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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7428 on: June 09, 2016, 12:06:35 PM »
I've been reading some online stuff that has been triggering memories of dealing with N's other than the cray-cray NWomb-Donor, e.g. dealing with the bat$hit family members of my godson when he was born.  I didn't know about Narcissism then.
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« Reply #7429 on: June 09, 2016, 12:26:34 PM »
https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/06/16/fighting-does-not-go-unnoticed

The BTL Commenters are NOT happy with the Annies!  The advice columnists are really showing their special brand of STUPID!!!!

For example, when a young woman was brutally murdered, (I knew this young woman since her mother was pregnant with her), I doubt very seriously that the grieving family would stop and think to write "formal thank you notes" for food that was brought to them!  They were in SHOCK for God's Sakes!!!! 
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7430 on: June 09, 2016, 12:32:18 PM »
https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/06/16/fighting-does-not-go-unnoticed

The BTL Commenters are NOT happy with the Annies!  The advice columnists are really showing their special brand of STUPID!!!!

For example, when a young woman was brutally murdered, (I knew this young woman since her mother was pregnant with her), I doubt very seriously that the grieving family would stop and think to write "formal thank you notes" for food that was brought to them!  They were in SHOCK for God's Sakes!!!! 
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7431 on: June 09, 2016, 05:41:46 PM »
Looks like the emojis we used to use are gone for now.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7432 on: June 09, 2016, 06:20:38 PM »
https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/comments/4mlq06/tales_from_the_jinx_i/?

I knew N's could be psycho!!!  And I thought NWomb-Donor was a PSYCHO!!!!  This one OUT-PSYCHOED the PSYCHO!!!  WHOA!!!!!!
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7433 on: June 10, 2016, 07:19:18 AM »
Just checking in and trying to get used to this new server.  I'm wondering what happened to all the smileys and emojis.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7434 on: June 10, 2016, 04:13:33 PM »
https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/comments/4l7zwk/mil_in_the_wild_abandons_her_grandchild_at_a_pool/?

This is one of those stories where I wish I could post the SHOCK emoji!!!!  Ye Gods and Little Fishes!!!!!

Unfortunately, I've seen similar stupidity at the pool where I live because some stupid IDIOT assumed that the lifeguard was automatically a FREE babysitter and they would simply dump their little kids and LEAVE!!!  NO!!!  JUST!!!  NO!!!!

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7435 on: June 10, 2016, 05:59:02 PM »
https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/comments/4nimhk/hubs_lays_down_the_law/

LOVE the boundaries there were laid down!  This brought up a memory from years ago:

I remember when my godson was born, he essentially had two mommas....Momma Bear, my BFF who was the actual mother and me, Momma Tigress.  I was snowed in with the family when my godson was born and heard some stuff that made my hair stand on end!  (Case in point, my BFF and her then-husband are both Deaf and I was the interpreter when godson was born in the middle of the Big Blizzard.)  While I was snowed in with the family, which included the paternal grandparents and paternal great-grandmother, all hearing, the new baby's great-grandmother kept trying to slip laxatives into every meal I had!  (She was fixated on other people's bodily functions.  Why?  I don't know.)  I would simply tell her "No!" as I either picked the laxatives out of the food or I would simply dump it all in the garbage and fix myself something that I knew wasn't tampered with.  Did that stop her?  Not a chance!  She. Just. Kept. Trying.

One day, as I was walking through the house while waiting for my car to get dug out of a snowbank, I overheard the paternal grandmother and paternal great-grandmother planning on slipping laxatives into my newborn godson, (who wasn't even a day old yet!)  MOMMA TIGRESS GOT UNLEASHED!  I told them both of them that if they touched that newborn infant with laxatives, I was going to knock both of them through a wall!  They replied that the baby wasn't going to the bathroom enough!  (WTH?!?!?)  I told them my threat was serious!  I went downstairs to where my BFF and her then-husband were.  They were in their bedroom and she was nursing.  I told them about what those two dingbats upstairs were planning on doing to the baby and my BFF was LIVID!!!  Her then-husband attempted to minimize this mess by stating that it was "only talk" and they would NEVER do anything like that.  My BFF looked at him and said:  "Oh yeah?  Then you tell me why your brother will no longer allow your mother and grandmother to be alone with your nephew!"  That's when he had to admit that his mother and grandmother had slipped laxatives into THAT BABY!!!  (WTH?!?!? times TWO!!!) 

After my BFF finished nursing, she looked really tired and I asked her how could I help.  She told me she really needed to take a nap because she had been getting up during the night, several times, to nurse but was afraid of what those two dingbats would do behind her back.  Her then-husband was basically useless in the Protection Department.  (He did more STUPID stuff later on after I was able to go home.  She told me about that mess after I got home.)  I asked her if I could be godson's body-guard while she napped and she liked that idea.  So I took my godson with me out to the lounger in the other room and had some cuddle time with him on my chest while my BFF took a nap.  Her then-husband decided to make himself scarce.  (I think he was intimidated by two strong women.)  While I was cuddling with him, the two dingbats started to come downstairs and stopped when they saw me glaring at them.  I only quietly said:  "DON'T even THINK about it!"  They turned around and went right back upstairs.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7436 on: June 11, 2016, 10:20:24 AM »
https://www.reddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/comments/4m7246/cuntnado_uses_doctors_to_do_her_dirty_deeds/?

This triggers another memory of when my godson was born.

As I previously mentioned, my godson was born in the middle of the Big Blizzard.  We managed to get to a nearby hospital just in time.  If my BFF had birthed at home, it would have been a nightmare circus with laxative-fixated paternal grandmother, (baby's great-grandmother), getting in the way!  (She was a trip all by herself!)  Later on, I was interpreting a phone call between the new parents and my godson's then-pediatrician.  (A new pediatrician took over later, which is another story in itself.)  As the discussion concerning whether or not to circumcise was going on, the new paternal grandmother strides into the room as if she owns the place!  (She was still in street clothes while the new daddy and I were still in surgical scrubs and the new mother was in her hospital gown nursing her newborn!  What this grandmother was thinking, I wish I knew!)  For a few minutes, the new grandmother listens silently as the telephone conversation is going on.  The moment the new parents decide to wait on the circumcision until it's medically necessary, based on the pediatrician's advice to wait, the new grandmother starts SCREAMING!!!!  "YOUR BABY IS GOING TO HATE YOU!!!!"  (WTF?!?!?  WT FLYING F?!?!?)  The pediatrician asked me:  "Who in the HELL is THAT?!?!?"  I informed him that it's the baby's grandmother.  The pediatrician, rightly informed this dingbat, (through me, given that this is being done via telephone), that this decision belongs STRICTLY to the parents and the grandmother needs to BUTT OUT!!!  She continues to scream that the new parents are DEAF and the GRANDMOTHER needs to take charge!  (OH HELL TO THE NO!!!!  Those are FIGHTING words!)  The new grandmother attempts to order the pediatrician to ignore the new parents, because they are DEAF, and that the pediatrician needs to OBEY the grandmother instead!  The doctor told her to back off again and that he does not permit grandparents to interfere!  (YAY, DOC!)  She continues to scream, "WELL, I AM GOING TO FIND A PEDIATRICIAN WHO WILL DO WHAT I WANT!!!"  That's when the pediatrician, me, and the new parents informed her in no uncertain terms that if she tries THAT, she will experience legal consequences that she will NOT like!  When she realized she was outnumbered, she shut her trap about circumcision.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7438 on: June 12, 2016, 02:12:48 AM »
I think my PTSD got set off again.  One of my friends on FB sent around a video announcing:  "Let's shame this woman for refusing to honor the person who gave birth to her!"  Yeah....I went off!!!

Ah Bones, sorry to read that, one of the things that made me stop using Facebook was other people's lack of empathy and caring; people do send out all sorts of crap with no thought for friends it might upset, for whatever reason.  I hate all this online shaming crap that goes on, it's so damaging and in an awful lot of situations people don't know the full story and may unwittingly be supporting some kind of abusive act.  I think it's very passive aggressive behaviour to sort of call someone out in some way and then try and get loads of people to agree with it.  I'm glad you had a go about it and hope you feel a bit better soon xx

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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #7439 on: June 12, 2016, 02:21:29 AM »
https://www.creators.com/read/annies-mailbox/06/16/fighting-does-not-go-unnoticed

The BTL Commenters are NOT happy with the Annies!  The advice columnists are really showing their special brand of STUPID!!!!

For example, when a young woman was brutally murdered, (I knew this young woman since her mother was pregnant with her), I doubt very seriously that the grieving family would stop and think to write "formal thank you notes" for food that was brought to them!  They were in SHOCK for God's Sakes!!!! 

Wow I was really suprised by that one, I've never known anyone expect a thank you card for doing something after a death occurs?!  People just pop round with stuff and leave it on the doorstep, I always thought?  It would be the other way round, surely, you writing to them to say how sorry you are and if there's anything you can do etc?  It's funny the way some people's minds work.