Mindfulness and codependence thread

[lighter]

Slow morning....drinking Gui Zhi Tang tea and gobbling Andrographis Complex herbal supplements every 15 minutes/first 2 hours, then one an hour rest of the day......
::cough cough::.
I'm feeling a bit of ick, in'me lungs. Cousins arrive Thursday, and there's a haunted garage, to arrange, and decorate.

Got lots of cool ideas from the Haunted Farm last night.  I don't think the fake fog, water splashes/mists, or pipes in LARGE yucky smells helped my lung situation , btw ..but it was glorious!

Had to be rebuilt, after Helene. Now there's tops and bottoms of lumber, yard log offcuts, channeling people into and out of areas.  Think 20'tall Viking builds SO cool. Such a magnificent idea!  I'm in jealous I never thought of it!!!

More and better everything...about 45 minutes of scares and chills.  Three scary guys wielding chainsaws this year, with a bonus 4th, perfectly appointed Leatherface, wielding a fourth, later on.

A headless horseman , on a real horse! 

Great monsters, as always.

This was first year I didn't drive or go first.  These tits are tired.

Lighter

[Hopalong]

See you after Scaryween!

Meanwhile, happy you have so much fun with it.



hugs
Hops

[Hopalong]

And I completely forgot about it, so was surprised when along with my grocery guy, three nice adolescents turned up out front...and I said, y'all are from Wegman's? (Doesn't say much for my orientation in time and space or especially calendar...but what the hell.)

Apologized profusely and they were so sweet about it. So all my avoidant preparations weren't really needed at all, nice to discover.

hugs and hope y'all had FUN!
Hops

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We had fun, Hops.  The haunted clown house was a smash success, again, AND the neighbors, with the fabulous cemetery set-up, came by.  We went to see them....they had a baby pool sized moon mounted over their house....SO Cool!  It had a backlit moon shower curtain stretched over..... can't tell you how amazing the stone look tomb stones, hooded ghoul and new faux stone/iron and chain fencing looked....candle lit lanterns everywhere, a bar and full sized candy bars, whoo hoo!  The husband, responsible for making everything, rode his Harley to our house, and we scared him many times!  He was impressed.  I really enjoyed people's faces as they contemplated sticking their hand in the cauldron of candy, as a shrieking clown face clacked it's sharp teeth at them.....such a dark cauldron..... I'd make a loud snarfing noise, by their head, when they stuck their hand in.....big fun!

My cousin's dh had a really scary costume, and the patience/timing to give the first BIG scare, at the entrance.  That set the tone.  Everyone of us, sat motionless, amid loud animatronics..... impossible to tell, which thing, was human or doll.....until we moved/jumped scared them.

A good time was had by all, and we went antiquing today.

I'm glad your avoidant prep wasn't necessary. 

Lighter

[Hopalong]

Jump-scares give me angina.

I'm one-a THOSE.

A chicken shit. Here's the BIG TRUTH:
When I was about 10, my parents had to take me out of the Disney movie "Darby O'Gill and the Little People" because I was absolootely TERRIFIED of the banshee. Her moaning wail. That sound.

So my brother would hide under my bed for weeks after and pitch a moan after I'd been asleep for a bit. He loved my terror.

And did I say there were lots of 6-7-8 year olds who were just laughing during that movie? I needed a children's loony bin. (It hasn't improved much, LOL.)

BOO!

hugs
Hops

[sKePTiKal]

Hops - maybe you have an unconscious memory from a past life? (just kidding)

Halloween didn't interest me much this year. Not even the pagan rites. That's probably due to how busy we've been (doing), the eye situation, the lift, and managing my own unpredictable feelings. (High maintenance right now.)

Glad you had trick or treaters, Hops. Lighter, your house sounds like fun!

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4, out of 6, are ill right now.  Just my cousin, and I , remain well.  Contractor called in sick this morning....I pulled a 2' long hair out of the pug's throat.....and it's cold out.  So so cold, with all the Halloween stuff sitting at the garage entrance, waiting to be bagged and schlepped to the crawl space. 

Crawlspace needs some editing, but in good shape, mostly.  I SHOULD make returns to HD and drop offs to ReStore.....which opens tomorrow.  Returns today.  Food bank today.  Goodwill today. Veterans and ReStore tomorrow.

Hopefully, sister feels better tomorrow, so we can take cousin downtown to feel the vibe.  Maybe catch a Burlesque show, visit cool bars and eat somewhere yummy....Indian, maybe.

But first.....
the crawlspace.

Lighter

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Divorcing cousin is here through the weekend.  She goes back hom for first divorce hearing next week.

Her h was removed from the house ...I think I said that already.  More importantly, so were all the guns. AND he can't buy more, according to the 2 year restraining order he agreed to.  He's begging their DD to bring him a fun "for protect." He's a very bad liar. 

He's also introduced another woman as "his wife" at his church. I know he's on "dating"apps....the pay by the minute kind.  I wonder if the new wife will care?  I doubt it.

I'm praying the Judge sends both of them into the hall to write up a Final Settlement Agreement.  Not much to fight over, but then..... it's difficult for PDs to agree, to anything, and move on.

I'm pretty sure the restraining order got done, bc the h went for hours without a drink......he was likely climbing the walls.  I don't laugh about his pain or suffering, for surely he suffers.

I do what I've come to do automatically.....
accept mitigating harm/expense/trauma and time, is the best possible outcome for all. 

The kids, at University, want to move back home from friend's houses.  Maybe.  The house might have to sell.

The DD loves and misses her dad.  So sad their together time includes him getting her drunk and terrorizing her.....asking her to do things NOT in her best interest.

I wonder if he'll pull his relationships, with his children, out of the dirt.  I have zero expectations he cares to.

I'll end on this note....cousin has documented proof of stbx's failure to comply with TRO.  She could have him arrested any time.....
which means he'll sweat out beer longer than he'll be able to endure going without a drink.

This gives me the best hope he'll do the right thing, and move on.

Cousin wants him to be ok.  She just wants out, and for everyone to be ok.

It's astonishing to witness parents, who care about protecting and shielding their young vs the one's sacrificing them to the Gods of Hate and Vengeance.  Always.

Nothin fair about it.

The sky is blue.
The grass is green.
Some parents eat their young.

There's an auction at the ReStore today.  I might drop a lot and off and stick my head in.

Lighter