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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by Hopalong on December 24, 2025, 07:15:16 PM »
Well the same to you, Lighter. What an anchor for sanity this forum has been for me, too.
Hopes for a new year of sharing here.

And, kind of a PSA, if there's a UU congregation near you, you could plug right in to a "covenant group" (I've found ZERO theology there, ime, which makes it accessible to me).

To have conversations like that IRL is as enriching as you imagine.I don't attend services these days but it doesn't matter. I think these small groups are the heart of what's good about it.

hugs and ho-hos,
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Play Hookey
« Last post by Hopalong on December 24, 2025, 07:10:00 PM »
Sending you simple peace, Meh.

hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by sKePTiKal on December 24, 2025, 08:24:02 AM »
Yeah, it's really quiet here this year. Hol doesn't have friends or BF out (he's visiting a friend). But she did announce she's starting to explore the solitude & just dealing with her self, that we're familiar with.

Friend Debbie will be out New Year's for an overnight.

Lots of wind last night; B will run the driveway this morning, doing a tree check. I'll touch base with Hol later.

Making cheesecake this morning; shepherd's pie later.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread
« Last post by lighter on December 23, 2025, 05:15:51 PM »
I hope brother drops his biases, and turns toward the wind..... surrenders himself to not knowing everything. 

It makes me feel peaceful to picture it.

Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by lighter on December 23, 2025, 05:08:39 PM »
Wowsers, Hops.  I envy your connection to your deep thinking women's group.

 Well....you guys are one of my groups, however small we've become. 

My list, of things I'm grateful for, includes Doc G, the forum, and all the voices....
echoes of voices.....
of those I call friend, and/or lessons, on the board.  Feels like opening doors, in a mansion, to revisit threads.  So many treasures here.

I'll toast to friends, this evening, at dinner.  You'll be among the people, I'll think of, ((Hops.))

Lighter



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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by Hopalong on December 23, 2025, 04:41:00 PM »
Amber by the fire with B, visions of new plants and baby seedlings sprouting in your heads....

Sounds like just about perfect peace.

hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread
« Last post by Hopalong on December 23, 2025, 04:39:37 PM »
I love the idea of love opening space in a person for a new breeze to blow through. Lovely thought. Hope he'll find happiness with his immigrant darling.

And hope YOU will have a peaceful, unfrantic holiday!

You too, ((((Amber)))).

hugs and ho hos,
Hops

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread
« Last post by Hopalong on December 23, 2025, 04:28:27 PM »
Poor DD, what misery. And poor YOU!

Bravo on not getting infected yourself....that must've taken a lot of strain and effort.
Cleaning up and disinfecting the house after all that, not fun I'm sure. Yikers. And what timing.

Hope everybody's safe and well for the holiday anyway.
May you all enjoy whatever pieces of it bring joy to the worlds.

hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by Hopalong on December 23, 2025, 01:47:41 PM »
Before each meeting, the leader for that session sends out a topic plus a few "questions to ponder." Then we go around, one at a time uninterrupted, and give relatively equal time. It's a wonderful format for getting to know other people at a deeper level than "normal" activities usually do. Kind of like here! These were my questions last time:

1. Where do you see yourself as an individual in readiness or contemplation about the end of life? What thoughts are helpful or uplifting for you, and what thoughts are not?

2. How much do rituals, memorials, symbols and remembrances mean to you? Do simplicity or efficiency appeal?

3. What would most help you find meaning and peace in advance of your own passing?

hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread
« Last post by lighter on December 22, 2025, 03:21:09 PM »
Youngest DD made 5 costumes for a 4 day con event, got sick on day 1, attended day 2 then went to bed for the next 2 days.....chills, fever, aching, skin hurting, snotty with some tummy troubles.  Just miserable.

She has a training session scheduled for tomorrow, before our dinner out, and it's not clear if she'll make either, neither or both.

Last night was terrible.....we travelled 3 hours, she got a bath, then slept on the bathroom floor for 2 hours.  I changed her bedding, found meds/clean jammies made tea and helped her get to bed.  Every time the pug showed up, DD wept....she missed her badly, and we cry when we have fevers.  Pitiful.....oldest DD calls her sister the "the very ill Victorian child." Pitiful.

This morning DD woke feeling much better, though her skin still hurts....her sore throat is better, and everything improved.

I fed her lemonilo (onion chicken flavor) ramen, made with chicken and bone broth.  I made mine with 2 eggs mixed into a little broth and Kewpi mayo....very creamy.

If you think you might want to up your ramen game.  Lemonilo is the one. Hopey offers 2 flavors, for $1.45 a pack, at our store....cases of them. 

I'm noticing zero charge around the travel difficulties......no desire to rehash them, woohoo!

Enough to say there was a water leak, 1 ejected guest, and disinfecting the household/bedding, on top of zero privacy, and lots of socializing.....
::checking in with myself::.
I'm not even fetal today.  Therapy is totally worth it, IME.

I dropped Christmas cards off at my brother's house.  It was nice to see him, my niece, and the new furniture installed in the LR and main bedroom.  I think a new love interest, is catalyst, and good for him. I sense a lightness in his spirit, and perhaps more empathy, for ESL folks, as she's an immigrant.  I picture a cool breeze blowing through him..... restorative and cleansing.  Yes.

That's my update.



Lighter

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