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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again

« Last post by Meh on May 04, 2026, 11:42:52 PM »

Tomorrow is Tuesday and my life is really passing me by.

I did find a quiet place with my laptop today and tried to focus.

All I really managed to do was go through my medical virtual chart and set an appointment with a new PCP same network but it's a whole month out.

I think I will refuse to complain about it.

My expectations seem to be too high. Sadly I recall having very good health care I guess years ago.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad

« Last post by Meh on May 04, 2026, 11:40:00 PM »

Hops do you meet these guys through advertised-as-single and looking type situation? Do you know if this introverted guy is looking for a relationship?

You sure do seem have a lot of social activity going on Hops.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad

« Last post by lighter on May 04, 2026, 09:40:26 PM »

Eh.....slow, fast, or any combination, Hops......let it be your choice. 


Heck.....go wild.....or don't.

I'm glad you're enjoying the connection.


Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.

« Last post by Hopalong on May 04, 2026, 11:23:41 AM »

I like the 50/50 reminder too.

My version of it is exhorting myself to always allow for "the possibility of good things happening." Or something close to it.

I've set down expecting or predicting (whew). In the past I've despaired enough to flatten out the REALITY that good things will happen, too. They can be as simple as rain, snow, sun and dogs. I don't let myself despair to that level any more because the simple, amazing things come every day. They never stopped, I had just stopped receiving them.

Easy for me to say in retirement, with shelter and food and friends.

hugs,
Hops

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad

« Last post by sKePTiKal on May 04, 2026, 08:56:36 AM »

Bird Nerd sounds nice! Nothin' wrong with friend-zone, s-l-o-w, and still being who you are.

The older we get - the more baggage we drag around into any kind of relationship. Takes a while to sort/purge/try something else and maybe trust A LITTLE in any new situation.

B came here the first time in 2019. Then, it was a year or so before he came back. And he's only just now sorted his head out enough to let his hair really hang down with me. Pain required he compartmentalize so much, so completely... he couldn't feel anything real or deeply. Been there, done that myself for other reasons. So it's just reminding him, being patient, let him make his own exploration, decisions, etc about it.

Of course, that required me keeping enough independence and confidence in my self - apart - until he got all the way through his process. And it doesn't hurt to keep that little flame alive anyway. We're going to need it as we prop each other up, hobbling along the way we do. Equals - is our main objective.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.

« Last post by sKePTiKal on May 04, 2026, 08:40:45 AM »

Yeah, I've been noticing a lot of people around me just absolutely convinced that nothing good, kind, or easy would ever happen again to them. My 50-50 number is just my way of reminding people that both things are equally possible on any given day.

I would also caution anyone in a new environs to NEVER get so absorbed in the phone, a book, or anything that would distract you from basic situational awareness - things going on around you. That's a human skill that technology is degrading. It's a survival skill. For me, when the vibes in a place are "off" when I enter - I up my awarenes and hurry my business so I can leave.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad

« Last post by Meh on May 04, 2026, 12:13:00 AM »

All forms of whoopdedooey prohibited until further notice.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again

« Last post by Meh on May 03, 2026, 08:50:54 PM »

Went to church - Hung out with people after because I wanted coffee and why not. Talked to a woman about gardening and that was nice. She was telling me that what I found in the garden once was likely a vole not a mole. I think they look helpless and cute. I put some water down next to it and stuck a leaf over it so it wouldn't get eaten. The church lady was in favor of killing them because she says they eat tulips.

She is one of the friendlier upbeat cutesy church ladies. Very likable.

And I talked to another woman there who said she doesn't have kids. They stated so because mother's day coming up.

I did some minor job research stuff this morning.

Feeling so much ambivalence. I need to kill this ambivalence stuff. -- Don't make decisions nothing bad can happen -- lack of decisions lame stuff still happens.
 

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again

« Last post by Meh on May 03, 2026, 08:40:23 PM »

We're having the most amazing weather, Meh. 

The sky....clouds....breeze.  Heck, it hailed after a rat a tat rainfall, then the sky went pink.  What an amazing sunset.....chirping bats.....golden light hitting green trees, and newly planted hosta.

Lighter

That sounds beautiful!

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.

« Last post by Meh on May 03, 2026, 08:38:18 PM »

Well, why not look at the fear that something bad will happen. Statistically, in general, I think a case could be made that it's just as possible something good will happen. I'd say it's almost 50-50 chance.

Why do you think you're singled out for just bad things? Bad things happen to ALL of us, at times. But it's usually not a life or death situation. It's usually just a problem that needs solved. You aren't helpless - we all know you're smart, have agency and can do.

If, in your pondering of this, you can pick out 3 things that inordinately make you afraid... how about thinking of a list of solutions or ways to protect yourself? Bet you can think of a lot of ways.

50/50 chance is something ... so toss the coin I guess