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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by lighter on December 27, 2025, 03:53:41 PM »How's the elevator project going? Is it completed?
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread
« Last post by lighter on December 27, 2025, 03:52:18 PM »Well, we're all sick. Different kinds of sick, but sick.
Youngest DD is mostly recovered, and is at her second day at her new retail sales job. It's a touristy place, everyone who enters buys something from her, as she mans a position in a big round counter.
I went from coughing up small chunks of phlegm, to a super dry cough, so painful. I was jealous of DD's very productive cough ......and so I took a Mucus Relief pill.
I woke up with productive coughs, but felt I'd breathe it back in, during coughing fits. Scary. Be careful what I wish for..... considering an Urgent Care visit today. Guessing it's upper respiratory. I'm shaky and weak ...phantom pains pop up. Yesterday it felt like a broken bone in my right foot....stabs in the ribs.... headache....neck, spine discomfort, and sting in the center of my right knee. Not terrible pain...not consistent. My body remembers terrible flu bugs, with huge pain.....so I feel lucky it's not worse.....water tastes bitter, blech.
Oldest DD has fevers and chills while visiting BF's family.....he was sick first.
The ejected guest, from our trip, reported a stomach bug, with 3 days of vomiting. Poor guy.
::knocking wood::.
We have a yummy batch of bolonaise and pasta, with chicken thighs and green beans. DD made apple strudel topped muffins yesterday. The pug enjoying new batch of nummies made with lamb, turkey and organ meat.
We're resting....healing.....watching Studio Ghibli movies, and the entire original Air Bender series. It's SO GOOD....such great world building.
My brother heads to the island tomorrow.
Sister and BIL in Hawaii having Christmas with their DD and her bf. Think....camping in 2 man tents.... kind of trip.
Lighter
Youngest DD is mostly recovered, and is at her second day at her new retail sales job. It's a touristy place, everyone who enters buys something from her, as she mans a position in a big round counter.
I went from coughing up small chunks of phlegm, to a super dry cough, so painful. I was jealous of DD's very productive cough ......and so I took a Mucus Relief pill.
I woke up with productive coughs, but felt I'd breathe it back in, during coughing fits. Scary. Be careful what I wish for..... considering an Urgent Care visit today. Guessing it's upper respiratory. I'm shaky and weak ...phantom pains pop up. Yesterday it felt like a broken bone in my right foot....stabs in the ribs.... headache....neck, spine discomfort, and sting in the center of my right knee. Not terrible pain...not consistent. My body remembers terrible flu bugs, with huge pain.....so I feel lucky it's not worse.....water tastes bitter, blech.
Oldest DD has fevers and chills while visiting BF's family.....he was sick first.
The ejected guest, from our trip, reported a stomach bug, with 3 days of vomiting. Poor guy.
::knocking wood::.
We have a yummy batch of bolonaise and pasta, with chicken thighs and green beans. DD made apple strudel topped muffins yesterday. The pug enjoying new batch of nummies made with lamb, turkey and organ meat.
We're resting....healing.....watching Studio Ghibli movies, and the entire original Air Bender series. It's SO GOOD....such great world building.
My brother heads to the island tomorrow.
Sister and BIL in Hawaii having Christmas with their DD and her bf. Think....camping in 2 man tents.... kind of trip.
Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by sKePTiKal on December 27, 2025, 12:58:25 PM »Lamb, onions, garlic, peas & carrots and of course, "stiff" mashed potatoes - if they're too loose, the pie falls apart.
Friend Debbie is coming out New Year's day. For just an overnight, but it's been awhile since we got together. Before I had my eyes done. Think I'll make a breakfast casserole for brunch with mimosas and we can graze in the evening.
Gathering the energy to start the mudroom project in the next weeks. It's a little project. Won't take long.
Friend Debbie is coming out New Year's day. For just an overnight, but it's been awhile since we got together. Before I had my eyes done. Think I'll make a breakfast casserole for brunch with mimosas and we can graze in the evening.
Gathering the energy to start the mudroom project in the next weeks. It's a little project. Won't take long.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by lighter on December 27, 2025, 12:37:40 PM »What's in your Shepherd Pie Amber?
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by sKePTiKal on December 25, 2025, 10:18:15 AM »Merry Christmas to all!
Holly came up for shepherd's pie & cheese cake last night - her company apparently isn't coming. Today is casual day - B & I are vegging out in front of tv with nachos on the menu. (After he finishing splitting the last of this batch of logs.) I'm going to run a care pkg of cookies & cheesecake to Hol, and check out her garage loft sewing studio in a bit. The dishwasher is getting it's semi-annual "exercise".
All is well around here. Peaceful. Except I can hear sirens over the ridge, on the highway. Hope it's nothing serious. And I think most of the board's "problems" have cleared up.
On to a new year....
Holly came up for shepherd's pie & cheese cake last night - her company apparently isn't coming. Today is casual day - B & I are vegging out in front of tv with nachos on the menu. (After he finishing splitting the last of this batch of logs.) I'm going to run a care pkg of cookies & cheesecake to Hol, and check out her garage loft sewing studio in a bit. The dishwasher is getting it's semi-annual "exercise".
All is well around here. Peaceful. Except I can hear sirens over the ridge, on the highway. Hope it's nothing serious. And I think most of the board's "problems" have cleared up.
On to a new year....
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by Hopalong on December 24, 2025, 07:15:16 PM »Well the same to you, Lighter. What an anchor for sanity this forum has been for me, too.
Hopes for a new year of sharing here.
And, kind of a PSA, if there's a UU congregation near you, you could plug right in to a "covenant group" (I've found ZERO theology there, ime, which makes it accessible to me).
To have conversations like that IRL is as enriching as you imagine.I don't attend services these days but it doesn't matter. I think these small groups are the heart of what's good about it.
hugs and ho-hos,
Hops
Hopes for a new year of sharing here.
And, kind of a PSA, if there's a UU congregation near you, you could plug right in to a "covenant group" (I've found ZERO theology there, ime, which makes it accessible to me).
To have conversations like that IRL is as enriching as you imagine.I don't attend services these days but it doesn't matter. I think these small groups are the heart of what's good about it.
hugs and ho-hos,
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Play Hookey
« Last post by Hopalong on December 24, 2025, 07:10:00 PM »Sending you simple peace, Meh.
hugs
Hops
hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by sKePTiKal on December 24, 2025, 08:24:02 AM »Yeah, it's really quiet here this year. Hol doesn't have friends or BF out (he's visiting a friend). But she did announce she's starting to explore the solitude & just dealing with her self, that we're familiar with.
Friend Debbie will be out New Year's for an overnight.
Lots of wind last night; B will run the driveway this morning, doing a tree check. I'll touch base with Hol later.
Making cheesecake this morning; shepherd's pie later.
Friend Debbie will be out New Year's for an overnight.
Lots of wind last night; B will run the driveway this morning, doing a tree check. I'll touch base with Hol later.
Making cheesecake this morning; shepherd's pie later.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread
« Last post by lighter on December 23, 2025, 05:15:51 PM »I hope brother drops his biases, and turns toward the wind..... surrenders himself to not knowing everything.
It makes me feel peaceful to picture it.
Lighter
It makes me feel peaceful to picture it.
Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by lighter on December 23, 2025, 05:08:39 PM »Wowsers, Hops. I envy your connection to your deep thinking women's group.
Well....you guys are one of my groups, however small we've become.
My list, of things I'm grateful for, includes Doc G, the forum, and all the voices....
echoes of voices.....
of those I call friend, and/or lessons, on the board. Feels like opening doors, in a mansion, to revisit threads. So many treasures here.
I'll toast to friends, this evening, at dinner. You'll be among the people, I'll think of, ((Hops.))
Lighter
Well....you guys are one of my groups, however small we've become.
My list, of things I'm grateful for, includes Doc G, the forum, and all the voices....
echoes of voices.....
of those I call friend, and/or lessons, on the board. Feels like opening doors, in a mansion, to revisit threads. So many treasures here.
I'll toast to friends, this evening, at dinner. You'll be among the people, I'll think of, ((Hops.))
Lighter