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« Reply #2985 on: December 14, 2011, 07:15:48 AM »
Hey - how's your cold? Better?

I'm going down for the count this morning... but not before I shove a zicam in my mouth.
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« Reply #2986 on: December 14, 2011, 07:27:54 AM »
Hey - how's your cold? Better?

I'm going down for the count this morning... but not before I shove a zicam in my mouth.

Hi, P.R.

I hope you're feeling better soon.

I feel about the same.

It's BARELY dawn here and I have this crazy cardinal banging into my windows, demanding attention.  I've put up a scarecrow to try to dissuade him from waking me up again like that but it doesn't faze this bird!

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« Reply #2987 on: December 14, 2011, 08:18:27 AM »
I've heard that taping another bird silhouette to the window works... but it didn't work for me. Maybe a cat instead?

Shortly after we moved in here, I heard banging from a back bedroom. I was shocked to see a Piliated Woodpecker - which is a sizable bird - clinging to the window and pecking at his reflection. I shooed him, and he hasn't been back. (ahhhhhh-chooooo!)

The thing that makes me nutz, is our squirrels can actually climb the exterior stucco walls. Reminds me of the sound of mice. And they just laugh and wave their tails at me or drop acorns & hickory nuts on my head. (more ahhh-choos... sigh.) Of course, we live in the "wild kingdom" - not what you think of as a beach environment...

I've seen bald eagles; river otters; we have a pack of gorgeous foxes - they'd make great coats, but they're just too adorable; our over-friendly one who'd play with us is nowhere to be found... these guys keep their distance. I'm hoping I get to see the kits in the spring. Then there's the resident herd of deer - including a nice 8 pt. buck, quite a few baby bucks, and loads of babies - who eat all the expensive landscaping in people's yards. So, it's common to see shrubs and flower beds all caged in. After Irene, we also had a nice black bear come visit from the mainland... then he went over to Southern Shores for a day-trip... before swimming back here and back to the mainland. It's quite a swim across the sound! We have all kinds of waterfowl - and are a migratory flightpath stop for a lot of species. Herons, osprey, cormorants, 1000s of different seagulls, bluebirds, martins, lots of woodland species, hummers, pelicans, ducks & even swans from time to time. We have lots of lizard-y type creatures most of the year, too... skinks, cameleons, and bigger guys - they're harmless; but I could've done without the 3 baby cottonmouths we killed in the pool area (and scooped out of the pool) after the hurricane. The black snakes are big enough to not bother me much... but I think hubs is Indiana Jones' brother - he hates snakes. Been bitten too many times. Dragonflies... and butterflies... and beetles/bugs from another planet that I can't identify.

Good thing I used to live in West ByGod... I'm used to all this nature, but even out in the boonies we weren't as over-run as this place feels like. Oh yeah - I forgot - last summer they had to come relocate the beavers that took up residence in our ponds. Now, if I could just figure out how to grow stuff in sand... I am working on some leaf mold piles, but at the moment all those are, are mosquito habitat. It hasn't gotten cold enough yet to do more than just slow them down.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #2988 on: December 14, 2011, 09:22:22 AM »
Thanks, P.R.  I envy you with all the wildlife you have.  We have muskrats and, occasionally, foxes, raccoons, opossums, and beavers around here.  Canada Geese are always around.  Once in a while, I'll see whitetail deer which is surprising given that we are in the suburbs of a major city.

I've tried everything to dissuade this crazy bird.  Even the feral cats that try to stalk him don't faze him.  It's not mating season so I have no idea why he keeps going after my windows  and the neighbors' windows.
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« Reply #2989 on: December 15, 2011, 06:51:13 AM »
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« Reply #2990 on: December 15, 2011, 07:21:10 AM »
verrrrry early walk this a.m. (pats unfit self on back, except can't reach...)

heard the straaaaaangest animal sound: like a YOWW, YOWW, YOWW. Very "hoarse" sounding. Kept thinking, cat? But it was too harsh and low...just didn't sound like "cat."  Screech owl with a bad chest cold? Just kept going, over and over.

Don't know what a coyote in a bad mood sounds like, but I've heard they've moved in.

And there were two fawns in my back yard, curled up right behind the azaleas. i didn't see them, but my housemate's little dog spotted them and just stood and looked at them. (I've seen the big deer). The yard's not super deep but has a nice stand of mixed hardwoods. It's been startling this year to see them there. (New development nearby has pushed them.)
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #2991 on: December 15, 2011, 07:27:51 AM »
verrrrry early walk this a.m. (pats unfit self on back, except can't reach...)

heard the straaaaaangest animal sound: like a YOWW, YOWW, YOWW. Very "hoarse" sounding. Kept thinking, cat? But it was too harsh and low...just didn't sound like "cat."  Screech owl with a bad chest cold? Just kept going, over and over.

Don't know what a coyote in a bad mood sounds like, but I've heard they've moved in.

And there were two fawns in my back yard, curled up right behind the azaleas. i didn't see them, but my housemate's little dog spotted them and just stood and looked at them. (I've seen the big deer). The yard's not super deep but has a nice stand of mixed hardwoods. It's been startling this year to see them there. (New development nearby has pushed them.)

I bet those two fawns were ADORABLE!!!!!   AWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!  Love the BABIES!!!!!
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« Reply #2992 on: December 15, 2011, 09:54:04 AM »
The baby fawns are adorable! It seems early for babies though. And twins? Oh my... I sure hope those aren't coyotes you're hearing, Hops.

You feeling better Bones? I broke down and combined real cold medicine with my herbal tea before bed and slept like a log. I can finally breathe again and I don't need some head apparatus replacing kleenex every 30 seconds.
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« Reply #2993 on: December 15, 2011, 01:21:55 PM »
The baby fawns are adorable! It seems early for babies though. And twins? Oh my... I sure hope those aren't coyotes you're hearing, Hops.

You feeling better Bones? I broke down and combined real cold medicine with my herbal tea before bed and slept like a log. I can finally breathe again and I don't need some head apparatus replacing kleenex every 30 seconds.

Thanks, P.R.

I've been stepping up the vitamins and trying to get to bed at a regular time each night to try and stabilize my sleep cycle.  I'm reluctant to try the OTC cold medicines as I don't like their side effects either.

Regarding the fawns, I'm not sure of the deer's life cycle.  I know, around here, I think it's the rutting season so we have to be more mindful when driving at night.

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« Reply #2994 on: December 15, 2011, 06:37:43 PM »
I am about ready to SCREAM in frustration because I AM NOT BEING HEARD by Mr. Idiot!!!!

He has his birds over here and he (reluctantly) pays me rent to use my space and laundry facilities.  (I need the income from his rent because my pension is not enough to pay the bills plus medical expenses and I can't afford it when he runs up my utilities.) 

Yesterday, he called me to tell me he LOST THE KEYS to my building and my unit and wanted me to make copies.  I had already told him, previously, that the key to my building is specially designed so it CANNOT BE DUPLICATED because of SECURITY ISSUES!  I asked him:  "What happened?"  His response?  "I dunno..."  (He has a BAD habit of saying that when he's caught making a mess and has done this since high school!  That might have worked when he was a teenager but it is inappropriate for a senior citizen!)  I informed him that BEFORE THAT KEY CAN BE REPLACED, he has to give me a check or a money order, made payable to the property management.  Property management WILL NOT GIVE ME ANOTHER KEY UNTIL IT IS PAID FOR!  (I don't know how much more CLEARER I can tell him!)  I also informed him that HE WILL NEED TO EITHER LOCATE THE KEYS OR PAY TO HAVE MY LOCKS CHANGED as I am NOT paying to clean up his mess!  He needs to man-up, grow a pair, and take responsibility for his own mess!  I'm NOT his mommy!  I'm NOT his maid!  I'm NOT a free hotel! I'm NOT a free laundromat!  I'm NOT his housekeeper!  It's NOT my responsibility to take care of his mistakes FOR him and I am NOT cleaning up his messes FOR him!  He needs to learn from his mistakes and take care of his own consequences.

A little while ago, on the phone, he had the pajuktas to ask me if property management had sent me another key for the front door of the building WITHOUT HIM PAYING FOR IT!  Then wondered why I went off on him after what I told him, both verbally and via E-MAIL yesterday!  I asked him did he READ what I wrote..."Yeah..."  "Do you understand what I wrote?"  "Yeah..."  "WHY do you think property management is REQUIRING payment BEFORE they will replace that key?!?!?"  "I dunno...."

JACKASS!!!!!!!!!!!   :P  (And he has a PhD!!!!!!!)  DAMN!!!!!!!
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #2995 on: December 16, 2011, 08:39:08 AM »
Wednesday and Thursday evening, I was watching a special two-parter of Divorce Court:  Before the Vows and the guy that was on....pleading his case....was truly FRIGHTENING!  He clearly had SEVERE psychiatric issues....so SEVERE that even Judge Toler was SCARED and she does NOT scare easy!!!!  At one point, (this segment was not broadcast), Judge Toler had Bailiff Joe PUT THE GUY OUT OF THE COURTROOM!   :shock:  Apparently, the guy got even more out of control.

The more I listened and watched, I found myself analyzing what was going on.  (Habits learned in graduate school are still here, even though I'm not working in the field.)  My analyses started going along this line:

Axis I - Clinical Disorder = Schizophrenia and other Psychotic Disorders with Delusions of Religious Grandiosity

Axis II - Personality Disorder = Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Axis III - General Medical Condition = (based on my observation, his medical condition is not that good)

Axis IV - Psychosocial and Environmental Problems = He was having problems in this area BIG TIME with Judge Toler and the Bailiff!!!

Axis V - Global Assessment of Functioning = 21 to 30 (meaning Behavior is considerably influenced by delusions or hallucinations OR serious impairment in communication or judgment OR inability to function in almost all areas e.g. no job, no home, no friends.)

The more I watched, the more horrified I felt...watching this severely psychotic individual act out on national television and it was even more frightening KNOWING that he was hell-bent on forcing the focus of his attention to marry him AFTER she had already, CLEARLY, said:  "NO!"  Watching the way he reacted to the word "NO!" from his ex-intended AND the judge was telling me, this sicko is also NPD!  The combination of a psychotic disorder with NPD is the WORST combination I can imagine!

The following link is a commentary on the episode:

http://www.brianphickey.com/divorce-court-darci-lyon-vs-mark-dibello/
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« Reply #2996 on: December 17, 2011, 07:51:06 AM »
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« Reply #2998 on: December 17, 2011, 11:21:34 PM »
Just got home from a Christmas party and my Inner Child is HAPPY!!!  Among the presents I got in the gift exchange was an old-fashioned Slinky!   :D  I'm having FUN playing with it!!!!
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« Reply #2999 on: December 18, 2011, 06:30:47 AM »
The poem mentioned in today's Dear Abby is POWERFUL!

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20111218

Also, having some aches and pains this morning as I attempted something, yesterday, that I have NOT done for 41+plus years....I auditioned for a Broadway-style musical which included learning a dance routine.  Now my body is going..."OW!  OW!  OUCH!  WHAT did YOU do?!?!?!?"  I do have to admit, the audition itself was FUN and I found myself laughing and clowning with the other auditioners, which I haven't been able to do for YEARS!!!!!  If I don't get any roles, that's OK.  I simply enjoyed the experience.
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