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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Yard
« Last post by lighter on April 22, 2019, 09:55:57 PM »
Today was glorious!  Just amazing... sunny and breezy, and almost cool, and almost hot.... just perfect.  Breezy.  Sunny.  So nice!


I hope it lasts a while.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Relationship
« Last post by lighter on April 22, 2019, 09:48:29 PM »
Wowsers, Hops... that's some update. 

And, it feels like 2 weeks to me! 
Three months?!?
 Holy cow!  That's a relationship!

::nod::.

You're in a wonderful relationship, HOPS!

::jumping up and down::.

This is so different.  So joyful.  So relaxed, and comfortable! 

I couldn't be happier for you... not at all. 

Thanks for checking in.

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Yard
« Last post by Hopalong on April 22, 2019, 07:19:15 PM »
Oh poor DD with the knee, Lighter!
What an amazing thing for her to go through on her
own in a foreign country! I'll bet this matures her a lot,
despite the pain and shock. Hope she heals fast and in
the meantime, that her chin is up a notch.

Sorry you have to deal with water issues on your property,
but how much great foresight you've had to tackle it ahead
of spring rain. Hope your sister left a good space behind her.

Amber, your projects as always sound so productive and
wonderful. Love the idea of kitchen gardens, and blocks.
I have had a veggie bed plan but can't get my usual guy
to commit to particular days/times, endless frustration.
So I'm going to leave the mowing to him and find someone
else to help me with other yard stuff.

I recommended Esteban so widely he now barely has time
for me. Happy his business is booming but also...disappointed.

All is well anyway. Spring here is insanely lovely, and short lived.
So I'll focus on enjoying it.

xxoo
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Relationship
« Last post by Hopalong on April 22, 2019, 07:14:01 PM »
Still joyful, happy and deeply grateful.
We are in sync, talking about the future,
mulling over options and scenarios.

It's hard to believe it's been just three months,
he so feels like part of me. He feels the same.

I am moving from stunned to ... inner peace.
He is the person who came along when I needed
My Person, and warts and all (on both ends), we fit.

So far it remains true and I'm really happy about it.

He writes me ridiculously romantic emails and continues
to cook gourmet dinners for me twice a week. His obsession
with Great Food is one reason he's too heavy, but it's a pleasant
problem for me. Long term, I'll be concerned about his health,
but other than offering a quiet example as I make and often bring
what I call Industrial Salads, that's all I want to do.

There is a deep emotional connection and affinity between us
that is really astonishing and moving. He has two more years
of being a professor to go, so we're doing everything from looking
at listings of houses in Sonoma to reconsidering staying here, living
together in his big house while I rent out mine... and who knows
what else. Lots of travel ideas too (he's invited to lecture in Beijing)....

It's just ri di cu lous and despite various fears of change, I'm happy!

xxoo
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness
« Last post by Hopalong on April 22, 2019, 07:07:04 PM »
Quote
I sound like a cheerleader who smokes.

A poet! Another poet amongst us!

 :D :D :D

So glad you're on the mend, Lighter.

hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Embracing The Positive
« Last post by Hopalong on April 22, 2019, 07:05:41 PM »
(What Lighter said.)

And if joy is fleeting or comes and goes, remember it CAME
and will do so again.

Just like seasons. Just like spring.

xxxxoooo
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Yard
« Last post by sKePTiKal on April 22, 2019, 09:21:12 AM »
Well, last week I got all the concrete blocks - from old garden area - set to make kitchen beds around the parking area. Hol secured the stacks with rebar, but advised I need longer pieces. I've had old half-rotted firewood in that area and spread wood ash from the stoves there. I'll line the blocks (there are always gaps) with weed fabric, then fill with last year's topsoil. THEN I can plant stuff!

Mowing and trimming and tree pruning/removal is next on the list. I need fuel, service the big mower, and fire it up... and need to restock some things to keep up with the work. Mother nature is persistently a demanding task master.

Ordered 100 myrtle (vinca minor) to plant over the propane tank bank. It's bare dirt and will wash, unless I get something planted there. It's great stuff; it self propagates; and with my "problem areas" of poor soil, is really useful. Grass seed I spread is starting to sprout now, since we had a day's worth of really good rain. I still need to work out the details of a fence - the basic design - to contain the dogs.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Relationship
« Last post by lighter on April 21, 2019, 09:09:56 PM »
Hi, Hops.

Update please?

Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: In my father's house
« Last post by lighter on April 21, 2019, 01:48:07 PM »
Tupp:

My dad did have that sense of action in emergencies.  He was very competent, and capable. 

I notice I truly do think "What would my father do?" when something goes wrong.  He's been an inspiration during tough times in my life.  He looms largest in my mind, and I think I'm a bit surprised by that really.

Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness
« Last post by lighter on April 21, 2019, 12:38:26 PM »
I'm feeling much better now, but can tell not up to full steam.  Balance still a bit off, and I sound like a cheerleader who smokes.

The flu's been bad this year, particularly on the elderly.

I think clean ocean air would be wonderful.  Enjoy it for me, Tupp: )

And Happy Easter!

Lighter
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