NH Bagworm Does It Again- Bleeh!

[isittoolate]

Oh My Good Heavens, Leah\

Then I am NOT craZY-----Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeek I wonder how many people have lived in this apt. before MOI!????

At least it was clean fore 1 day!

ALL their oooooey goooooey things could still be in the carpeting. (Well the lino on the kitchen and bathroom floors looks like what people had on their kitchen floors when I was a kid.) OLd!!

I want new, but Superintendant said my lino is still in good shape.

Someone told me to pour hot water under it, if there is an opening. (There Is but I haven't) Then it would bulge then dry out and would crack----especially  if I rolled over it, Ha Ha!!!!!

Thanks for responding, or I would have thought I was the only one as well.

Love
Izzy

[changing]

My Dear Friends-

I am back in my comfy pillowtop bed with an insane amount of pillows and crisp white linens, cozy comforters, chamomile tea, vanilla candles, etc- it is heaven!!! Not done with the house by a long shot, but my room is back to normal (except some storage boxes stacked up) Have to finish my paper, though!

Hoppy-

The wood floors are being redone. The walls are being painted Swiss Coffee, except the bath. The bath floor was redone with a faux stone tile- light with veins of natural colors. Everything is chrome, cool shower curatin rod, curtain rod , linen rack, robe hooks, cabinet knobs, etc. The tiled shower (tiled all around and overhead )is sand colored, as is the tile around the tub. The paint picks up the dominant tile color. The shower curtain, cutains towels and rugs are white cotton. I have a lovely chrome vase with masses of white flowers with a few tiny red-orange ones in it, and lots of chrome boxes for all of my stuff. I got those Glade electric candles and placed them all about. It looks very immaculate and serene in there. I haven't finished the kitchen. The living room has a wood floor and Swiss Coffee walls and ceilings. The ding room the same except there is a big window looking out on my back yard and the little fountain and potted floors , etc. I don't have much money, but am getting furniture piece by piece- None in those two rooms yet!!!)  It is fun Hoppy, and I love exorcising the Bagworm from the premises in this way!

(((((Leah)))))-

Thank you for sharing your rainbow with me! I appreciate the Love, Peace , Hope and Joy you sent, and will take them with me tomorrow when I have to turn in my paper!


Lighter-

Your instructions on attorneys, etc really came in handy and provided great guidance. I am very glad that my lawyer is getting everything ready ahead of time, and that he sees what the Bagweorm is doing. I noticed , however, that in one of his letters to opposing council he said ":As you know our clients are not within the norm"-in other words we're both nuts!!! Maybe he will see as time goes by, that I am not exaggerating about Bagworm and his propensities. If I told him everything that I have posted here, he would really think I'm wacky, but I edited the N violations down.

My Darling Izzy-

The workers are young. I was urging them to leave and go out on the town, and they just stayed. How sweet is that? I am snuggled in my lovely bed, feeling super clean and cozy!!!Ahh!!My cases are all printed out, so I can finish my paper here on my laptop...How great is that?

[changing]

OOOOPS- I posted too soon, so I will continue-

Leah and Izzy- the usual method of commercial carpet cleaning leaves gunk in and adds residue as well. There is a new type that doesn't use soap, etc and actually takes out the stains- I will get the name and post it tomorrow.


Thank you again everyone for bearing with me through this ridiculous journey away from NH Bagworm. I know that to others who haven't been through this, it looks like I am just complaining over and over about the same thing, but actually progress is being made- this is a process not a transaction, as Ns keep coming back and back at one, which is why I keep posting about Bagworm antics and violations...Also, as I am so isolated (do Ns choose isolated victims like lions choose limping prey?) that the insight, smarts and support you have so generously shared with me have been invaluable- it has truly made the difference in my life in being able to work towards getting NH Bagworm-free. You are all a precious balm for my heart.

Love From Your Grateful Friend,

Changing

[JanetLG]

Changing,

You are NOT 'complaining over and over about the same thing'. If you went back to the beginning when you joined the forum, you might see the progress you've made, that everyone else can see!

You're doing great, don't worry about it!

Janet

[lighter]

Changing:

I don't think you attorney meant anything in your letter that you wouldn't agree with.

When he said.... "Neither client is typical" or whatever..... I took it that he meant there's abuse involved..... a jackass jackal riding a handicapped woman insanely.

Not all clients fit that criteria

[Overcomer]

Changing-I am imagining the scenario like I am watching a movie.  I feel like all your new chrome and everything has a Pottery Barn feel to it.  Your bed feels crisp and is without left over Bag germs on it!  If you do not mind, could you tell me what sort of disability you have?  I might have missed it-I have been in the midst of all my own stuff that I have not stayed plugged in as I wished.

[Leah]

Dear ((((( Changing )))))

Definitely NOT, you are not 'complaining over and over about the same thing' --- not one tiny bit, not at all 

Every good wish to you today with your paper.

Your home emits a real sense of serenity, and truly, such a wonderful setting for your new life with new beginnings.  So very very happy for you.

I am back in my comfy pillowtop bed with an insane amount of pillows and crisp white linens, cozy comforters, chamomile tea, vanilla candles, etc

Oh, that sounds like pure bliss to me.

All of this fills me to the brim with uplifting encouragement to persevere with my list of things to do and get done, here in my home, as I have determined, that my home will again be a haven of love, peace, joy and serenity --- with its doors thrown open wide for dear folk to enter in and enjoy sincere hospitality and fellowship.

That's my hearts desire for my new life ahead, with new beginnings.

Bless you Changing.

Love, Leah

[Ami]

Dear Changing,
  What a beautiful picture of you on your "comfy" bed.Kelly,I picture "Pottery Barn" ,too. To answer your question about N's;they chose "isolated "  prey.IF the prey is not isolated ,the N WILL isolate them. My H tried to turn Maria against me. Now, that I think of it, He tried to tell Maria that I was "crazy"---YIKES(in light of my last thread). MY H is trying to take away my mental health, too---just like my M.
  SORRY for the digression--it just hit me.
   Changing, one day ,I would like to hear how you kept yourself so intact in spite of all your challenges:how you didn't shatter inside.
  Changing,I am so happy for you and so glad that I "know" you.               Love   Ami


((((((((((((((((((((Changing)))))))))))))))))))))

[changing]

Hello Janet , Lighter, Overcomer, Leah, Ami-

Thank you for the lovely posts. I do love Pottery Barn catalogues- have never been to their store, though. The bath is sort of a Pottery Barn/Country Home mix.  I take pictures from Architectural Digest, catalogues, Victorian Home, etc, and try to copy what I like a closely as possible on my miniscule budget. I used to do florist work, so I get a discount at the Mart and can do professional looking arrangements for the rooms. It looks like it works rather well if you cross your eyes while you are looking st the finshed product! ( Though I will never be able to copy the bath of my dreams on the cheap , saw it in Atrchitectural Digest built by a set designer on an estate- unique and out of this world!) It feels so good to have the Bagworm scraped off the walls and floors. His stuff is outside and packed in plastic boxes- he hasn't retrieved it STILL (another appointment made for this Saturday night at 5:00- he needs to send a list and confirm, has never done this, so.... and still gives his old work this address , so they send stuff here, this time a huge box with his Company Christmas Gift in it (he doesn't want them to know where he is living and who he is consorting with now- that could lose him his Work Comp case as it appears that he might be dealing with some rather nefarious characters, not in keeping with what he said in his deposition)

Bagworm is not paying his bills, and I keep getting calls. My lawyer told me to give the callers his Moron Lawyer's number and address, but the larger issue is whether or not I will be stuck with paying them! My lawyer assures  me that he is working on this, but who knows- these Ns are unusually treacherous. I'm sure our savings are all gone by now, that jackal!!! He was bankrupt when we married, even though he made big money. I dedicated myself to sacrificing to turn that around- how sick is that?!?!?!That N FOO of mine throwing me away really taught me some unhealthy self-denigrating habits!!! NEVER AGAIN!!! And as for my friend (the one I paid $600 to for the idea of a room (another good joke Lighter)), I will no longer bail her out , either! BLEEH!!!

Thank you again for your encouragement.

Love and Peace,

Changing

[Iphi]

He was bankrupt when we married, even though he made big money. I dedicated myself to sacrificing to turn that around- how sick is that?!?!?!That N FOO of mine throwing me away really taught me some unhealthy self-denigrating habits!!! NEVER AGAIN!!! And as for my friend (the one I paid $600 to for the idea of a room (another good joke Lighter)), I will no longer bail her out , either! BLEEH!!!

I know exactly, exactly, exactly how this goes and how it feels and I am SO GLAD to hear you say it and value your lovely self changing!

[isittoolate]

(((((((((Changing)))))))))

I am so happy about your bed post (ha--bed post--do you get it? ha ha!) and all the pillows and I picture it all in white and you in a white negligee with a white bow in your hair and looking like Vivian Leigh beiing spoiled by Rhett Butler  Wwwwwwwhoo whoo

The craziness continues, but I've never heard you complain, and I feel you are about to soon see the end of it all. What a grand relief that will be!!

Bagworm sounds like the worst of the Ns, referred to on Board, but that is becasue he has a name.

And you are in school and finishing, let alone starting, your papers.

You are a joy to behold!

Love Izzy

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[Hopalong]

Oh it sounds absolutely lovely, Changing.
My inner decorating diva is heaving great envious sighs.

(Naaaah. She's gonna be fine when I can release her one day.)
Note to self:
Step
back
from
the
orange
paint

I am so glad you have this comfort and pleasure and that you're unashamed to create a nurturing space for yourself! Tells me a lot about why you're so emotionally healthy, despite it all.

love
Hops

[changing]

My Dear Iphi , Shunned, Izzy , and Hoppy-

I turned my paper in at law school today with a big 5 minutes to spare until the deadline. Lawyers, police, Bagworms, hearings ,etc have eaten up my time and energies and my paper stunk- but I did it and turned it in! It was something I could have (coulda shoulda) excelled in, but now I just pray that I passed!!!

Iphi- Thank you for understanding. Love and compassion is one thing- rescuing vile Bagworms is quite another!!!

Shunned- OOOH I do love your idea. maybe I'll use a mister when/if bagworm shows up to get his stuff!!!

Izzy-Thank you for the diploma, etc! it made me smile after the lousy paper I turned in!!! But I will do better after stinky Bagworm is eradicated from my life!!!! (IN MARCH!)

Hoppy-You know I actually saw a guy in the paint store the other day buying an extremely vivid orange color of paint, specialy mixed. I asked what he was going to paint with it, and he said "A bedroom."
You would laugh if you saw how bare things are here, but I love it. It's clutter/Bagworm free in most rooms!!! I don't know if I'm all that emotionally healthy, but I do have a tendency to be easily amused and can usually forget about whatever is bothering me when it isn't in the immediate picture, and be happy (except for extreme issues, as when my poor brother was strapped to his hospital bed in extremis and suffering, and no one would sign the do not resucitate order- I had no peace then, day or night.) I really think that having you and my other friends/counselors  here has made all the difference to me and my life. I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart!

Love and Thanks,

Changing

[lighter]

Changing:  I don't understand why Bagworm can't just get his things while you're not there.  Can't he just get his things from the yard and NOT GO INTO THE HOUSE?

That little shit.  ::eye twitching::

I suppose they can offset his blowing all the joint savings with other things?  Like the equity in the house?  His becoming responsible for certain other bills? 

Don't fret over that paper..... as long as it was turned in.... it's ok.  As long as you pass you're moving forward and it'll be all right.

Why don't you know where he lives yet, or do you?  WHat happened with that Private Eye?

[Leah]

Dear Changing,

You are truly, a wonderful genuine person, and it is a real privilege to know you.

As Izzy says, quite rightly; You are a Joy to Behold.

Love & Blessings,

Leah