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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Thread Deletion
« Last post by lighter on April 02, 2025, 11:47:19 AM » I'm so sorry, Tupp. I'll not make excuses, only say I want more 3D connection and fellowship for you.
I know you're smart and resourceful.
Once a mom of 2 same age sons, as my girls, wanted the trade off playdates. I kept her children and enjoyed being present with her autistic son.....guess he was about 18mo. I learned not to put my face near his, bc he punched. I learned he focused and made eye contact when I sang. We did that and played and played ....4 kids.... playroom was a mess, but went it well. I was super happy with the arrangement. Kids were bathed and fed when other mother picked them up. I'd call that entire day fun.
Come time for the other mother to watch my girls and it lasted an hour before she asked me to come get them....... they'd made a mess of her playroom, "it wasn't working out." I'd watched her kiddos for 6 hours and was feeling great about working with her autistic son.....to painting and making up songs. His Grandmother was astonished at the connection silly singing made. Seemed an ideal situation to me.
I hope you find 3-D connections with other like minded people soon, Tupp.
I hurt you, I see that now. It wasn't my intention.
Come back if it feels right.
Lighter
I know you're smart and resourceful.
Once a mom of 2 same age sons, as my girls, wanted the trade off playdates. I kept her children and enjoyed being present with her autistic son.....guess he was about 18mo. I learned not to put my face near his, bc he punched. I learned he focused and made eye contact when I sang. We did that and played and played ....4 kids.... playroom was a mess, but went it well. I was super happy with the arrangement. Kids were bathed and fed when other mother picked them up. I'd call that entire day fun.
Come time for the other mother to watch my girls and it lasted an hour before she asked me to come get them....... they'd made a mess of her playroom, "it wasn't working out." I'd watched her kiddos for 6 hours and was feeling great about working with her autistic son.....to painting and making up songs. His Grandmother was astonished at the connection silly singing made. Seemed an ideal situation to me.
I hope you find 3-D connections with other like minded people soon, Tupp.
I hurt you, I see that now. It wasn't my intention.
Come back if it feels right.
Lighter