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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by sKePTiKal on Today at 02:10:47 PM »These are shrubs; but they get tall. Think lilac bush.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by Hopalong on Today at 12:23:50 AM »I wasn't thinking much about the pollen but was grateful for your windows reminder, Amber.
The second thing that drove it home was Pup sneezing a lot for the last couple days. We set off to take him to his "play camp" around noon and even though I'd just noticed pollen on the windshield, I stupidly cranked down his window for his traffic-supervisor post. He popped back in and sneezed about ten times. Now I'm keeping the screened door shut (sigh) and windows too. Poor little fella, I felt guilty.
I'm intrigued by the "green rooms" for sure. Are you growing elder TREES from seed or are they shrubs?
I'm enjoying vicarious gardening through your posts.
hugs
Hops
The second thing that drove it home was Pup sneezing a lot for the last couple days. We set off to take him to his "play camp" around noon and even though I'd just noticed pollen on the windshield, I stupidly cranked down his window for his traffic-supervisor post. He popped back in and sneezed about ten times. Now I'm keeping the screened door shut (sigh) and windows too. Poor little fella, I felt guilty.
I'm intrigued by the "green rooms" for sure. Are you growing elder TREES from seed or are they shrubs?
I'm enjoying vicarious gardening through your posts.
hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.
« Last post by Hopalong on April 11, 2026, 07:34:03 PM »Planning and trying. NICE verbs to read here!
Gaslighting? Not as nice, but we can gray-rock most attempts to choke or burn us, eh? That did sound like a specially dumb one, but you're too busy planning and trying to let it sideline you.
Carry on!
hugs
Hops
Gaslighting? Not as nice, but we can gray-rock most attempts to choke or burn us, eh? That did sound like a specially dumb one, but you're too busy planning and trying to let it sideline you.
Carry on!
hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.
« Last post by Meh on April 11, 2026, 03:16:57 PM »-- Strange gaslighting this morning. Narcissist was saying I look like I have a foot injury etc. I mean it's just so bizarre sometimes.
What was I doing. Planning my week activities. Going back to trying to do something.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: facing the world
« Last post by Hopalong on April 11, 2026, 01:10:31 PM »Yes, horror to spare. It's real work to require it to leave my body, but I do.
Counterintuitively, one source of recent comfort has been WWII stories. I think because that was an era when we did the right thing, at much sacrifice. Morality was clearer then, despite how the war ended. The Greatest Generation humbles me and stirs hope still.
Reality is still my friend when it comes to information, and I still respect wisdom and genuine expertise, including institutions where they thrive.
I don't think we can ever go "back" really, but many young people also give me hope. Not the poor vapid ones on social media, but those with clear positive plans and the energy to fight for them.
Just noticed how often I said "still" and maybe therein lies peace. Back to "The Peace of Wild Things" by Wendell Berry. It's been below my email signature for years. A subliminal reminder.
hugs
Hops
Counterintuitively, one source of recent comfort has been WWII stories. I think because that was an era when we did the right thing, at much sacrifice. Morality was clearer then, despite how the war ended. The Greatest Generation humbles me and stirs hope still.
Reality is still my friend when it comes to information, and I still respect wisdom and genuine expertise, including institutions where they thrive.
I don't think we can ever go "back" really, but many young people also give me hope. Not the poor vapid ones on social media, but those with clear positive plans and the energy to fight for them.
Just noticed how often I said "still" and maybe therein lies peace. Back to "The Peace of Wild Things" by Wendell Berry. It's been below my email signature for years. A subliminal reminder.
hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026
« Last post by Hopalong on April 11, 2026, 11:54:53 AM »Thanks, (((((y'all)))))).
I felt a little foolish about all the hilarity I tried to wring from it. It's linoleum. But it was good that this got me a little more focused again on the BD. Big Declutter.
It's going to take a long long time, Lighter. Not just kitchen but throughout the house. It does help I have the nice young person who really needs the gig coming to work on it with me about once a week. Kitchen ain't complicated but my back is.
And brain. The sweet tax guy just called to let me know I'd brought all the wrong forms, so I have to excavate another layer or two to find the right ones. BLEAHHH.
hugs
Hops
PS - In a couple hours Pup's pal from over the mountain is coming for their playdate. I'm looking forward to it.
I felt a little foolish about all the hilarity I tried to wring from it. It's linoleum. But it was good that this got me a little more focused again on the BD. Big Declutter.
It's going to take a long long time, Lighter. Not just kitchen but throughout the house. It does help I have the nice young person who really needs the gig coming to work on it with me about once a week. Kitchen ain't complicated but my back is.
And brain. The sweet tax guy just called to let me know I'd brought all the wrong forms, so I have to excavate another layer or two to find the right ones. BLEAHHH.
hugs
Hops
PS - In a couple hours Pup's pal from over the mountain is coming for their playdate. I'm looking forward to it.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: facing the world
« Last post by lighter on April 11, 2026, 09:02:13 AM »Is one horrified, bc.....
watching the news....
or.....
horrified, bc of what's in the news?
I'm consistently shocked
at people's justifications,
explanations,
sans discomfort,
questions or
doubts......
and particularly mystified
at the lack of care/compassion/concern.
Stymied at what they claim is important, real and true.
Who would have children now?
Lighter
watching the news....
or.....
horrified, bc of what's in the news?
I'm consistently shocked
at people's justifications,
explanations,
sans discomfort,
questions or
doubts......
and particularly mystified
at the lack of care/compassion/concern.
Stymied at what they claim is important, real and true.
Who would have children now?
Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026
« Last post by lighter on April 11, 2026, 08:54:50 AM »I'm so happy you're pleased with your new flooring, Hops!
So nice when details go one's way!
Is everything back in place, or are you doing a hard edit?
Lighter
So nice when details go one's way!
Is everything back in place, or are you doing a hard edit?
Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026
« Last post by sKePTiKal on April 10, 2026, 07:05:15 AM »I'm glad you're happy and that the surface is more suitable!
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026
« Last post by Hopalong on April 09, 2026, 05:10:32 PM »I like it even more than I expected to, partly because it's a bit more toned-down- looking in the larger space than on the sample. I'm shocked by how
easily the color flows to the natural cork in the extension. I didn't plan it that consciously...with color, my id's in charge.
Yay, Marmoleum! It's not as soft but given Pup wear, that's a good thing. It can be mopped like a regular floor without fear. And I bought new sandals today so my feet aren't mad at me....
hugs
Hops
easily the color flows to the natural cork in the extension. I didn't plan it that consciously...with color, my id's in charge.
Yay, Marmoleum! It's not as soft but given Pup wear, that's a good thing. It can be mopped like a regular floor without fear. And I bought new sandals today so my feet aren't mad at me....
hugs
Hops