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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025

« Last post by lighter on Today at 03:45:55 PM »

And..... except for C yelling at Hol, and Hol having that aimed at her Nervous System.

A loud laugh upsets our Nervous Systems, sometimes, in the house.
  A 😱 screaming man might be all hands on deck.....maybe. 

That's one relief in having a big, tall guy in the house. Most men (who get loud at women) act calmer around other men, IME.

Stay warm.....garden plans will come when they come
  I wish I could see pics of your projects.

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025

« Last post by sKePTiKal on Today at 06:59:26 AM »

Hello winter my old friend... s'posed to get some snow (no one is committing to how much) tonight & tomorrow. I have another eye checkup Tues. B is still here; but leaving "imminent" - he just can't say when specifically. Hol is tired of being yelled at by C; I don't know if they're talking about it yet... Even after 10 days away from each other. She's fine with it too. Still letting her nervous system settle back down.

Progress is starting on the mudroom - nothing drastic; paint shelves cushioned bench... and I still haven't commited to garden plans yet. Don't think I'm going to pressure myself in that realm this year, either. The sewing projects have been on hold until I think my eyes are good enough to handle the hours of details.

So, same old same old... and pretty pleasant all except the crap I have to print, scan & upload for taxes. Blech.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again

« Last post by Meh on February 20, 2026, 03:01:17 PM »

"It isn’t a conversation because a conversation requires mutuality and new information. What you are describing is a monologue with a required witness.

Why It’s Not Conversing
A real conversation is a "zero-sum" exchange where both people are changed or informed by the interaction. What the narcissist does is different:

Fixed Outcomes: In a conversation, the direction is unknown. With a narcissist, the "end" is already decided: they must be seen as the person with the "correct" taste.

Performance vs. Exchange: They aren't looking for your perspective on the subject; they are looking for a reflection. You are a mirror, not a participant.

The "Captive Audience" Dynamic: Conversations are voluntary. This is a hostage situation where silence is treated as a provocation and disagreement is treated as a "wrong" answer to a task you never applied for."

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: The island

« Last post by Meh on February 18, 2026, 09:29:05 PM »

Send them a hamper of wine and cheese and chocolates.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: The island

« Last post by lighter on February 18, 2026, 07:25:30 PM »

Yay! Water. WiFi and water heater back up and running!!!!

::an hour later::.

Water heater back off again.....

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: The island

« Last post by lighter on February 17, 2026, 03:01:40 PM »

Guests have new DVD player.....water heater installer headed to finish the job, now,  bc he forgot to turn water back on last night..... didn't realize water had pressure, and left.

If water heater works....the last problem of no wifi is mitigated by DVD player, and I've done all I can do.

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Anything again

« Last post by Meh on February 17, 2026, 02:03:11 PM »

Artist Name: Miles Johnston

Art: "Withdrawal"
Art: "Persona Revolution"
Art: "Percept"

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad

« Last post by Hopalong on February 17, 2026, 01:48:07 PM »

Thanks, ((((Lighter)))). It felt good to take joy in other friends, the sunshine, and Pup etc. I was ready to punt him across the room at 430AM when he decided I should wake up....but he's off for the afternoon and I'm chilling out happily. I agree about offering care to people/animals/institutions we value, but not only because we might need them one day. It just expands me on the inside to do stuff like that, regardless.

Meh, I loved your closely-observed story about your dog friend. So real. Sometimes, fostering an elderly dog who REALLY wants to sleep all day anyway is a nice alternative. The other great thing about fostering a pooch is that the relationship is not permanent unless you ask that it be. Meanwhile, you're giving respite, love and comfort to the best soul sisters or brothers on earth. WHAT a difference it makes.

Hope y'all are wallowing in some rays by now.

hugs
Hops

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad

« Last post by lighter on February 17, 2026, 01:12:50 PM »

This is my third attempt to post on this thread.....
what a splendid update, Hops!  Fellowship and shared interests on the calendar. You're deserving, and so very due.

I can feel the warmth of connection, through your happy post.


There's comfort in sorting care,  for beloved pets/people/institutions, just in case we need them, IME.
::looking forward to next update::

Meh, you might consider volunteering at animal shelters, or rescues.  Lots of walking opportunities.

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: The island

« Last post by lighter on February 16, 2026, 08:01:39 PM »

Thanks, Meh.  The guest was all...."where's an extinguisher....wool blanket!?!"  I didn't think about baking soda. The extinguisher was in the dang pantry, btw and there was no fire.

New water heater installed today, but the water pressure was too low to test.

On another note.....a truck and trailer took out the fibre at the ferry dock....so guests have  no wifi AND the DVD player isn't working for them SND the "caretaker" is off island and ghosting my texts and calls about it.

Grrrrrrrr.