Dear Poppy,
I can relate... when feelings have been held in, or just completely unrecognized for so long, they tend to develop a life, an objective of their own when first released. This is natural and normal and just a phase, I am sure.
If you're like me, you're so accustomed to doing, and helping, and twisting yourself like a pretzel in order to accomodate everyone around you... wow, there's a vacuum when all that behavior ceases... and nature abhors a vacuum. It's up to us to choose how to fill that void. I thought I had it beat when I conquered the old perfectionism, but that was just the beginning.
Beneath all that was the need to be filled by something other than what I was able to do, and beneath that was the need to be loved by Someone to whom I had nothing to give.
I'm so glad for you that you chose to express your feelings here.
For me, anyway, feelings hold far too much power over my thoughts when they remain unexpressed, and that's when the whole picture begins to warp.
And... this may be premature, but your feeling of overflowing with so much to give... Poppy, that's part of the whole "highly sensitive" scenario that I know so well. I think back to some of your earliest posts here and how I was absolutely tongue-tied in trying to respond... just brimming over. My fingers trip over each other just remembering... and same thing now... but I do understand.
With love,
Hope