Friendship Moments: good or bad

[lighter]

There's distance and avoidance.....my specialty, btw.

And then I remember how it felt to feel abandoned in my suffering...at the mercy of the systems, set up to allow, dismiss and excuse male interpersonal terrorists.....and how the culture allows and expects it.

It's not ok.

There should be consequences, creating sea change, in this crap patriarchy, bc it's obviously not succeeded.

I'm torn......
Not r my circus, not my clowns ....
but stepmom doesn't deserve to be cut off from "normal" people, bc her life is dominated by distress and deeply felt discomfort and ick......right?

The in between is the father and son.

The good man with the special needs son......who displays egregiously inappropriate behavior towards women ( and it's assumed children, given the chance.)

And the world's full of unsafe men...... can't throw a stone without hitting one, feels like.

Tolerance would have to change into zero tolerance.

Lighter

[sKePTiKal]

I think my chatty mood this morning, has earned me a new penpal. Someone on another forum is looking to relocate to my side of the state line. She's also an herbalist and forager. Gots the skills. She's been telling me her life story and I suspect it's been awhile since she had a female friend. Been married 50 years and happily so. She's 80, so her requirements for a new place to live are going to reflect that a bit. But I think it's doable for them.

It's been awhile since I've made a new friend too. So, maybe periodic reports of how it's going forthcoming.

[Meh]

Not sure if I said this before.

Found this children's book called Cinderella with Dogs!! The book has a "fairy dog-mother."

I accidentally brought it with me today as I left to get out of apartment. Maybe I need to just clean out my bags of stuff.

Stuff stuff stuff

Anyhow it's a very cute book.

[Meh]

There's distance and avoidance.....my specialty, btw.

And then I remember how it felt to feel abandoned in my suffering...at the mercy of the systems, set up to allow, dismiss and excuse male interpersonal terrorists.....and how the culture allows and expects it.

It's not ok.

There should be consequences, creating sea change, in this crap patriarchy, bc it's obviously not succeeded.

I'm torn......
Not r my circus, not my clowns ....
but stepmom doesn't deserve to be cut off from "normal" people, bc her life is dominated by distress and deeply felt discomfort and ick......right?

The in between is the father and son.

The good man with the special needs son......who displays egregiously inappropriate behavior towards women ( and it's assumed children, given the chance.)

And the world's full of unsafe men...... can't throw a stone without hitting one, feels like.

Tolerance would have to change into zero tolerance.

Lighter

Sounds difficult, complicated and super gross!!  The special needs part doesn't erase their impact on the people around them. Yuck.

[Hopalong]

I see two fixable things?

RESCUING stepmother of the unwell son. Not your job; she can find resources herself. Intimacy with workers' lives and families produce this for you over and over.

SAYING "NO" kindly to father about bringing son. Or NO to either being on your property. Your job is safety for yourself and fam, not hers. He too can find help.

Would this all be easier if you just set boundaries now, instead of letting the old torment about men rise to eat at your peace again? If any male causes unsafe feelings, boundaries -- not fixing. IMn-HO, sorries.

Finding replacement workers has to be easier than going through this....

hugs
Hops

[lighter]

We haven't seen the neighbors since they left.  It's been nice to wear shorts and not worry.  A relief, in it's truest sense.

I just got ahead of the rain with feeding the azaleas, old and new, before the rain and thunder really began.  I brought in all the heavy Italian terracotta tiles, not used in the meditation garden.  And..... it's amazing, guys. 

Assuming we level the old skinny stumps,c which vexed the last two days.

I'd say I had about the right number of tiles.  All that's left is designing some flowers in smaller tiles....adding some stones .....clearing out the sunny half of the island..
.maybe planting wild flowers.

I have 3 pink azaleas to plant with the 40yo Pink Azaleas in the circle.  I've been waiting for this rain to plant.  Will tell the neighbors to come get the last of the blueberry/fig bushes, and lone Peach tree.  The deer won't allow much to live on their stomping grounds.  Will use that flat area for parking.

Next, all the ferns and remaining forest flowers go in.

We're loving this cool soft rain.  So much.

Lighter

[Hopalong]

Meh, I found Cinderella with Dogs and LOVE it!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pHgxR8NSSmY
(The narrator's voice is TOO flat and neutral, but they're supposed to do that generally, so your imagination fills in. Probably a better one out there.)

VERY funny and this dog-girl really enjoyed it. The illustrations are hilarious. Joyful.

hugs
Hops

[Hopalong]

Lighter, are the neighbors the father and son you were talking about? AAAAGGHHH.

I'm sorry I got it wrong and gave you a lecture about employees.
I feel foolish now. Presumptuous. Damn.

Hope you'll forgive me.

hugs
Hops