Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

Oh my, Bones...

I know those encounters pretty well. It certainly makes me wonder what the H--- I was thinking when I got involved!!!! But see?
You've come a long way, baby.... you've learned a lot... and have no time to waste on such a sleazy dweeb.

I hope you had fun in spite of him.

Oh I DEFINITELY had fun in spite of him!  I was polite when he spoke to me and the rest of the time I ignored him.  I noticed that my ignoring him FLUSTERED the HELL out of him!!!!

Bones

[BonesMS]

One funny observation involving the sleazy dweeb....when another former classmate arrived, he made a bee-line towards her and tried to follow her around!  Problem was...it appeared that she recently came out of her closet, was dressed very man-ish, very similar to Ellen DeGeneres, and had accepted her sexual orientation, which CLEARLY did NOT include men, ESPECIALLY HIM!!!!  He kept trying to buzz around her until I think she told him to buzz off!  Then he started circling me again!  All I could do was shake my head!   

Bones

[BonesMS]

Busted Mr. Blue out in a lie yesterday evening!  First he told me that he and Sleazy Dweeb didn't talk at the Reunion.  Then he admitted that they said "hello" to each other.  Finally, he accidentally let slip a piece of information that ONLY the Dweeb and I knew until now and I was PISSED!!!!

I told Mr. Blue that even though I'm not getting any from him, I'm NOT desperate enough to go to Sleazy Dweeb to get some even though he was good in bed!  SMACK!!!!!

Bones

[Guest]

<chuckling> so many uses for a hosepipe, Bones.

[BonesMS]

<chuckling> so many uses for a hosepipe, Bones.

You got that right!   

Bones

[BonesMS]

Had a tooth extracted this morning, then got a flu shot this afternoon.  ICK!  

Bones

[BonesMS]

In a VERY FOUL mood today!   

Bones

[sKePTiKal]

'morning bones! Feeling better today?

I'm up early, coz of apocalyptic dreams. Took me 2 hours to shake the latest one. It's weird isn't it, that we can always find evidence that the world's going to hell in a handbasket in the worst possible ways... yet it usually never happens and similarly, why aren't the signs that everything's OK, just as apparent and bombarding our consciousness? (which is usually the case... post-linear-timeline 20-20 past hindsight perspective, that is)

[BonesMS]

'morning bones! Feeling better today?

I'm up early, coz of apocalyptic dreams. Took me 2 hours to shake the latest one. It's weird isn't it, that we can always find evidence that the world's going to hell in a handbasket in the worst possible ways... yet it usually never happens and similarly, why aren't the signs that everything's OK, just as apparent and bombarding our consciousness? (which is usually the case... post-linear-timeline 20-20 past hindsight perspective, that is)

Morning, P.R.

Still in a FOUL mood right now.

Bones

[BonesMS]

The place where the tooth root was extracted is still a little swollen and it's still a bit uncomfortable to chew.  NOT in a good mood!   

[sKePTiKal]

Hi Bones - have you tried a little ice to reduce the swelling? If the skin has closed up, you could also try some Anbesol or other baby teething pain reliever. I think they make an adult version too.

And then, my suggestion is to find something to get really into, that'll help you take your mind off the tooth! Even if it's only for an hour at a time. You might not be able to completely "forget" about the discomfort, but you deserve to have some distance from it, right? I'm sorry it hurts you and I hope it gets better soon!

[BonesMS]

Hi Bones - have you tried a little ice to reduce the swelling? If the skin has closed up, you could also try some Anbesol or other baby teething pain reliever. I think they make an adult version too.

And then, my suggestion is to find something to get really into, that'll help you take your mind off the tooth! Even if it's only for an hour at a time. You might not be able to completely "forget" about the discomfort, but you deserve to have some distance from it, right? I'm sorry it hurts you and I hope it gets better soon!

Thanks, P.R.

Currently, I'm taking an antibiotic plus Motrin to deal with the surgical site.  I've been attempting to stay busy by going down to the museum, Farmers Market, and Fall Festival around here.  Then the low blood pressure started kicking in, which isn't fun either.  I'm also working on some needlework projects.

I received an e-mail message from one of my former schoolmates, from over 40 years ago, asking me to call her.  I did.  I'm going to post about that in my next message.

Bones

[BonesMS]

Well, it's been little over a week since the high school reunion and I'm still doing some follow-up with various former classmates, especially those who were unable to attend for one reason or another.  One of them sent me an e-mail, with her phone number, and asked me to give her a call...which I did.  BIG MISTAKE!!!!!

She kept gushing on and on about how we were "SUCH GOOD FRIENDS" all through childhood!  (No, we were NOT!  She was snobbish then, over 40 years ago, and is still snobbish now.  Back then, she wouldn't give me the time of day so I have NO idea what planet she is living on!  We have NOT had ANY contact for over 40 years since graduation!!!)  She also demonstrated, several times during the conversation, (more accurately, her monologue), that she is a racist by often making comments about "THOSE people of color who are always lazy and dirty!"  After about the fourth or fifth racist comment, I interrupted her by stating that I have a news flash for her in connection with my genealogy research that she asked about early in the conversation.  I bluntly told her that my Dad and I are Bi-Racial and I find her racist comments very offensive.  She needs to stop and think of what she is saying to whom before she says it.  That stopped the overt racist comments but NOT the attitude!  URGH!!!!   

The topic changed over to asking about my family, (such as they are), and I commented that both my older sisters are gone and that one of them died about the same time that NWomb-Donor died to which she interrupted me to continue talking about herself.  Five minutes later, she asked me how NWomb-Donor is and if she's still alive!!!!  (WTF?!?!?!?  Clearly she has NOT heard a SINGLE word I just said five minutes before that she had DIED!)  She asked what I had been doing with myself and I mentioned getting a master's degree.  Her response:  "Who knew you were SO-O-O smart?!?!?"  ICK!!!!   

The vast majority of the conversation was her gushing on and on about herself, herself, herself, herself while I just non-committedly would respond with "Uh-huh, hmmmm".  Finally, after she talked herself out, she announces that the next time she is in my area, we should get together for lunch.  (Fat chance!)  I couldn't wait to get off the phone!  Can you say N-Radar and alarm bells going off?!?!?!?  If she ever condescends to call me again, I'm letting it go to voice-mail!     BLEGH!!!!

Bones

[sKePTiKal]

Huh. Those are exactly the kind of people my hubby likes to "play"... basically he traps them via their own words/attitude into having to admit what they're really doing. I usually just ignore them - I don't have the energy and don't see the point... but it's a great game for him. I think it's kinda mean... but maybe it's not. Most of the time, they're like your friend - clueless.

Sounds like you also caught her out... good for you!
Ought to be good for a few giggles, you know?

[BonesMS]

Huh. Those are exactly the kind of people my hubby likes to "play"... basically he traps them via their own words/attitude into having to admit what they're really doing. I usually just ignore them - I don't have the energy and don't see the point... but it's a great game for him. I think it's kinda mean... but maybe it's not. Most of the time, they're like your friend - clueless.

Sounds like you also caught her out... good for you!
Ought to be good for a few giggles, you know?

Thanks, PR!

Regarding your hubby, does that mean he turns the tables on N's?  I'm not sure I understand completely what you described.  Could be my Asperger's getting in the way.

Bones