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Well, it's early for the temp drop but I'm sure liking it! Windows open, ac set to not turn on (and might just turn it off completely) and breaking out the layers in the mornings.

Putting some finishing touches on mini kitchen in studio. Cleaning. Collecting new furnishings/decor for powder room remodel. Delivery of new work/storage cabinets in 2 weeks. Found replacement doors for cabinets holding up my 4x8 table top. And mentally collecting crafty supplies into fun pkg for a friend's daughter, Althea.

Then, it's on to cleaning up garden beds to "try again" next year - sigh.
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73 degrees here, Amber.  Breezy.  Overcast, but clearing into blue sky's.  Just a crisp, beautiful day!

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It's 48 here this morning (Tuesday) Lighter.
Almost going from high summer to fireplace weather...
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Not sure if DD22 has strep, mono or tonsillitis, but we went to urgent care yesterday morning.  Meds have her feeling much better today.

Went to favorite Chinese Restaurant for Salt and Pepper Squid with xtra jalapenos and an order of Chow Fun with shrimp, snow peas leaves and carrots....that meal's been a favorite since the girls were tiny. Yum!

We organize, clean and leave for lake this evening.

Weather cooling a bit.

Lighter




 
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Checking In
« Last post by Hopalong on August 30, 2024, 03:09:07 PM »
I've had a few friends who talk that way for 90 minutes.

Today, though, I can't do it. The main one starts up and after a while I'll say kindly, I've got about 10 more minutes, can you give me the summary?

I've felt in the past huge anxiety building when I NEEDED to interrupt her stream-of-consienceness but DIDN'T. I think the art of "gentle interruption" is key, and gets easier with practice.

But it sounds like your friend never took a breath. It's difficult to interrupt when you believe in politeness and patience as core values. But having an alligator chomping inside your guts and screaming brain while they drone onnnnnnnnnnnnnn is difficult too.

Rest up! I get how draining that was.

hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Checking In
« Last post by lighter on August 30, 2024, 08:55:01 AM »
Ugh.....sorry you're reliving it.  Maybe a little autism going, as I notice a duty towards giving all "relevant" facts often when recounting experiences too!  It's tedious for me!

How's the house hunt going?

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Captain's Log - 2024
« Last post by lighter on August 30, 2024, 08:51:46 AM »
Glad your herbs are hanging in.  One of our peach trees was torn apart ...deer?  Human?  Not sure what did the damage, but likely it won't survive.

I'm sending motivation vibes to B's care team and hoping they dial his needs in soon.

Lighter
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It's a Vitamin deficiency in the brain, typically related to alcoholism.  Loss of motor function and was sad to watch him try to appear normal while extremely chatty and obviously impaired.  He posted up on the kitchen so we took turns dealing with him.  My sister picked him up off the driveway a couple times and that's all I have to say about that.

I'm having coffee on my bad ass friend's porch.  Just saw a hawk land in the trees then launch magnetically in the direction he came from.  A tiny lizard just went by.....unafraid.   I'm pouring a bath in friend's garden tub.  It's nice.

We made a late dinner last night .....9pm lettuce wraps SO good.  Traffic into my old stomping grounds as bad as ever, but DD22 has Dragon Con business and I'll be visiting my father's gf of 18 years, before he chose the maid over her.  Will be curious to see if she remembers the bitterness she felt towards them as dementia takes her mind.

I'm so happy her gum surgery healed enough to eat regular food and chemo was on 22nd so she should be able to enjoy food.....I hope.  My go to nurture stance is to feed and clean.I found fancy fudge and will take her out for brunch then dinner today.

She has it in her mind I'm having a sleepover with her tonight.....and I just might if it's not difficult.

Alcoholism is a terrible coping strategy and my sister and I ended up cleaning mailman's trash for him.  It went quickly with rubber gloves and 2 people loading into big industrial trash bags.  Not sure what that means, but I ran late all day with my choices being what they were.  Have to give that more thought, but off to next adventure now!

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Captain's Log - 2024
« Last post by sKePTiKal on August 30, 2024, 08:30:12 AM »
OH... and the stimulator has been causing problems for him, and has been bumblingly "in process" now, since the spring. Meanwhile, I'm doing what I can with herbs to help with the muscle spasms/pain. I still need to order some teasel root.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Captain's Log - 2024
« Last post by sKePTiKal on August 30, 2024, 08:24:28 AM »
Not much progress to report. B is still away for a few more weeks - unless he just can't stand it anymore and decides to come home and with what's waiting for him here (two jeeps to maintain, 4 wheelers to rebuild, etc projects). Hol & I, mostly Hol... have managed to knock a few more "little pieces" off the studio list. One last one to complete - window trim is up; needs caulked, primed, painted.

Boys successfully made it home in their new truck, at least one is working and we've pointed the other in a couple directions. Instead of moving states away from home, they are contemplating moving to a bigger city a few hours away.

We had a torrential storm, the day before they all left. Washed out the new pad, under the equipment shed contractor had built (and hasn't finished)... because when contractor graded driveway, he didn't include drainage ditch on upside of Hol's driveway. Fortunately, her friends were here with equipment who jumped to, as the rain was ending and helped that situation out. Contractor is STILL messing about trying to get her solar-powered gate opener installed. I feel more confident in the electrician's ability to finish this. It's been going on, 3 months now. <rolleyes>  I understand he's really busy but he kept promising "next week" until we just rolled our eyes & ignored him. I even got involved, when he kept blowing Hol's questions off.

Still waiting on delivery of my commissioned work cabinets. I understand his day job has picked up a little but they're almost done... and I can't put things away or organize until they're here.

Seems S is now completely out of the picture. There have been some housekeeping details to finish up. But that's done, and she seems to be enjoy seeing C and spending time with him. He's renovating a house nearby, and she's looking forward to helping him. Then, they're planning some extensive travel together. I'm not sure how that's going to work with the dogs... and maybe it'll never happen. Don't know right now. But, she IS getting her social appetite satiated with getting out more & seeing/helping friends and having them over. I think she's planning to move her studio out to the garage... and then rearrange her house a little better to suit herself.

Contractor friend is highly interested in her, too. But respects boundaries. I like him a LOT and he is a good counter to her and her big ego.

I've been enjoying as much "quiet time" as I can, because I know fall is almost here and B will be back, and Hol's social meter pegs out at the top end then, too. B and I have lots of projects to work on by ourselves. Neither of us likes Hol's dive in and just get it done - all the while bossing everyone around - work attitude. We move slower and more deliberately, easier.

B is hitting more obstacles in the process of trying to get approval for the stimulator lead change. They're having a 3rd party medical "advisor" weigh in on whether this is medically "necessary".... so B's filed a grievance. And the insurance people even required him to get notarized "proof of identity" - even though he's had an open case number with them since '94!! <rolleyes>

It's almost time to think about bringing plants in, and getting snow shovels out... and I still have 3 comfrey plants to get outside. Might do that while we have plenty of rain in the forecast. I think last year's planting was about this time, too. Miraculously, it appears most of the herbs survived the drought.
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