Dealing With Lies From The N.

[BonesMS]

It seems that every time I think I've got a handle on things, something else pops up that triggers the emotional roller coaster.

I've been working on genealogy and discovered several of NWomb-Donor's lies during my research.  I was able to print out the documentation and confronted her with it, only to get the "evil grin".  She died a few months later.  One of the "stories" she insisted on telling was that my late father was too young to enlist in World War I and too old for World War II.  The other day, I found documentation that CLEARLY showed that my late father filled out the REQUIRED paperwork for the draft during World War I and he was CLEARLY the right age to be drafted!!!!!  (He was 21 years old!  His poor eyesight was most likely the reason why he did not go into the military.)  Finding ANOTHER one of NWomb-Donor's lies makes me want to stomp on her grave!!!!

Bones

[lighter]

Sorry about the roller coaster, ((Bones))

It'll never make sense: /

Mo2

[debkor]

Amazing Bones eh!  All the lies that you find out many years later.  As Mof2 said   IT WILL NEVER MAKE SENSE why these even were lies. 

I'm sorry about this up and down ride but it will level out. 

Love
Deb

[gratitude28]

You know, Bones, two years ago I had a hard time believing my NM lied... Now I know she lies about EVERYTHING. She lies and she is sneaky... just for fun. I think some of it is intentional, and some of it is lying just because she WANTS to believe something - like a child.
xxoo Hang in there!!
Beth

[Ami]

Dear Bones
 I struggle with the cycle of hatred, trying to 'forgive" and struggling to go on and leave it behind.
 Ours is really  a different ride than people who did not have N parents.
  My friend had  parents who  did not  boomerranged his life. He can't really understand me. I have a friend whose M's molested her  as mine did.
 It is wonderful to feel a soul connection with people who had the same  and wonderful to see the possibility of living life free like people who were not interefered with.
 Will I ever approximate "normal"?
 Normal to me is accepting and loving myself.  I hope I can love and accept myself someday. That is the way out, I think.
 I am sorry that your NM keeps on "giving" and giving like the Energizer Bunny from Hell. My heart goes out to you, Bones and I understand.    Love   Ami

[BonesMS]

Sorry about the roller coaster, ((Bones))

It'll never make sense: /

Mo2

No, it will NEVER make sense; ESPECIALLY when the messages received were usually:  "DO AS I SAY, NOT AS I DO!"

Bones

[BonesMS]

Amazing Bones eh!  All the lies that you find out many years later.  As Mof2 said   IT WILL NEVER MAKE SENSE why these even were lies. 

I'm sorry about this up and down ride but it will level out. 

Love
Deb

Thanks, Deb!

Bones

[BonesMS]

You know, Bones, two years ago I had a hard time believing my NM lied... Now I know she lies about EVERYTHING. She lies and she is sneaky... just for fun. I think some of it is intentional, and some of it is lying just because she WANTS to believe something - like a child.
xxoo Hang in there!!
Beth

Thanks, Beth.

I discovered that a LOT of her lies were self-serving because she was SO afraid of what would the neighbors think if they found out the truth!

Bones

[BonesMS]

Dear Bones
 I struggle with the cycle of hatred, trying to 'forgive" and struggling to go on and leave it behind.
 Ours is really  a different ride than people who did not have N parents.
  My friend had  parents who  did not  boomerranged his life. He can't really understand me. I have a friend whose M's molested her  as mine did.
 It is wonderful to feel a soul connection with people who had the same  and wonderful to see the possibility of living life free like people who were not interefered with.
 Will I ever approximate "normal"?
 Normal to me is accepting and loving myself.  I hope I can love and accept myself someday. That is the way out, I think.
 I am sorry that your NM keeps on "giving" and giving like the Energizer Bunny from Hell. My heart goes out to you, Bones and I understand.    Love   Ami

Thanks, Ami.

NWomb-Donor can ROT in hell!

Bones

[getnbtr]

I swear, it's pure evil! Seems they have a choice but think they can GET AWAY with things. If they want to be lead by the devil...let the devil have em! Let him play with them the way they have played with us!

[BonesMS]

I swear, it's pure evil! Seems they have a choice but think they can GET AWAY with things. If they want to be lead by the devil...let the devil have em! Let him play with them the way they have played with us!

AMEN to that!

Bones

[gratitude28]

Yes, get!!!!!! They like to play a game all the time. Even when the N could be straighforward and honest, they would rather be underhanded and sneaky. That irritates me more than anything now. I don't need or want games in my life. I refuse to play, and NM hates me for it. She still plays her own form of game where I am concerned (in what she tells other people and in the fact that she portrays herself as having an interest in our lives).
Love, Beth

[getnbtr]

The lies wear me out. I have to ask NH so many questions trying to figure out the truth that it becomes exhausting! It is a smear when they make up stories about you, my NH likes to tell people that I am sick. What makes my blood boil is when he takes credit for something that I have done or steals a story that I have told him about something that I have done, I think he believes what he says too, it's just too weird and exhausting.

[BonesMS]

The smear campaigns and character assassinations are the worse, IMHO.

Bones

[BonesMS]

Last night, I was out with friends and found myself in the position of expressing empathy to two of them.  Their mother died some months ago and their only sister is the executrix of their mother's estate.  The problem is that the sister is a full-blown, flaming N who is attempting to manipulate the situation and trying to keep EVERYTHING for herself in spite of the mother's WRITTEN will dividing everything equally among her children.  On top of that, she is DEMANDING that her brothers deed over their cemetery plot for her late husband's ashes, (ignoring the fact that she treated her late husband like !@#$ while he was alive).  Her brothers have repeatedly told her "NO!" to her demands and they were describing her ranting, raging, screaming, tantrums, manipulations and lies that she has been pulling since their mother died.  (Sounds familiar!)  I commented that their sister sounds like she has full-blown NPD and to stand their ground with her.  One of the brothers is looking for a lawyer, that is knowledgeable about probating wills, so that they can get things settled ASAP.  I don't envy these two friends.  This NSister is a complete pain-in-the-a$$!

Bones