Mum, Bludie, Bunny.
What I ment on my elaborate discription was
you think you're free from them, all is done, but later time goes on and they can still give you trouble.
Maybe there are loop holes with the kids you didn't see coming.
Can he come back and try and change things or say your not a good parent. Try to take your children or tell lies to cause people to question you. (cuse you a hellish revenge only an N can dish out)
Had I done that, instead of the giant "YAHOO! the weight is off my neck...party time!" that I did, I would NEVER have written some things into my parenting agreement that I did
I understand you to say,
stay with a therapist while you encounter the legal battles, so you stay focused.
maybe you thought it was ok without the support and now you are stronger and wished you would not, have agreed with the H demands so easily.
Good advise.
When you make a parenting agreement, is it what ever you want?
can you explain.
should I go to the library and find something on this?
this is why I get a lawyer to write this up for me?
I'm poor and won't be able to afford a lawyer, My husband has been on SSI for over 5 years we are down to nothing material.
My H has never been physical but how do you prove the mental abuse.
having this medical report has only a brief statement "self-absorbed Narsisstic, thats it. I will keep writing things maybe I should keep copies of the the emails his brother has sent regarding his behavior too.
(to use the quote function)
1. highlight from your data source
2. right clk,copy
3. rt/clk paste onto the reply box .
4. highlight, move up to the top and press the quote btn)
Bludie,
financially, legally and otherwise. I wrote everything down: every conversation I had with movers, storage units, utility companies
Why the movers and rental units.
He has a rental unit to keep his stuff out of the garage. (tools and machines).
By the way, was REALLY sorry to hear about her school situation this week. What else could be going on to make life crazier
Thanks for your concern, I'm glad its friday.
I decided not to share this with my husband. I felt like a single mom, dealing with the kid problems on my own.
I could not believe it when I got the phone call from the nurse at school. First I thought it was the hospital for my H, then realized it was about my daughter. (never in a fight before)
Now Im spooked I went out to my car and my tire was flat, a big hole no nail just a hole. I locked my car behind our fence instead of leaving it parked outside the gate. I didn't tell my daughter, I wondered if it was done in retaliation to the police filing.
I dont follow the boxing circut, but Sugar Shane Mosley (a famous boxer) and his wife Jen come in for us to fix their computers.
He wrote my daughter a note about her fight
("keep your head down and watch the uppper cut")
I gave it to her to show her friends. It made her feel important with the kids.
she was feeling uneasy because the kids said she didn't fight back (this girl 3 times bigger).
I think I may have hit her back. I grew up with 3 sisters and a twin brother, we fought all the time.
she is an only child and has little reason to be fighting.
I told her she didn't need to explain, not hitting back.
I guess I will need to show her some blocking moves or work on defending herself before this happens again.
Most of them expected to see a fight that day, I'm glad she walked away or she would have been expelled with a host of other problems.
My husband still does not know.
The N's will turn things around. I could picture him saying something mean like she deserved it. She has a smart mouth and I can just picture she may have said something to this girls friend about the way she played the vollyball. She may have thought nothing, but it may have sounded like she had an attitude. Just the same if this girl had a problem with it she should have dealt with it, not get someone else involved.
At 12, even looking a certain way could cause problems.
Somtimes she gets angry at her dad and will say it with an attitude, it would open a door for him everytime.
I am working on dealing with her dad getting better, he said the surgery was a complete failure. I don't know how he figures this. He has feelings in his legs and they fixed 3 herniated disk. He said his hip hurts and he wants an x-ray and write up on what they did.
I had to go the the doctors today to get paper work on the blood test he needs for the blood clot. I told the nurses that he is difficult and will not follow directions. The nurse said the doctor wants us both to come in to talk about the results. I came home to get him to go but he said not today. No surprize.
I know I have written enough for now my daughter wants on the computer
thanks so much for responding......onlyrenting
