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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.
« Last post by Meh on Today at 05:34:13 PM »Thanks Lighter.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Yard
« Last post by lighter on Today at 01:57:02 PM »Calamine lotion is a magical elixir!
Don't wait for poison ivy scratching and weeping blisters.....coat yourself proactively, and rejoice!!!!
Lighter
Don't wait for poison ivy scratching and weeping blisters.....coat yourself proactively, and rejoice!!!!
Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.
« Last post by lighter on Today at 01:38:20 PM »Setting little goals sounds productive, and reasonable, M. Good plan, imo.
Worrying helps nothing, and robs one of life's logic/reason and creative problem solving abilities.....only ever counterproductive, IME.
I hope the Therapy offers something you value. Will say this..... sometimes we get things, we don't consider valuable, but turns out to be.
Maybe this T will have something for you. Maybe a perceived negative, turns out to be a positive, or leads to something/a connection/new contact down the road.
Keep breathing, M.
You did good.
Lighter
Worrying helps nothing, and robs one of life's logic/reason and creative problem solving abilities.....only ever counterproductive, IME.
I hope the Therapy offers something you value. Will say this..... sometimes we get things, we don't consider valuable, but turns out to be.
Maybe this T will have something for you. Maybe a perceived negative, turns out to be a positive, or leads to something/a connection/new contact down the road.
Keep breathing, M.
You did good.
Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by lighter on Today at 01:27:42 PM »Pardon the interjection, ladies.
Hey, guys. I'm trying to cover a roughly 30' diameter red clay area, with 2'h stone retaining wall(wedding arch area.)
Thinking geotech fabric, covered in #57 crusher run gravel......?
I really wanted a labyrinth.....
Lighter
Hey, guys. I'm trying to cover a roughly 30' diameter red clay area, with 2'h stone retaining wall(wedding arch area.)
Thinking geotech fabric, covered in #57 crusher run gravel......?
I really wanted a labyrinth.....
Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.
« Last post by Meh on Today at 12:17:17 PM »Well I think I might mainly be tired from period and having to take a bus etc.
I'm not sure I have anything to say. When I made the appointment I felt focused on something. During the appointment I feel like I just retreated into my headspace and anyhow it was only a first appointment. At least it was something.
Feels like I've been slightly incoherent all day. Friend is hospitalized for blood clots was texting them because they couldn't sleep was just trying to keep them some kind of company. Maybe just tired is part of the mental fog jumble.
Reminding myself that I'm 1000% responsible for me and I'm 1000% responsible for my junk. Nothing magic is going to happen. You know there is a pathetic part of me that does just wish a therapist could fix my life, literally rewrite the past, the present the future and stick it in a snowglobe that flurries ranunculus petals.
I don't have to agree with the therapist about everything. I do find that economic reality is a pressure and it impacts everybody differently. The attachment stuff is a real issue for me yes & I mostly haven't had a chance to deal with it and I just avoid it. I have some other thought brb.
Blank. I'm too tired to write some judgemental thing on here. I'm actually too tired to spin my wheels in complaint.
Had wanted to write something just about how much financial stress impacts people it's a different issue and I don't want the therapy appointments to be about that because it's just a different type of personal problem. But even being able to do these appointments with the therapist it's actually only I have time because I'm in between jobs and my current insurance is paying for it.
My plan for the day is just to do an errand this morning - take a shower before or after - read a book for 20 minutes beforehand maybe - schlep my bag and barely working laptop to a cafe for afternoon got several things to actually work on. The less I do the more the stuff piles up needs to be done. I would feel better if I would get some stuff done. okay.
I'm not sure I have anything to say. When I made the appointment I felt focused on something. During the appointment I feel like I just retreated into my headspace and anyhow it was only a first appointment. At least it was something.
Feels like I've been slightly incoherent all day. Friend is hospitalized for blood clots was texting them because they couldn't sleep was just trying to keep them some kind of company. Maybe just tired is part of the mental fog jumble.
Reminding myself that I'm 1000% responsible for me and I'm 1000% responsible for my junk. Nothing magic is going to happen. You know there is a pathetic part of me that does just wish a therapist could fix my life, literally rewrite the past, the present the future and stick it in a snowglobe that flurries ranunculus petals.
I don't have to agree with the therapist about everything. I do find that economic reality is a pressure and it impacts everybody differently. The attachment stuff is a real issue for me yes & I mostly haven't had a chance to deal with it and I just avoid it. I have some other thought brb.
Blank. I'm too tired to write some judgemental thing on here. I'm actually too tired to spin my wheels in complaint.
Had wanted to write something just about how much financial stress impacts people it's a different issue and I don't want the therapy appointments to be about that because it's just a different type of personal problem. But even being able to do these appointments with the therapist it's actually only I have time because I'm in between jobs and my current insurance is paying for it.
My plan for the day is just to do an errand this morning - take a shower before or after - read a book for 20 minutes beforehand maybe - schlep my bag and barely working laptop to a cafe for afternoon got several things to actually work on. The less I do the more the stuff piles up needs to be done. I would feel better if I would get some stuff done. okay.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.
« Last post by Hopalong on Today at 11:48:40 AM »I can imagine how stimulating a first conversation with a T might be.
Hope your sleep regulates again and imagine it should.
Bravo to you, Meh.
hugs
Hops
Hope your sleep regulates again and imagine it should.
Bravo to you, Meh.
hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by sKePTiKal on Today at 09:03:18 AM »Grass & weeds are lookin' a bit scraggly. I've still got to prune one of the rhododendrons out front - but it's an approach with caution and a full can of yellowjacket spray situation. Ground nest. Plants are still quite small. It will be at least 10 years before things mature and look decent. Every year, I need to bring in topsoil and/or compost to spread around what I already have established.
Dig?! Ha! Work smarter not harder. The bobcat I bought has a series of useful attachments that I ordered at the same time. One is an auger - there is only a sparse layer of topsoil over a LOT of shale and bigger limestone/granite rocks here. It's been commandeered by Hol - who loves running it and the backhoe. So once I decide WHERE the elders go (avoiding paths of gas lines, water lines, and power - and septic) I'll mark and she'll make holes that I'll fill with topsoil/compost and then I will have to haul water because it will be out of the range of the hose. It's looking like I need to water already this week. April showers disappeared.
Dig?! Ha! Work smarter not harder. The bobcat I bought has a series of useful attachments that I ordered at the same time. One is an auger - there is only a sparse layer of topsoil over a LOT of shale and bigger limestone/granite rocks here. It's been commandeered by Hol - who loves running it and the backhoe. So once I decide WHERE the elders go (avoiding paths of gas lines, water lines, and power - and septic) I'll mark and she'll make holes that I'll fill with topsoil/compost and then I will have to haul water because it will be out of the range of the hose. It's looking like I need to water already this week. April showers disappeared.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.
« Last post by Meh on Today at 12:38:52 AM »Did the appointment. Had to be telehealth. Ended up being exhausted tonight and sleeping early now awake again.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by Hopalong on April 15, 2026, 09:58:13 AM »It all sounds so gorgeous -- so many functional plants that are beautiful in bloom. Amazing. Love the hedgerows idea too because it's so good for small wildlife and birds.
You're making your mountain a little Eden of sorts. It's joyful to read about. I will not enjoy reading about your back aching...how do you manage all that bending?
hugs
Hops
You're making your mountain a little Eden of sorts. It's joyful to read about. I will not enjoy reading about your back aching...how do you manage all that bending?
hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by sKePTiKal on April 14, 2026, 02:10:47 PM »These are shrubs; but they get tall. Think lilac bush.