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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Play Hookey
« Last post by Meh on Today at 01:34:10 AM »
I hope mother's email was an apology for what she'd put you through. Maybe there's hope?

But I know hope is the small thing with feathers that raptors go after, sometimes.

I felt like a fox in a holding trap when I was in my most dead-end jobs; I understand.

I like hearing of you having a long weekend and treating yourself to some hair care. Bravo.

And meanwhile, peace to you, dear. From wherever it may come.

hugs
Hops


Thanks out there.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Play Hookey
« Last post by Meh on Today at 01:31:59 AM »
Sometimes, a haircut, a splurge on some new clothes - at least new to you - can be real self-care.
That's my story & I'm stickin' to it!

AGREED 100%
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Play Hookey
« Last post by Meh on Today at 01:30:57 AM »

Had shot of espresso at work around 3 or 4. Workers bought a fancy machine recently.

Now I am frazzled and wired.

My father is getting really old was texting him tonight. The whole him talking about assisted living thing is sad and scary. In the background of my life it feels like that looming eventuality is sitting heaving on my shoulders/chest/soul I don't know where but somewhere it's hovering in the shadows... that emotional worry.

Got to get up for work early tomorrow. I just feel burdened in my personal life and then I get to work and the workplace is permeated with young coworkers fake drama. They lose their lanyard for 15 minutes and they turn it into a whole office circus. The boss seems to thrive in this kinda bogus chaos. I need to detach from it and just do my work.

I'm failing at dealing with my own life. All I do is go to work and then when I leave work I think about work or I get barely anything done in my own life. It's a serious problem. I need to conserve my energy.

We were understaffed today at work, it was busy, and some of my coworkers don't do self-management and the nice people pleasing boss is often away so it's a shit show somedays. Someone higher up complimented me supposedly and sent that compliment to my boss today so that's something. Just been at my wits end wanting to yell at my coworkers to SHUT THE FUCK UP and go back to working. I haven't. No meltdowns yet. YET but verging on yes.

Sad and can't sleep yet I guess.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by Hopalong on December 03, 2025, 01:49:45 PM »
No snow yet?
So sorry about Hol's BF's crisis.
But it's good to learn that she has set a clear adult boundary around him visiting before it's better.

Funny, when I learned the term I saw neurodivergent as a welcoming description. Gave me a new way to think of brain differences, and all I heard was "different" in the term, not "defective."

Maybe they both are, it sure is common. My bipolar D is also ADHD, on the spectrum (diagnosed, psychiatric care) and though I'm just ADHD, there is often overlap between the two. It's helped me to pause, especially when anxious around other people or groups, and remind myself that my tendencies to blurt, interrupt, train-talk or be overstimulated sometimes....are not about failure to control myself or a "character flaw" but just how I am sometimes. How I'm wired. No self-loathing any more.

I hope he gets a professional, accurate diagnosis and appropriate treatment soon, poor C.

Overall, Hol's choices sound more adult than reactive and that's wonderful.

Lastly, what a wonderful thing, the way your other forum has supported the man in Montana. I hope he has a great experience as a nomad. I practically know how to build out a skoolie by now, thanks to Bob Wells, not that I could. I've watched hundreds of those videos, plus Living Big in a Tiny House. And now, not so tiny...every Sunday I watch Rewilding Jude, the guy in Scotland. He's not going nomad, but his Scotland adventure on YouTube is so beautifully done.

You and Lighter would enjoy it a lot, I think. He's into DETAIL, and especially a soft green, and I believe he went over the top with an amazing chicken coop. He's also funny, smart and very soothing to watch. Oh, the highlands.

Hang in there and send snow reports!

hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by sKePTiKal on December 02, 2025, 09:07:40 AM »
Yeah my eye appt was cancelled but I didn't get the memo, since i'd opted out of their AI software after confirming my appt. B has appt Thursday, so I was able to get in at noon on that day. If things aren't too crazy in town, maybe we'll eat lunch somewhere. Traffic was INSANE yesterday - based on my years of living there; years ago. It was only the first, so I figured it was just early Christmas shopping or people buying what they needed to bake... until B mentioned the milk & bread panic run before the "storm".

We were forecast to be right on the edge of it. Which we are. Yeah, there's a little ice on the deck - but we have been getting mostly rain, which we desperately needed! The pond level is still down 6-8 ft.

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About that cheese and cracker situation... this year, we're hearing a LOT of stories from people going through pretty hard times. Sometimes emotionally; sometimes financially. It's hitting home more: one of our forum members, older gent - got divorced last year. So he moved to Montana. Then his job evaporated... and he couldn't find another. So he's going nomad. That forum usually has a gift exchange every Christmas and this year we all donated to his cause instead - to get him south of the winter weather. Another member, offered the gift of a good sized travel trailer - that member is going through persistently awful medical stuff. But we had to get the other member from Montana to a straight shot further south. It is now possible, as soon as there's a break in the weather. He said our willingness to help - even with just moral support - is what is keeping him going.

Hol's BF is in some kind of crisis or breakdown. She is TRYING to be supportive of him, but she can't be around him when he's in that state - which has been constant since he got back from being around family - a couple weeks ago. So it's been phone harassment instead. We were having a hang-out afternoon with one of her friends and when BF called (again - sigh) she put him on speaker. He descibes himself (when he's more coherent) as depressed - but this is not any kind of depression I'm aware of. He kinda reminds me of the other friend, that she took to the mental ward at the hospital, because he was suicidal. That guy had me on pins & needles. BF's talk is cognitively incoherent. Makes zippo sense, since he goes from topic 1 to 35, as if they're connected.... back to trying to identify root causes (a techie term, which I've connected with him sometimes using)... and he's clearly in agony.

She will not invite him here until he gets some longer term help for himself, which isn't her. She won't go there - coz he threw her out on Halloween night at 3 am. Both he and her are convinced they're neurodivergent (the fashion of the day; self-diagnosed) because they have some characteristics of high-functioning autism. SIGH. No one listens to mom's common sense or experience. Which doesn't bother me, but I would like to help.

Maybe he's dealing with unresolved trauma, poorly. Maybe there's more to it. She gets upset if I do research into symptoms, and try to diagnose tendencies. But whatever is eating his cracker - he isn't functioning and THAT'S a problem. When he is functioning, he's talented, skilled, and a pleasant human being to be around. So next stop, I'll be looking at symptoms of some existential mental illnesses.

I'd like to hit whomever came up with this "neurodivergent" idea, with a rock. It's convincing young people who are "different" that there's something wrong with them and actually exaggerating those differences beyond practicality. Yes, WE'RE ALL DIFFERENT, FFS. SIGH. Measuring sticks, continuum, degrees.... are simply discarded & dismissed; it's either you are or you aren't. Total B&W thinking.

I hope TikTok goes bankrupt.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by Hopalong on December 01, 2025, 12:57:23 PM »
Amber, I'm DEEPLY impressed by two things especially:

1) Darning.
2) People's cheese sliding way off their crackers.
Thank you for that laugh out loud!

We have mild cold and bright sunshine here today. But I bet Canadian snowflakes are beautiful and taste like maple syrup.

Hope you're staying cozy, worrying less about the left eye as it slooooooowly gets in gear.

Pup and I are mostly lolling around chewing on each other; all is well. He's a maniac.

Well. Except for a calendar conflict I didn't anticipate, so I have to choose between letting down a big UU church's Poetry Vespers program in Detroit (via Zoom, elaborate production with music intervals etc--we're supposed to rehearse tonight) and my Covenant Group, for which I'd committed to leading an extended discussion on death, since the first session went so well). Problem is, both events are on the 4th.

And I hadn't paused to ponder that a recurring meeting through May needed to be added to my 2026 calendar NOW, so I don't screw things up like I just did! I've written the Group's members to ask for grace to skip/postpone, and likewise the Detroit people to bear with me while I wait for their response.

I really need an executive secretary for my executive function but they ran off together and are getting drunk on margharitas somewhere.

Keep Calm and Carry On, note to self....if I can remember to put it on my calendar.


hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by sKePTiKal on December 01, 2025, 08:38:39 AM »
Lighter, did it take awhile for your vision at any particular distance to sharpen up? I'm blurry at mid-far distance and beyond. And my close vision is good enough for most things I do, without readers. I'll ask doc which sacrifice I chose (do I remember correctly?) at followup today. I'll probably need a driving Rx. Unless this improves.

On another note, I'm noticing people's cheese sliding way off their cracker. Probably pre-existing tendencies becoming increasingly unfiltered by the anxiety that seems to be taking over some people. I suppose the holiday has something to add to that, too. Altho, it seems strange that what's supposed to be an easy happy time, is turned so upside down/inside out in reality.

Are all your renovations on hiatus now? Regrouping and resting, before the next phase?

Hops, how are you handling all this cold? Brrrrrrr! We're supposed to get sleet & freezing rain tonight, at a minimum. I'm not sure they're taking the temp differential in various places into their forecasts - just the average temp. And I still have to get out & gather greens for my yule festive decorations.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by lighter on November 29, 2025, 03:04:17 PM »
Amber, I say go wherever you want, for Christmas, and leave the baking for when your eyes completely heal.

Or not.

Whatever you want to do.....embrace it. 
Mine it for all its joy. 

Remember to dance.

Sometimes I forget to dance.
:: nodding::.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by sKePTiKal on November 28, 2025, 12:41:14 PM »
Well the stew was YUMMY! It's freezing cold here (thanks Canada) and big ole fat snowflakes are flying around. S'posed to get maybe 3 inches on Tuesday. I am going to wait till it warms up to collect the greens for Yule decorations.

Thinking about baking for neighbor cookie boxes again this year. Kids kinda nixed my biscotti; they said most people just aren't 'dunkers' and you can't eat it unless it's dunked. I like the hazelnut, almond taste though... so might look around for a cookie instead. Lebkuchen are definitely on the list; maybe a double batch because they last a good while. Don't know yet how much I want to be trapped in the kitchen, though.

Eyes.... are good some days and not so good, others. The left eye is two weeks behind the right one. And I surmise that there is some time & practice involved in "training" my brain to clarify what the eyes are relaying. The close up vision is better than I expected! I darned a black pair of leggings with a single strand black embroidery floss (yep; I know all the needle threading tricks) and Holly said it looked good enough that she didn't even notice. So maybe it's just a matter of being patient. I ran out of antibiotic for the left eye and had trouble getting ahold of doc's office - office got flooded; a big mess I was told - so it took me a bit to get the refill. I'm catching up now. But I think it's the anti-imflammatory drops that are the most important... and I have plenty of those. Follow up appt is Monday, so maybe there will be glasses involved still.

B and I are good. We still have one project on the books - the mudroom - but there is no rush. His part will be done after he cuts/caps a drain pipe through the floor. Then Hol & I will tackle the beadboard. So, I might revisit the idea of going somewhere for Christmas. Just haven't decided yet WHERE. And so that would kill my baking plan... hmmm. Pondering.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Play Hookey
« Last post by sKePTiKal on November 28, 2025, 12:19:47 PM »
Sometimes, a haircut, a splurge on some new clothes - at least new to you - can be real self-care.
That's my story & I'm stickin' to it!
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