy_*now*]

Thanks Carolyn,

I had meant to mention that he could tell I had done a "mountain of introspection". I am so happy that he said that. My other therapist gave me no credit---she didn't understand!--but in her own way, and with my twisting her words, I made progress.

Imagine a 3 hour visit............I hope I get through it without having to pee!
Love
Iz

Look at the cute 'buns'

[Certain Hope]

Izzy,

Yup... 3 hours sounds.... luxurious.   But I think I'd probably need an intermission worked in there someplace, too!

Seems like a wonderful sign to me, that he's already noticed and commented on all of your introspective work, Iz.
Really, I can't imagine why the other therapist didn't get it.
Maybe her goals with you were different...? But you're the one who should be setting the goals, right? I'm not even sure how it works, but the way I envision it =
once you've defined where you want to go, all they're supposed to do is help you to get there.

Do you think that learning assertiveness made the biggest difference of all, Izzy?
I think that for me, it's way up there near the top.

Love,
Carolyn

[gratitude28]

Have I ever told you you are a goddess, Izzy??? Your new therapist sounds like he is really listening and understanding~!!!!
Lots of love,
Beth

[changing]

Dearest Izzy-

I am happy for you and admire all that you have done. Your therapist is fortunate to have such a special person in his life!!!

Love,

Changing

[Izzy_*now*]

Hi Carolyn and Beth,

Yes! This guy recognizes what I have done in the past 6 years, when he hears about the before and after. I am pleased.

The other therapist did not like labels and when I said "voiceless", she asked what I meant.
When I said I liked to nibble on frozen, but they never really freeze, bran muffins, she turned up her nose and I said to myself, "OK I'm gone!" She had no control over her responses.

She put me into a mold and tried to work with it!

Definitely!!!!!!!!! Assertiveness was the answer for me. The woman at work who dragged me out by the wheelchair (and I asserted myself) was over in Europe and the Newsletter is due. Before she left I said in an email that I wanted it by July 15th, No Later, so I had time to make the webpages, and then be ready for any of her changes, and then link when the N/L was maiiled.

That was like an "Order" and By Golly, I received it in the email on the 14th

I see you changing!!!!!

And thank you very much

all of you

xxIzzy

[changing]

GO GET EM TIGER!!!!

XXOOXX,

C.

[gratitude28]

Gosh, Izzy, she must have been a real turd. Why couldn't you say that you liked semi-frozen muffins? That's charming!!! My girlfriend from high school is very wealthy, but can't stand to waste food. So she keeps old bananas in her freezer to use for muffins or bread... except she doesn't always get to making them, so the freezer gets too full of bananas and she is forced to throw them out. I love that about her. I am so glad you sent her packing and found a decent doctor!!!!! Just imagine - you made personal progress with the quack - with a good doctor you might become frivolously happy
Love, Beth

[Izzy_*now*]

Just might be so, Beth:

and funny about freezing bananas...never occurred to me. I just buy two and 5 days later 1 is left and getting speckled skin and feels mooshy....sometimes I eat, sometimes not.

Hey changing
Tigers are so cute
I cannot find a fierce one!!

Love Izzy x 2

[LilyCat]

Hey Izzy,

That is just great. He sounds terrific -- the other sounds like she should leave the profession -- and I hope you get a lot out of it -- maybe even more than you're seeking.

I think the frozen muffin thing is cool. I don't do it much, but I have enjoyed a bite or piece of frozen cake in my lifetime. It's kinda fun, and different. I love the way baked goods don't really freeze. It's so courageous of them!!

Just like you.

LC

[sKePTiKal]

Oh Iz - 3 whole hours! Better than a bubble bath with champagne!

I'm happy for you. Sounds like you "click"... and I'll bet your T is happy to work with someone on the "mortar" issues and filling in the gaps. Probably the beginning of a great working relationship...

POI-fect! 

[Izzy_*now*]

hi LC and PR

Yep, 3 hours. Never heard of that before, but one hour seems so short.

I went rat-a-tat-tat and covered nearly 69 years in 53 minutes.....well not really, but had just about every basic there for him to mull over..... close to a minte per year!         

He's a good listener and when I hit a "bump in the road" I stopped to explain, or ask something, or say that 'there was where I made a wrong move!" and he agreed..... so all was great!

I bought raisin scones this week and froze them and eat them from frozen, as the first I thawed and it fell into crumbs, almost.
Izzy

[sKePTiKal]

Oh Iz...

I think I envy you three whole hours of validation and confirmation and being "heard" and recognized. Witnessed, as Ami would say.
It just sounds like a wonderful, wonderful gift to yourself.

You sound elated! That's just so, so wonderful ....

[LilyCat]

Yeah, Izzy, that sounds terrific!! When do you see him again?