Should I be angry, Dr. G?

[Overcomer]

It it the hurt in my back that is a constant reminder that I have to free myself from her.  Now the bookkeeper will leave too and she and my aunt can go down with the ship.  In 2005 we made a profit and it was the only year she backed off.  I proved myself.  Mom you reap what you sow.  You are screwed because you have screwed so many others.

[Overcomer]

I have a job interview next Wednesday.  I applied awhile ago and just got a call yesterday.  Exactly the day I needed it.  I came home about to cry knowing I was trapped in a no win situation.  I listened to the message and then called me today.  It is a job which is half time in the store and half time calling on businesses.  't sounds like me.  A hybrid job of things I have experience in-sales and retail.  I will not feel jailed and can earn commission!

[Hopalong]

That's great news Kel!!!!

You NEED to be out and about and get a chance to interact with other people.

Fingers and toes crossed for you.

love
Hops

[Overcomer]

Thank you Hops!  Yesterday was a revelation day.  Is was not that I wanted to move on- I HAVE to move on.  It was not that I was mad at mom it was that I was sick and the reason for it was working with my mom.  I am going to tell her that I all of a sudden realized that my health was being compromised.  My health depends upon not being with my mom day in and day out.  Problem is without me she is screwed-without her I am great!  She cannot do it without me but because of her stubbornness I win!

[Ami]

So happy for you, Kelly.    Love   Ami

[Overcomer]

Thanks Am-I am happy and scared!

[Leah]

Sincerely, very best wishes with this new opportunity (((( Kelly ))))

[Overcomer]

I am climbing out a little at a time.  Before we worked together my mom had TOTAL control over me.  Six years ago I alex up and set boundaries with my mom outside of work.  I have been thrashing around for these last six years trying to shake my mom and her constant disapproval and scrutiny.  I have made many attempts to leave-once I left and jumped out of the frying pan and into the fire.  This bipolar inference was the push I needed to force me to walk.  My health is suffering.

[Ami]

I am sorry, Kelly. I know how much emotional issues can effect the body---bleh. They really work, as one unit,for better or worse,
                    Love   Ami

[Overcomer]

I have been googling pain and stress.  Does stress make P M S worse?  Does stress trigger bipolar?  Does stress cause heart problems-arthritis-weight gain-etc.  The answer to all tore questions is yes.  My mom walks into the business and my back starts to ache.  All this time and all this frustration and I finally figure my health is jeopardized.  That is all the rationale I need.  Now how do I inform them that I am out of there but bide my time until I find that job?

[Dr. Richard Grossman]

Hi Kelly,

Counselors are often wrong, particularly if they don't do complete evaluations of both parties--which includes a full personal history.  Such a personal history involves sitting with each party alone for two full sessions and asking many questions about every aspect of their lives.  I could not begin to assign responsibility for any current situation until I had this crucial information. I hope this helps.

Best,

Richard

[Overcomer]

Thank you Dr G.  I know my mom probably jumped on the word as a reason for my behavior.  I was so compliant for so many years that I am sure she offer a reason for the change.  I stayed home from work with a cold and just sent an email to her with a cc to my aunt.  I told her I had to quit since I believe my health is suffering from the constant stress.  We will see what happens.  Thanks for responding.  I knew what he said was out of line-I would NEVER recommend him.

[Overcomer]

Well my mom emailed me and told me it was borderline NOT bipolar.  So I googled that and I can see how she may think that is what I have-a lot of what they outlined seemed to fit me.  But I do not know how she can admit the childhood neglect or the incest they suggest triggers it.  I told her it is so like her to not take responsibility for ANY of it.  The therapist could not diagnose her as she presented herself as perfect.  I could have gone in first and presented myself as perfect.

[Ami]

Dear Lollie
 I hope you would reconsider leaving the board.I would miss you and I value your voice, greatly. Whatever happens on the board will happen outside our door(IMO) I need to learn how to deal with life, using my voice. We, voiceless people, have an incredible gift from Dr G.I want to take the opportunity to learn what I could not as a child b/c I had to protect my M, not the other way around.
  I hope you will give it some more thought,Lollie.  Love    Ami



PS Sorry for the hijack, Kelly

[Overcomer]

Thanks Lollie!  I know I should not try to diagnose but I am trying to figure out why I am over the top.  My pms Is so bad that I assume it is pmdd.  I am doing lab work tomorrow and going to the doc in early May.  Well my mom and her biased t made me decide withon ANY reservation that it is time to move on for real and never look back!  My aunt told me my mom is paralyzed.  I told her to tell my mom she better get back in there to TRY to run it because I am GONE!  I know she can't.