The Other Shoe Dropped

[Hopalong]

My brother has sent a document (8 pages) accusing me of fraud, elder abuse, etc.
It is a twisted chaotic list of lies, distortions, partial truths and slander. Horrifying.
My lawyer has gone limp. I will hire another if need be, taking out a loan I can't afford.

This is where the payback comes.
I said NO to my brother (when he demanded to be put on mother's account) and I said, Stop bullying me, those days are over.

So he is now conducting an enraged and RELENTLESS campaign, and has threatened me with criminial prosecution if I don't give him the key to the house, abandon the POA, let him take over everything. He has been busy whispering to neighbors, planting seeds of doubt at the nursing home, going after me, says he hired a detective. I have no idea which are lies and which are true. But I think I'm going to find out.

He will not prevail, I hope, as his "evidence" is trumped up. But he is terrorizing me and turning my life upside down.

Please send prayers, good wishes, vibes, any good thoughts from any source.

Love you all and miss you,
Hops

[Gaining Strength]

Sending prayers, good wishes, vibes and good thoughts from all my being.

I am horrified that you are going through this.  I especially pray that you are able to withstand the assault on your psyche and will keep you surrounded in protection.  Sending you strength to not be beaten down by his abuse.  Sending you shields to ward off the attacks so that they do not penetrate your heart or create fear in you.

You deserve a competent and caring attorney.  What has happened to him/her?  Did they quit helping?  How about going to the law school and get help from some top students interested in this field?  Hope you get the best help and at a small charge.

What is the state of your mother's health?

Will send this sheild of protection for days to come.

[Izzy_*now*]

OH Dear Hops,

This is so awful from your own brother. Have you expected something of this sort?

He is going all out I gather.

NOW--

What is your first step? ....and from there....?

My sympathies
Izzy

[Ami]

I am so sorry, Hops. It sounds like a story out of a nightmare. I know that you just wanted a little peace and a little space that was yours. it is a cruel twist of fate that this is being denied you, when it is such a simple need. I am so very sorry.     Ami

[sKePTiKal]

Oh Hops! I truly wish I'd taken my soc prof's advice and become a lawyer! I'd be there in a heartbeat to stand up next to you, and calmly show how malicious and without basis in reality his accusations are... and ask for slander or libel damages from your brother.

It hurts me to see him upping the charges & demands against you... but when all is said and done, I still believe that justice will prevail (maybe that's naive... but STILL - I know how untrue and unfair it is, that you would be put in this position to have to defend yourself... I can only hope that the system WORKS). He must be losing hope and getting desperate.

I am lighting a fire for you, Hops... to guard against marauding wolves, to warm you against the chill, to provide light in the darkness.

[LilyCat]

Hops,

I am so sorry. This is just awful. Abominable!!! I will certainly keep you in my prayers. He sounds like a real maniac. But take heart: as my mother always said (to say nothing of Shakespeare), "Murder will out."

If this lawyer won't help you, find someone else. There's no excuse.

Hugs and kisses,

LilyCat

[Certain Hope]

((((((((((Hops)))))))))) he really is a classic, textbook case of pathology.

Knowing that this was bound to be his next move, I'm glad he's gotten it over with and spewed this out.
All of his malignant bluster is nothing but toxic vapor. Like NPD-ex, he may think that he can create his own reality,
but convincing the state to bring criminal charges would require alot more than his stinky hot air.

I am praying for justice... and peace which cannot be shaken.

With love,
Carolyn

[Sela]

Oh ((((((((((Hops))))))))),

I truly wish I could sick my dogs on him!!  (And I'm not usually prone to revengeful thoughts......usually).

He is a piece of work!!

I will keep you in my prayers (and him too.....that he stop this nonsense).

Sending you strength and courage and clear vision and hope and many warm hugs.

Isn't greed incredible?

Sela

[teartracks]

Hops,

I wish things weren't so hard for you.  One of the hardest things to reconcile is that meanness is all around us and that sometimes it's directed at us even though we've not done anything to deserve it.  This will all pass and you are going to be  just fine.  Try to keep your wits.  It's a tough place to be. 

Greed is at the root of all evil.  It's an ugly thing. 

Hugs,

tt

[Lupita]

Praying for you and sending all positive energy.

The truth will prevail!!!!!!!!!

God bless you!

[debkor]

Hey Hops,

OMG what an Ass....Listen my husbands mother left him out of her will.. Yes..out.. and told him he was to get half and his sister get half... she was afraid...to rock any boat..my husband found out when his mother died...the easiest way for her to let him know...and well ..he went to challenge the will and they told him he ....to prove...that his mother was bullied....and he cannot....he needs people who seen this...and there was no one... so he swallowed it....and it would cost him between 7,000 and 9,000 and would probably lose....Can your brother afford to lose this money because he wants to bully you...and if he took over your mothers...affairs... then what... does he think he can change her will? He cannot... She was in right mind when she made it....

Don't worry so much what he can do... he is being a total ass.....and a control freak.. so was my H's sister but she had the will signed sealed and delivered while her M was alive....and she (the sister) controlled it all...even took the mothers check books so she had to ask for her own check to make sure she was not giving her son (my h anything)....

And the Grand daughter lived in the mothers house..rent free...60,oooo of what the mother paid on the mortgage for all these years...and they set it up....His sister so that my H got nothing..Nada..Her and the Grandchild(her daugther) got it all...

He can lie all he wants.. he has to prove it....and he can't ...

You did nothing abusive....nothing wrong...no intent to harm anyone, anything.....that is his intentions....

And yes greed is a horrible thing.  I hope they can sleep at nights....and you know what ... they can..

He's a big bad mean Bully,,, Private Det?.... Laugh your butt off Hops....how silly of him....

Who sent the letter to your attorney...Him.. or his attorney?.....or did he sent it to you...

Love
Deb

[gratitude28]

Oh, Hops,
I am so sorry you need to go through all of this. I hope the attorney will keep in mind that YOU have been the one to take care of your mom. It seems so unjust that you have done what is right, in spite of what would have been easiest (and maybe healthiest) for you all this time and now you are being punished for it.
I am sending tons of prayers and good wishes and love.
Beth

[cats paw]

Hops,

  This strikes some personal nerves for me due to some aggravations regarding my mom's estate.  BIOBAGBROTHER shall henceforth
come to my mind as BioBag, with all the various meanings the words might convey.

  Adding a cord of wood to the fire PR has started....

cats paw

[sKePTiKal]

Any news, Hops? How are you holding up? Staying strong and hopeful, I trust!

Beth makes a very, very good point about the fact YOU have spent (how many??) years caring for your mom... while brother - couldn't? wouldn't? ... and now wants to accuse, interfere, and judge you??? After how many years?

I see the premise for a very solid case to dismiss. In the eyes of any reasonable judge, your brother simply hasn't invested as much as you have - and therefore doesn't have nearly the legal "interest" in the situation that he is now claiming. (Changing - what do you think??)

[lighter]

((((Hopsy))))

After all he's done....

it's still shocking when he continues this behavior.

Even though you know it's coming.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Go NC, as much as you can.

Continue to love and care for your mama.....

this won't last forever. 

Light

ps  Good luck finding a new attorney.