Dear Pilgrim,
I just want to thank you too. You put this so well:
it all boils down to loving them deeply and wondering where the boundary lies between helping them and crippling them with our help.
Your empathy touched me very much; it really does help to hear from another parent who shares this particular struggle.]
I have a great SW friend who's admirably "tough love" in her advice about it but then she says, That's why I decided not to have children!
I told her, the trick is, there's a biological imperative to help your progeny be safe and survive...
Problem is, my imagination can conjure up disasters, and my D is probably more solid or sensible than I realize.
It's just taking a while for me to rebuild my confidence in her.
I will, depending how she handles all this.
I will send hope and light to your adult son too. I am terribly sorry you're afraid for him.
I know how that feels.
Hope he's stronger than you know, too.
hugs,
Hops
