What would you think about this comment?

[Anonymous]

Hi OR,

Saying something how brain injury causes personality changes

Maybe you could convince him to go lay on the curb down at the bus stop. After five or six busses run over his head maybe he'll have a new and improved personality!  
Maybe after eight or nine he'll be normal!

mudpup

[OR]

MUD, I'm laughing so hard right now.

 I'm, making a copy and paste, sending with a reply to the comment he sent.  

see if he can come up with some more great N comments.

Thanks MUD.

OR

[Anonymous]

OR,

You're welcome. Glad to help.

mud

[OR]

Mud,

I just sent it to him. I took out the verbage so it sounded like I was speaking to him directly. I added to keep sending me more great reasons to keep the blame on any thing else but him.

Made my day!!!!  OR

[Anonymous]

OR,
You know, if you're going to continue to allow him to e-mail you it might be best if you just let him hang himself.
It feels quite good to let off some steam once in awhile, but if you make a habit of telling him he is in need of Ralph Cramden giving him a lobotomy he might turn it around on you. A few jabs in response to his provocations are one thing, but I wouldn't make a habit of it, if you know what I mean. No need to give him unnecessary ammo.

mudpup

[OR]

Mud, I agree not to continue with telling him things that will come back at me. I will let him send me whatever to use on him.

quote]he is in need of Ralph Cramden giving him a lobotomy he might turn it around on you[/quote]

Mud, he already has our relationship as anything or anyone as why he behaves so. I added keep sending  more of his great reasons to never say sorry no responsibility for his actions. My H looks alot like Scott Peterson with the short dark hair, scary.

Here is some of what my H sent me.

Remember when Gary Busey was in the motercycle accident & they said his personality changed after his brain injury ?
 

When I had my MRI there are numerous places where my brain cells are dead.
I guess from MS or no blood flow
But when I say
Water under the bridge
No hard feelings
I mean it
Those brain cells are gone
Literally gone
As in “numerous white brain matter 7mm posterior, inferior frontal lobe
Small vessel ischemia processes, multiple sclerosis"
So I really mean it
 

I think I will contact the Doctor on this, I have already talked to the main nurse to ask the doctor please, write up how many times I have tried to get us into the office together to discus his health,.
How my H refused every time. He tells me things I don't know if they are true.

I loved this one, My H said:

I feel when you lie to someone
You have no respect for them
If you have no respect
You can't love 'em
 

OR

[Anonymous]

Did you mention earlier OR that he had MS? I can't remember.  

But this does put a different spin on things regarding his personality if he really does have it.
MS affects cognitive functions (concentration, memory, word finding to name a few) and alters mood along with all the physical symptoms.
It's an awful disease.

[Anonymous]

Mudpup and OR:

What a cool reply!  If I need a good come back I will call upon you Mud!

Glad to see things are progressing Only.  Just keep in mind when things REALLY begin to go downhill he will use your daughter and his illness to get secondary gain.  He is truly one sad individual.  Patz

[OR]

My H's health issues get overwhelming.
This is new, he thought he had a "Mini Stroke", his face was affected.
they want to confirm if it is MS with a spinal tap.

If his personality changes coupled with the N-personality, should I be worried and glad I left him?
When he threated to shoot me (even tho we don't own a gun) could I expect him to follow through? He could claim insanity?

I should demand an evaluation of his mental state from someone?



This is his e-mail from today.  This makes me upset to think someone gets to make lies up so others question who you are. I have had to answer to his accusations with his family and mine. I know they are such lies but still it causes questions in peoples minds . like he says below how a judge will think some of it, must be true. He has me mad today, and reminds me he believes he has MS, so lets forget it, because he has.

 

I don't know what your talking about
look yesterday is gone
I've never said anything i haven't believed is true
so i won't say I'm sorry for what i believe
 
you & i know the truth
 
when people have a difference of opinion
the judge says"somewhere in the middle is the truth
It's never one person is totally right
so lets just move forward

He tells me he will only be writing to our D, because she cares about him, and he senses I'm angry with him.

He Ends the letter with this

the lords prayer says
forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us
 
i will not say I'm sorry for what i believe
the past is the past period
 
no one cares about what someone else thinks
that's the way of the world
 
you need to let your anger go
i will never mention your name in any contact in the future with D
& if i have i don't remember

This is scary to me,

[Anonymous]

OR,

What a sick, putrid, little turd he is.

The Lord's prayer also says 'deliver us from evil' and that's just what He did when He got you to Dallas.

I've never said anything i haven't believed is true
so i won't say I'm sorry for what i believe

There's another one for 'most N comments ever.' He's not saying it was true just that he belived it to be true. Typical N weasel words.

when people have a difference of opinion
the judge says"somewhere in the middle is the truth
It's never one person is totally right
so lets just move forward

Maybe he ought to ask Scott Peterson if that is an accurate statement.

OR, it is impossible not to be really angry with that kind of bologna coming your way. You're going to have to decide if you want to subject yourself to this crap much longer.
Maybe you ought to block your e-mail without telling him. He will just keep e-mailing and won't even know you aren't getting them.

mudpup

[Kaz]

Hi OR,
That was me above there as Guest asking about the MS.
From what you've written about him re. his spinal op., the feeling in his legs, the 'mini stroke', the 'dead brain cells' and him being on a disability payment, it does sound as if he has MS.
This disease comes and goes in various forms, I find it hard to believe that this is the first time you've heard that this is what he may have. With all his physical problems, surely he was investigated medically years ago and some results given to you both?

If you really didn't know, (if he kept it from you) then that's proof that you had a very dysfunctional marriage and leaving him certainly was the best thing to do for yourself and your daughter, never mind the MS.
You're apart from him now, and safe. I haven't heard of any MS sufferers turning into insane killers.

[OR]

KAZ,

 My H will not let me into the Doctors with him, I have made appointments for us both to be in the doctors together and he will not go with me.  
Im working on a statement from the Doctors now, to confirm my efforts, to disscuss the mental state and the fact about his condition.
Now I have moved and want something saying I tried, not leaving him in the cold as he will say.

We have been told he has RA, then a bone cancer scare. a PET scan and multipule doctors claim degenerative bone.

I have read the reports along with is brother who is a Doctor.a blood pathologist, he reads millions of cancer slides,as well as testifies in medical malpractice cases. Nothing is confirmed but the symptoms may confirm MS too.


He just e-mailed me said he would no longer send me e-mails. He is saying now for sure he has cancer, MS and will be in a wheelchair. for me to not be bitter towards him. Reminds me he feels like the girl who had her feeding tube removed ?? Missing our D.

I have not responded back to any of them, just don't know what to say. Evertime I feel sorry for him I get his BS.

OR

[Kaz]

Hi OR,
He certainly is a sick puppy, and I feel sorry for him too because of his medical problems. But it's OK to feel sorry for someone and not act upon it. It doesn't make you any less empathic. He doesn't even need to know that you feel sorry.
I can understand how you must get something in writing; if only just to confirm to yourself that you tried.
It's unfortunate that he has these extra medical problems along with the Narcissism, but you have to look after yourself and your daughter. First, and above all.

Let's hope that he won't send anymore emails.

[Anonymous]

OR,
Lets just say he has RA, MS, bone cancer, scurvy, ricketts and an ingrown toenail. What does any of that have to do with his terrible treatment of you and your daughter?
Does MS make you threaten to shoot your wife?
Whatever he has, he is using it to manipulate and control you. When he can't do it through threats he tries to make you feel sorry for him.
I hope you can concentrate on what you and your daughter need, because that is you're responsibility, not fixing the unfixable or loving the unlovable.
God bless.

mudpup

[Kaz]

Second thoughts, you might find it hard to get anything from your doctor at this stage because of patient confidentiality. Your H chose to exclude you and wouldn't go to the appointments that you made for you both. If it came to a legal issue the doctor would be able to confirm then that your H was excluding you. Does that make sense?