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longtire

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« Reply #30 on: December 05, 2004, 07:04:53 PM »
I second Discounted Girl's recommendation of the Forgiveness website earlier in this thread.  I have started working the book recommended there "Forgiveness is a Choice" by Robert Enright.  I knew that having all this anger towrd my Nwife for so many years was not good (I hate it), but really showed me what I am losing out on for myself and with others by still having it.  I am more motivated to forgive than ever so I can get rid of those weights and put my time and energy into getting the good stuff in life.  I have learned so much and started to grow again by learning from all the good people on this site.  Thanks a bunch!

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« Reply #31 on: December 06, 2004, 06:34:13 AM »
Hello longtire, I just read your story below. I too find it strange that other people grew up in a home where parents talked to them, let alone talked about emotions.

Just wanted to say here, I think forgiveness isn’t something you can ‘do’: it’s like having a cold and then waking up better one day, and the cold has gone. I think forgiveness is like that. One day you think about those you want to forgive and there’s an absence of anger, frustration etc – and you forgive simply because you don’t feel anything bad any more.

I think the more you put time and energy into getting the good stuff in life, the more you’ll move towards forgiveness without noticing. You’re a good person and you’ve given so much, maybe it’s time now (right now!) to give a lot more to yourself. Portia