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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #930 on: October 05, 2009, 04:29:39 PM »
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Examples of Passive-Aggressive Narcissists:

After you've said "NO" to something, they continue to BADGER you in the VAIN hope that your "NO" will MAGICALLY change into a "YES".  NDoofus was FAMOUS for this! 



Guess my N is just getting Aggressive, leaving out the passive part.

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You can come over with
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sometime and I will talk you into it.


Thanks for all you do here. You are helping so much........... to see they don't change, a reminder don't go back, they will always s**ck you alive.

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #931 on: October 05, 2009, 09:38:03 PM »
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Examples of Passive-Aggressive Narcissists:

After you've said "NO" to something, they continue to BADGER you in the VAIN hope that your "NO" will MAGICALLY change into a "YES".  NDoofus was FAMOUS for this! 



Guess my N is just getting Aggressive, leaving out the passive part.

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You can come over with
  insert my daughters name)
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sometime and I will talk you into it.


Thanks for all you do here. You are helping so much........... to see they don't change, a reminder don't go back, they will always s**ck you alive.

seasons

You're welcome.

I've also come to recognize another type of Narcissist....the infantilized Narcissist.  They attempt to manipulate you into doing EVERYTHING for them because the "play-act" at being so-o-o-o-o-o helpless!!!!!

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #932 on: October 05, 2009, 10:07:14 PM »
Bones - My NM used the tactics of "its in your best interest" "conventional wisdom" and my new favorite, any $$ advice from Suze Orman.  Its all just a form of manipulation. There is NO REASON to do it their way as opposed to yours, so they search for some credibility ...wherever they can get it...


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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #933 on: October 05, 2009, 10:28:41 PM »
Bones - My NM used the tactics of "its in your best interest" "conventional wisdom" and my new favorite, any $$ advice from Suze Orman.  Its all just a form of manipulation. There is NO REASON to do it their way as opposed to yours, so they search for some credibility ...wherever they can get it...



And it's INFURIATING when they attempt to pull that kind of cr*p!

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #934 on: October 06, 2009, 09:00:08 AM »
FYI....I have to have more medical tests because my blood pressure is fluctuating too much when I go to stand up.  It dropped to 50/80 in the doctor's office yesterday!   :shock:  I HATE BEING A HUMAN PIN CUSHION!!!!!   :P

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #935 on: October 06, 2009, 09:27:41 AM »
FYI....I have to have more medical tests because my blood pressure is fluctuating too much when I go to stand up.  It dropped to 50/80 in the doctor's office yesterday!   :shock:  I HATE BEING A HUMAN PIN CUSHION!!!!!   :P

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What is your BP, usually?
I hope you are OK ,Bones. You deserve everything good in life after that horrible womb donor!          xxxoo  Ami     
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #936 on: October 06, 2009, 09:47:39 PM »
FYI....I have to have more medical tests because my blood pressure is fluctuating too much when I go to stand up.  It dropped to 50/80 in the doctor's office yesterday!   :shock:  I HATE BEING A HUMAN PIN CUSHION!!!!!   :P

Bones

What is your BP, usually?
I hope you are OK ,Bones. You deserve everything good in life after that horrible womb donor!          xxxoo  Ami     

Thanks, Ami.

I'm trying to remember what my initial blood pressure was when I first went into the doctor's office...something like 75 over 110...not really sure of the exact numbers.  All I know was that the first time my blood pressure was taken, I was sitting down, talking as usual, and the nurse said that my blood pressure was EXCELLENT!

Then, when I went in to see the doctor, I told him about the episode on Sunday when I nearly passed out without warning.  He checked the pulses in both my wrists simultaneously, checked the pulses in my ankles, listened to both my carotid arteries, my heart and my lungs with the stethoscope.  Then he had me lie down for several minutes, then had me stand up and he took my blood pressure immediately.  You can imagine the look on my face when he told me that my blood pressure had dropped to 50 over 80!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I just finished with the holter monitor today and had TWO SETS of blood tests done.  I just don't know WHAT to think!!!!!!

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #937 on: October 07, 2009, 10:18:52 AM »
I was assisting with Depression Screening Day in my community last night and found myself dealing with ANOTHER N!   :P  She is convinced that she has ALL THE ANSWERS and that she KNOWS EVERYTHING!!!!  At one point, during the course of the event, when I was in the middle of speaking with someone about the free information we have to offer, SHE BUTTS INTO THE CONVERSATION, STARTS TALKING OVER ME AS IF I WASN'T THERE AND BLURTS AT THE PERSON..."YOU WANT YOUR MENTAL HEALTH CHECKED?!?!?!?"  The person I HAD been speaking to IMMEDIATELY BEAT FEET!!!!!   :x :x  I let her know that I did NOT appreciate that!!   :evil:

Toward the end of the evening, my health issues started catching up with me and I started feeling tired.  She noticed that the color had started draining out of my face and she began BADGERING me to go home, AS IF SHE WAS MY BOSS!!!!  (She is NOT!!!!!!)   :P  I politely and pointedly told her to back off!  When it was time to pack up our display, I was SO GLAD TO GET AWAY FROM HER!!!!!  I DESPISE N's!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   :twisted:

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #938 on: October 08, 2009, 12:17:10 PM »
I've had four vials of blood taken for a variety of blood tests and turned in the Holter Monitor for evaluation.  Now the hard part begins......the waiting for the results!   :P

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #939 on: October 09, 2009, 09:13:34 AM »
I'm not quite sure if I'll hear anything within a week or if I'll have to wait until my next doctor's appointment on October 21st.

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #940 on: October 09, 2009, 01:59:52 PM »
Sounds really hard, Bones. I am sorry!                         xxoo  Ami
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.        Eleanor Roosevelt

Most of our problems come from losing contact with our instincts,with the age old wisdom stored within us.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #941 on: October 09, 2009, 02:45:45 PM »
Sounds really hard, Bones. I am sorry!                         xxoo  Ami

Thanks, Ami.

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #942 on: October 09, 2009, 03:05:26 PM »
Good luck Bones, I hope the tests give you some answers so you can get the treatments you need.  Waiting sucks!   Also, so sorry for your seminar experience - you try to help others and its frustrating to get that kind of response !!  So sorry.

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #943 on: October 09, 2009, 03:30:01 PM »
Good luck Bones, I hope the tests give you some answers so you can get the treatments you need.  Waiting sucks!   Also, so sorry for your seminar experience - you try to help others and its frustrating to get that kind of response !!  So sorry.

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Thanks, Alesia.

BTW, it wasn't exactly a seminar, it was a community outreach to conduct depression screenings.  This N was SUPPOSED to be assisting, NOT TAKING OVER!   :P

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #944 on: October 11, 2009, 09:36:46 AM »
I'm still taking it easy while awaiting the test results.  Emotionally, I'm not in a good place.   :(

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