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Overcomer

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Checking In
« on: November 03, 2009, 05:05:49 PM »
Hello all.  Just checking in.  Life throws so many curve balls.  My cousin's husband died Oct. 22 so my family had another funeral.  These things have happened.  I got diagnosed with cancer, my dad died, the manager at our store had a heart thing and a pacemaker was put in.  Another employee's daughter had a seizure.  Two married people at our store had an affair and are prego.....two marriages broken and the chaos to the store.....something else.  They spent so much time joined at the hip that we finally let them go due to their poor work ethic.  They think it was because of the affair.......

And my mom is at the store a lot!!  I am over chemo and am working some.......now she wants to hire my aunt's son (my cousin......)  Another family member for my mom to support.  It is a tough subject with me.

I read a couple posts and it looks like their might be a little fighting on the board?  I have come to know that life is too short to sweat the small stuff.......and to me, it is ALL small stuff.  I am getting along with my mom because we both were effected by my dad's death.  She has become much nicer.  I don't know.  I am happy and don't have much N stuff to discuss...
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Re: Checking In
« Reply #1 on: November 03, 2009, 09:55:17 PM »
Hi Overcomer,
Glad to hear you are well even with the chaos around you. Things have been good here for the most part. Keep us posted on your journey.
Good to hear from you!
S
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Re: Checking In
« Reply #2 on: November 03, 2009, 10:40:09 PM »
I guess I haven't read everything on the board but it seems peaceful to me. I have noticed though that it is easy to misunderstand other people when you are communicating like this. Sometimes I am afraid I personally sound like a know-it-all because I try so hard to keep excess emotion out of what I write ... but it seems to me that if I have to err, I should err on the side of "too cool and calm" than the other way around, because it's so easy to misunderstand other people when you are communicating at a distance. Especially when everybody has had traumatic experiences within their personal relationships.
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Re: Checking In
« Reply #3 on: November 04, 2009, 02:27:05 PM »
Hi OC,

Glad you're up and at 'em.   I can see how the nepotism in the business could be a pain in the butt.  I'm glad you updated the board.  I think of you often.   How's the weather out there now?  Cold, I bet!  How are the daughters?  The grand baby?

Love and prayers,

tt
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Re: Checking In
« Reply #4 on: November 04, 2009, 05:35:35 PM »
Hi OC

I'm glad you see you post, are working some and are happy.

So all is looking good? How is the hair situation?

I've thought of you often and it's not a "How are you?" question for every day. Just as my leg because all seems to stay longer than we think it will.

I feel different now but am not sure in what way. It's a bit like there is a line drawn in the sand from the day before, and I never go back further than that Line. Do you have a demarcation point?

Hang tuff
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Iz
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Re: Checking In
« Reply #5 on: November 04, 2009, 10:56:10 PM »
Still bald as a cueball.....tomorrow is my last dose of steroids for my pulmonary toxicity.  I go in for a scan on November 18 to see if my cancer has not spread and to look at my lungs to see if the crystals that were forming in them are gone.

My energy is getting better.  I have been obsessively compulsively cleaning and organizing the house.  It has been a lot of work and I am not done but it feels good to get some stuff done.  We have lived here for two years and the garage was still full of unpacked boxes.  I also have been on a decorating craze.  I have bought a lot of decorative accessories and it has been fun.

It has been two months to the day since my dad died.  Very sad.  I loved him.  He looked like Santa.  White hair and beard.....belly.  Always talking.  Never knew a stranger.......miss him.
 
Mom is back doing things in the business that she shouldn't but I am done getting angry about it.
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« Reply #6 on: November 05, 2009, 08:25:23 AM »
Hi Kelly,

I'm glad you're feeling so well and enjoying the simple things.
And not getting angry about your mother? That's awesome!

You're really in "Don't sweat the small stuff, and it's all small stuff" territory, aren't you?

Admiringly, with love,

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Re: Checking In
« Reply #7 on: November 07, 2009, 11:28:44 AM »
I'm glad you're feeling well, Kelly.

That your mother seems to be mellowing is wonderful to read.

Keep your boundaries in place and hire who you feel should hire..... don't let yourself be pressured into making mistakes.

(((Kell)))

So nice to see you posting.
Mo2
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Overcomer

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Re: Checking In
« Reply #8 on: November 10, 2009, 09:26:31 AM »
It is true.  When you are hit with the big C you tend to forget the "small stuff."  I realize my mom is fragile......much more than I realized.  I also know that she is for sure losing her edge.  I guess that comes with age.

I am going to seek some other ways to bring in income so I don't have to rely on the store.  The economy has hit us badly......it is awful.  If I could just get people to buy local.....

I am watching people and all their dysfunction.  I wonder how Dr. G can watch us all over the place, knowing we are screwed up?  It must be distracting.  Like when I worked restaurants for years.  I could not go to a restaurant without noticing a table that needed bused.......a table that needed refills on their beverages, etc.  He must look at us and think......codependent.  Histrionic.  OCD.  Defiant.  etc.
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Re: Checking In
« Reply #9 on: November 10, 2009, 10:43:13 AM »
Quote from: Overcomer on November 10, 2009, 09:26:31 AM
I wonder how Dr. G can watch us all over the place, knowing we are screwed up?  It must be distracting.  Like when I worked restaurants for years.  I could not go to a restaurant without noticing a table that needed bused.......a table that needed refills on their beverages, etc.  He must look at us and think......codependent.  Histrionic.  OCD.  Defiant.  etc.

Actually...human. Human. Human. Human. Human. etc.  Like myself.  For better and for worse.

I'm glad you're through with the chemo, Kelly.

Best,

Richard
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Re: Checking In
« Reply #10 on: November 10, 2009, 04:32:18 PM »
Glad you're doing well, Kelly.  :D
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Re: Checking In
« Reply #11 on: November 11, 2009, 09:57:26 PM »
Hey Kell,

I think you must be the Amazon of the Amazon's.  You sure are strong girl.  I'd like to bottle some of your strength. Actually take a little bit of this from you and that from others...Imagine that potion?  Caution:  Very powerfull /full strength.   

I'm glad you are feeling better.  Your a pretty amazing Chica!

Love
Deb
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Re: Checking In
« Reply #12 on: November 12, 2009, 06:46:26 PM »
((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((KELLY))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
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