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[Twoapenny]

Daring to hope here but...................................we might have a local authority home (ie cheap and with a very long lease; basically they don't chuck you out unless you refuse to pay your rent or grow drugs in the garden).

It's not definite yet but everything is looking good.  It's about ten miles from where we live now so we can keep the same medical team (not that they've been very good but changing will delay things even further) but it's far enough away that I won't bump into all these people from the past.  Mum and step-dad won't know where we are which will be heavenly and even better is it's a small group of properties down a little cul de sac so they won't be able to do drive bys as they do now.  It's walking distance to the village and there are good bus and train links, plus we'll be about ten minutes from a lovely town that we visit a lot and about twenty five minutes from the next big city where there is plenty going on and lots to keep us busy.  Am being cautiously excited and will let you all know if I get good news

[lighter]

OK..... I'm being cautiously optimistic for you too, ((Tupp.))

I have to say that the situation sounds very.......
much..... improved.

 The distance from present location.  CHECK.

The hospital location.  CHECK.

Central.  CHECK.

Good transportation.  CHECK.

Stable and long term once you're in.  CHECK.

Now, if it's meant to be it will happen for you.

If not, there's somewhere else you're meant to be.

I hope you find out very soon, my dear.

About my legals...... I believe they're about to be over.  I remain cautiously hopeful about my situation as well: )

Lighter

[Hopalong]

Fingers and toes crossed until they're cramping
with hopes for you (youse!).

Truly, sending it all aloft.

Hops

[Twoapenny]

Aw, thank you both

We went to have a mooch about today.  The village is nice, mostly flat which is good for the wheelchair.  The flat is literally a ten minute walk from the village centre and the train station so really good for getting around.  It's incredibly quiet!  And as we walked back from the flat to the village again there's a beautiful view of miles of forest and fields (where we live at the moment it's houses in every direction).

We saw a path and wandered off it to see where it led and there's a park with a big duck pond, tennis court, play equipment for the kids and some sort of club house, probably bowls or something like that?  But it was lovely, very pretty, people were sitting on benches eating their lunch so there are actually people to make small talk with!  Currently I try and avoid people where I live now rather than talk to them so that will be a novelty.

There's an allotment and a community centre at the end of the road.  There seems to be quite a lot going on locally and I saw a couple of volunteer opportunities that I'd look into if we move there.  They were advertising a harvest festival art and craft session for kids and asking people to bring donations for the food bank.  Where I live now I'd avoid that sort of thing because I see so many people I don't like it makes me anxious, but somewhere new I'd definitely be up for giving that a go.  With regards to the allotments, I don't think I'd have the time to take one on but perhaps we could give someone a hand and learn a bit that way?

All in all it seems really lovely, the only downside seems to be that there isn't really any parking near the flat and we'd have to park and walk a bit.  It's not the end of the world; hopefully we'll be walking and using the bus more than driving and as everything else is looking promising I think I would be silly to pass it up because of a parking space.  Anyway, still waiting to hear about a date to go and view so will let you know

Lighter, I'm glad the legal situation is looking like it might be ending and will keep everything crossed that it resolves without too much more hassle.

Hopsie, thank you for your kind thoughts and how is the job going now?

[lighter]

Hi Tupp:

I had two thoughts.

1.  The neighborhood and situation sounds very much like a British Gilmore Girls..... lovely.

2.  If you find your space in the sun..... is the caravan still a necessary item on your list of useful things?

 I mean..... for what you spend in money, time and worry.... could you rent a caravan for a week or 2 every year and trek off on adventures without the worry and expense?  Would it be more cost effective to do that?  Food for thought, for surely I don't know.   Just say'in.

Lighter

[Twoapenny]

Lol, it is very 'British', I think it's probably the sort of place that people think of when they think of English country villages   There's a nice feel to it, we explored a bit more yesterday, there's a nice flat, wheelchair friendly walk along a river as well and regular buses into town so it would be much easier practically and I think I would be a lot less grumpy

The campervan has been/is great; we've been using it like a mobile school.  We've got books and craft supplies in there and being able to pull up somewhere, do a bit of work and then cook lunch is lovely.  I'm hoping next year to do some work at festivals, providing my son's health has stabilised by then so it will be a godsend for that, plus it is just really good fun to drive

I've not actually heard any more yet and I was told they'd ring before the end of the week so I will have to chase them up later.  Little bit nervous now it might not happen but still keeping everything else crossed

[Twoapenny]

The flat is ours if we want it.  The people vacate in a week's time, we can view it the week after that, they've already sent me the tenancy agreement and the only reason I'd refuse it now is if it's derelict so it looks like we're moving next month

Goodbye horrible people from the past, bad memories and constant reminders of all sorts of things I want to leave behind me now.

Also saw a doctor today who has finally been helpful.  We've got some emergency medication for the seizures now.  Still no closer to preventative meds or knowing whether he has this life threatening thing or not but at least one thing has been done.

Time to relax and pack over the weekend and then start badgering the doctors again next week.

[Hopalong]

YESSSS!
So glad you have a chance at the flat and hope it passes inspection.

You sound drained, Tupp, and it's easy to understand why.

GET GOOD REST TONIGHT.

One day at a time.

Hugs
Hops

[Twoapenny]

Drained is exactly the right word, Hops, I feel that every last ounce of energy, physical, mental, emotional and any other kind you can think of has gone.  But.................I also feel that we have finally turned a corner and that someone has said "okay, that's enough.  Let's make life a bit easier now".  The flat will make life a lot easier day to day in a practical sense and I won't be as tense and anxious all the time.  The doctors have finally started doing something useful and having emergency meds at home will be a weight of my mind as well.  My 'not wasting time on draining people' thing seems to be helping and I am losing the guilt at not doing what other people want.  So all in all good steps forward

How are things going with your job? x

[lighter]

Whoo hoo!  The place is yours Tupp, and you're moving if you want!  This is such good news....

::already picturing the quaint village preparations for Christmas festivities and decorations..::

The new doctor being helpful sounds like it's taken a lot of stress off your shoulders... a blessing when our children are involved IME. 

I didn't realize the caravan was all patched up and working order quite so much.  Such good

If art supplies are involved..... count me in!

Having a mobile classroom makes it a very necessary resource I should think.

((((Tupp and son))))

Lighter

[Twoapenny]

Whoo hoo!  The place is yours Tupp, and you're moving if you want!  This is such good news....

::already picturing the quaint village preparations for Christmas festivities and decorations..::

The new doctor being helpful sounds like it's taken a lot of stress off your shoulders... a blessing when our children are involved IME. 

I didn't realize the caravan was all patched up and working order quite so much.  Such good

If art supplies are involved..... count me in!

Having a mobile classroom makes it a very necessary resource I should think.

((((Tupp and son))))

Lighter

Things really seem to be taking a turn for the better, Lighter, it's amazing!  Two friends have offered to help with packing/moving stuff.  I'm pretty well organised already as we'd been planning to go for ages so there isn't a terrible amount to do but it's always nice to do things with somebody rather than on your own.  We'll have more money as we won't need to pay a deposit on this place, plus our fuel costs will go down as we'll be able to walk a lot more (which also means my tummy might go down a bit, lol)   Feeling excited and looking forward to it

[lighter]

Ahhhhhhh I wish I could help too, Tupp.  I'm so excited for you.    Is your ds happy about the move too?
Light

[Twoapenny]

Ahhhhhhh I wish I could help too, Tupp.  I'm so excited for you.    Is your ds happy about the move too?
Light

Thanks, Lighter

He doesn't really understand.  We moved around a lot when he was little which he doesn't really remember so it's not something that he's 'done' before in any way he can remember and, because of his autism, he only really understands things that he's done.  So he's aware it's happening; his only concern really was whether the cat was coming and if he was bringing all his toys; I said yes to both so he went back to reading his book.  It will benefit him a lot but mostly because it will be so much easier for me, which will improve his life but of course he tends to think in terms of Lego sets   I'll get him a new Lego set to keep him busy while I unpack and then he'll get excited, lol.

[Meh]

Congrats, sounds exciting

[Twoapenny]

Congrats, sounds exciting

Thank you, G, it is exciting   How are things with you?