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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by lighter on Today at 08:59:40 PM »I use xylitol and Ocean nose sprays.....netti pot gives me ear infections.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread
« Last post by lighter on Today at 08:57:40 PM »Right now it's a coughing war..... I'm in second place.
We're all at the end of it......ears and throats stopped hurting. Fevers and aches gone. Zombie sounds still come out of my lungs, when I breath out deeply. Sometimes I mistake it for pug snoring.
Stay well, Hops.
We're all at the end of it......ears and throats stopped hurting. Fevers and aches gone. Zombie sounds still come out of my lungs, when I breath out deeply. Sometimes I mistake it for pug snoring.
Stay well, Hops.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread
« Last post by Hopalong on Today at 09:23:44 AM »How are you and DDs feeling, Lighter?
That sounds like some epic winter misery.
Hope it passes soon and goes back into its virus cave.
Happy New Year despite everything!
hugs
Hops
That sounds like some epic winter misery.
Hope it passes soon and goes back into its virus cave.
Happy New Year despite everything!
hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by Hopalong on Today at 09:20:58 AM »Neti pot? Helps me a lot when sinuses go awry.
Non-iodized salt in the solution is advised but regular has worked for me.
Sounds like you'll weather this with no damage, but sorry you've having
to wade, Amber.
hugs
Hops
Non-iodized salt in the solution is advised but regular has worked for me.
Sounds like you'll weather this with no damage, but sorry you've having
to wade, Amber.
hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by sKePTiKal on December 31, 2025, 12:45:25 PM »Yeah, the red goes away after I get my sinuses clear. After being up & moving for a couple hours and that hot shower, I'm not stuffy and vision is fine and they'll get the artificial tears every so often during the day.
Adding eucalyptus to the humidifier today.
Adding eucalyptus to the humidifier today.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by lighter on December 31, 2025, 11:10:48 AM »A neighbor had recent shoulder surgery. She woke up with bright blood shot eyes....I mean ...they look camera ready demonic. Crazy!
Eye clinic won't see her till Jan 2nd! Very worrisome, imo.
Your situation, Amber, and this other seem very odd to me..... my brain can't make sense of either.
My lungs are looser......but abs feel tight as a drum from coughing. SO painful. Going to take a methacarbonol and see if that helps.
Lighter
Eye clinic won't see her till Jan 2nd! Very worrisome, imo.
Your situation, Amber, and this other seem very odd to me..... my brain can't make sense of either.
My lungs are looser......but abs feel tight as a drum from coughing. SO painful. Going to take a methacarbonol and see if that helps.
Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by sKePTiKal on December 31, 2025, 08:41:26 AM »Oh, I will call next week. But this morning I'm battlin it again - it's not so bad today. And the nasal spray to help clear the sinuses is my most effective weapon. A few sneezes helped too. Hot shower coming up next. I can see to type now, so only affected an hour or so. I checked online too, for info about issues - and sure enough - the symptoms are there. Since I didn't have sinus symptoms around the surgery dates I didn't have problems at first.
So, it's not a problem with my eye surgery. But because the surgery is 'fresh" and the sinus crud is pretty heavy-duty this go-round. Maybe a 2nd humidifier in the bedroom would help. But it's already full of stuff as it is.
The weather is about to do another dipsy-doodle move by the weekend. i'm less concerned about this than when it started. Now that I know what it is, I have tools.
ETA: and it's mostly cleared up this morning. Bright light is bugging me some. But that's to be expected.
So, it's not a problem with my eye surgery. But because the surgery is 'fresh" and the sinus crud is pretty heavy-duty this go-round. Maybe a 2nd humidifier in the bedroom would help. But it's already full of stuff as it is.
The weather is about to do another dipsy-doodle move by the weekend. i'm less concerned about this than when it started. Now that I know what it is, I have tools.
ETA: and it's mostly cleared up this morning. Bright light is bugging me some. But that's to be expected.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by Hopalong on December 30, 2025, 08:59:41 PM »Thanks for asking, (((Amber))).
I'm doing okay, though I was surprised that after Xmas some anxiety kicked in. Odd, when I do such a good job of isolating and avoiding the usual holiday triggers. Familyfamilyfamily conversations, etc. I got nuttin' and try hard to avoid the jolliity because it's hard to take.
Really sorry to hear atmospheric pressure variations affect your eyes. But re. your right eye, I thnk there's no good reason to avoid an immediate call to the doc, holiday or not. Complications can present in a variety of ways and you have quite a lot of symptoms there.
You might be absolutely correct that atmospheric pressure is affecting your eyeball, but please don't avoid asking the eye doc for confirmation of this. [I've never heard of cataract surgery recovery being affected by weather changes. Doesn't mean it doesn't, but...I'd be wary of overconfidence.] Sometimes, even practiced intuition could use a hand.
Forgive my standard worrywartiness. And I'm so glad B is (generally) more mellow these days.
hugs and happy New Year,
Hops
I'm doing okay, though I was surprised that after Xmas some anxiety kicked in. Odd, when I do such a good job of isolating and avoiding the usual holiday triggers. Familyfamilyfamily conversations, etc. I got nuttin' and try hard to avoid the jolliity because it's hard to take.
Really sorry to hear atmospheric pressure variations affect your eyes. But re. your right eye, I thnk there's no good reason to avoid an immediate call to the doc, holiday or not. Complications can present in a variety of ways and you have quite a lot of symptoms there.
You might be absolutely correct that atmospheric pressure is affecting your eyeball, but please don't avoid asking the eye doc for confirmation of this. [I've never heard of cataract surgery recovery being affected by weather changes. Doesn't mean it doesn't, but...I'd be wary of overconfidence.] Sometimes, even practiced intuition could use a hand.
Forgive my standard worrywartiness. And I'm so glad B is (generally) more mellow these days.
hugs and happy New Year,
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by sKePTiKal on December 30, 2025, 08:18:06 AM »Nope. I can seriously feel the pressure in my sinuses just like initially, I could feel the new lenses or at least the incision in my eyes. Doc looked at me weird when I asked if it was normal to feel that. I guess maybe i'm hyper aware? I dunno. I'm not imagining it.
I am adjusting to the vision help from the new lenses - distance vision is improving still; getting sharper & clearer even in lower light. Middle distance is OK, but I have occasional flashes in my peripheral vision. It's like a flashlight beam from behind me or sometimes a black flare. And I notice a "shimmer" sometimes.
Close up, I do need readers. First pair I picked up were 1.5 magnification. Those were helpful and they cover my whole eye - which was sensitive to things like wind moving across the eyeball. Since then, Amazon had a good deal on 4 pr of the half glasses, I got them in 1.0 because I'd noticed the 1.5 would make my eyes hurt wearing them for any length of time. But enough about me!!!!
Are you feeling better? Sounds like y'all got smacked with the smorgasbord of viruses going around. Are you heading for the island this winter?
Hopsy, how are you doing? Are you getting outside any amount of time in this cold? It's brisk, for sure! But it's good to brave it for a little bit, several times a day. Gives the pups a chance to sniff all the sniffs outside of his own yard, too. I am liking my "cozy" inside time, with a cuppa tea and something to watch. We haven't been going out much since Thanksgiving. B does, he's cleaning up some down trees for the woodstove racks. Fully dressed & then insulated coveralls to stay warm.
B has been feeling much better, pretty much every day; physically. Mentally is consequently better too but he still has some black moods and hears something completely different than what I said. We're working on that. How are things going with your friends?
I am adjusting to the vision help from the new lenses - distance vision is improving still; getting sharper & clearer even in lower light. Middle distance is OK, but I have occasional flashes in my peripheral vision. It's like a flashlight beam from behind me or sometimes a black flare. And I notice a "shimmer" sometimes.
Close up, I do need readers. First pair I picked up were 1.5 magnification. Those were helpful and they cover my whole eye - which was sensitive to things like wind moving across the eyeball. Since then, Amazon had a good deal on 4 pr of the half glasses, I got them in 1.0 because I'd noticed the 1.5 would make my eyes hurt wearing them for any length of time. But enough about me!!!!
Are you feeling better? Sounds like y'all got smacked with the smorgasbord of viruses going around. Are you heading for the island this winter?
Hopsy, how are you doing? Are you getting outside any amount of time in this cold? It's brisk, for sure! But it's good to brave it for a little bit, several times a day. Gives the pups a chance to sniff all the sniffs outside of his own yard, too. I am liking my "cozy" inside time, with a cuppa tea and something to watch. We haven't been going out much since Thanksgiving. B does, he's cleaning up some down trees for the woodstove racks. Fully dressed & then insulated coveralls to stay warm.
B has been feeling much better, pretty much every day; physically. Mentally is consequently better too but he still has some black moods and hears something completely different than what I said. We're working on that. How are things going with your friends?
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by lighter on December 29, 2025, 11:40:56 AM »Do you suspect pink eye, Amber?