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Bludie,

Your schedule must be very busy,I have really missed your post. I hope all is well with you.

The leagal papers are SOOOOOOOOO much fun. I have called for legal assistance. It appears everyone has a different Idea about whats needed.

My H is asking when to expect our D at his front door, When he gets my OSC, asking the judge to give me all legal/physical custody he will be so happy.

I'm so tired today, I will wrtie some more later. I'm so gald to hear from you.   Take care   OR

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OR, get all the rest you can.  Bludie is right, you have done a tremendous work over the last weeks and months.  Don't get so distracted by all the "things" to be done that you forget your only real task:  taking care of yourself and your daughter.

Hi Bludie!  Its been a while since you posted.  Welcome back.

[OR]

Long, I got some rest I feel better.

Thanks for check on me. I pushed hard this week because of the time line I'm dealing with, thinking there is always one more thing to do.

I first thought the divorce papers court stamp of the 6th was my dead line.
I called the court they said the day I signed for mail pickup was 30days from that day the 12th. My H wrote in the papers he was demanding my D home on the 30th. He can't make me do anything with out a judge.

I'm asking for temp custody until Nov. 2nd when this goes to court.
sometime in  June or July the temp custody OSC will be heard.

I'm so glad I left like I did, didn't wait for any papers to be filed, or I would be stuck now. No one has knocked on my door to ask. The police came to my BIL's two days after I first left, to find out if I was expected to be there, no one else has called.

My Husbands health may change and maybe he will have money by time the hearing comes about. For now he has submitted to the courts, papers showing he is not able to take care of her.

I still have lots to do, I will try and stay focused on my D, pushed hard so I could relax a little this weekend.

Thanks   OR

[mum as guest]

OR:  you sound strong...centered.  Good for you.  Stay that way....and if you doubt for one second, remember how far you've already come.
Bless you.
Mum

[OR]

Hi everyone,

I just received an e-mail from my H, telling me to CALL him.
He is afraid I will send him a computer virus so he will not open any more e-mails from me. I have not sent him any e-mails, he wants something else. He thinks my D will be coming home on the 30th because he wants her to.

He tells me how his brother and I are doing the nasty, how he told his lawyer all about it. Tells me if I don't sign the Divorce papers he will send someone to my work.

I have 30days and was sending them out this week.
Now I think I will wait until next week or near the 12th when they are due.

I was just hoping he could be reasonalbe, but guess not. The judges expect us to have mediation, I have been working on the visitaion schedules asking him to be with supervision.

He is saying how he will be working by the end of the year so give him the divorce now like he wants.

I have not e-mailed with more than got your e-mail, but he tells me all the lies I have told him how he NEVER lies
 won't care what you do

N-H said : I have changed the name to BIL and daughter to D

I just want free of you
The only conversation we should have is about D & you can't lie anymore
I'm sick of your lies
 
I'm sure will never talk to (BIL) again
Also my attorney knows everything about both of you
You know I don't lie
However you & (BIL) are perfect together
You both hate me, both love adultery & both are pathetic liars
You two are perfect together, plus you both are ethically challenged
He works diagnosing VD he can check you first

I won't respond but will keep this one in his file.
He lets me know how I have done the right thing to leave him.

OR

[d's mom]

I'm asking for temp custody until Nov. 2nd when this goes to court.
sometime in  June or July the temp custody OSC will be heard.

hi, or! glad your doing well.

im just curious..... if your daughter lives with you now, how come you have to have the proceedings in CA...?.. if im missing something let me know..

seems like the jurisdiction would be where you live. if its not, you can petition to have it changed, and you can also try to ask for an ex-parte hearing.  if hes really that broke having to travel to texas (texas, correct?) to appear could be just enough advantage for you, to seal the deal.
just an quickie thought to inquire about.
a.

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I just received an e-mail from my H, telling me to CALL him.
He is afraid I will send him a computer virus so he will not open any more e-mails from me.

ROTFLMAO!!!!!  If it were me, I'd start sending him emails with titles like "virus" and "infectious - do not read."  Good thing it isn't me.

((((((((((OR&D))))))))))

He sounds like he's getting desparate now.  I'm glad you aren't around him anymore.

[OR]

Long and Mum,

Thanks for checkin on me.

Mum: Speaking with the legal aid I would need to be a resident for 6mos here in TX, before I can do any leagal action.

The more I read Mediation is mandatory even with a lawyer. Child custody requires the parents to communicate.
I also found something in CA saying you can't move out of state once you file. Alienation of the other parent and family members. Maybe his family being here looks good, and the financial responsibility on my sholders would carry weight. My H will not communicate without spilling out his poision.

If Mediation is the first rule, getting a lawyer paying 5,000 may be a waste. Im poor and the current response papers allow attachments for reasons why mediation would not work. He is not willing to make an effort to communicate with reason.

Long: Yes he is getting very desparate. My D is still in school here and he doesn't care just wants her back. His rent is due on the 1st, her SSI check came to me this last time so he needs the money.

I will wrtie more later

OR[/i]

[Anonymous]

OR:

This man is truly sick in the head.  Make him wait, wait, wait, wait, since he is so impatient that things go his way immediately..........slo mo is called far.  He is totally paranoid.   Make him do all the work and just be passive aggressive.  In other words do those things that are constructive for you and your D.  Put him on the defensive by making him call and just getting the answering machine.  If he email.....well answer him in the shortest way possible.

I am going to be really cold here and I hope you do not take offense.....the best thing that could happen is he would just go ahead and die a natural death.  I know your D would miss him, but he is a person in total misery.  Not only mentally but physically as well.  There is no way he can possibly take care of your D.  All he wants is the SSI check as he has no visible means of support.

Just save as much energy as possible and do the things that are necessary.  It takes a great deal of mental energy to do what you are doing.  

Just keep on keeping on.

Love, Patz

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Anna, sorry I thought it was MUM writing.
If you think some other way to have the courts changed I will look into it.
The case has been filed in CA.

I just received another e-mail, explaining how my H just was notified about the return slip for the Divorce papers. He's telling me his lawyer just now let him know. He must have legal aid helping him.

I'm sending the minimum paper work about the finances, and working on the OSC. the cost of a lawyer is 2,000 and up. I need to file this on my own, anyone know about Order to Show Cause. I need to do it asap.
I faxed the papers over but the fax was not readable. I hope I file correctly, before he decides he needs to file first.

Patz, its funny you say about him better off out of his misery.
I see his medical evaluation shows he would not committ suicide.
I imagine his life will get more difficult, I'm just as glad Im won't be there to see it.

In this last e-mail most of his comments are bible scriptures
and wants to know when our D will arrive. He sounds less hostile. I told him I picked up his papers 2weeks ago.

now you know I have no ill will toward you
 
I don't blame or have hostility to you


The lord said " a kings heart is like water in my hand"
 
So God hardened your hearts to me
 
I must obey God
 
What ever it is for distruction or rebirth it is the lords will
I will accept it that way
I do believe by medical events & legal proceedings in my personal life you are unaware of
A great new life free of health and financial worries awaits me
God also said " I chasen whom I love"
" Do not rebuke the chasening of the lord"
 

I need to leave to pickup my D from Cheer Camp.

[Anonymous]

Hi OR:

I haven't read back in this thread for a bit but I just want to say:

He makes me want to huuuuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrrllll!!

He's so full of hogbalognawash that it's streaming out his fingertips now!!

What a load of silly stuff!!!

Stick to your plan, OR.  You're doing it!!  Keep plodding along and filing and getting information and all.

You are doing a great job!!  Don't let his rubbish upset you or fizz on you.

He's a sick puppy.   Poor pathetic little dupe.  Let him rot!!

GFN

[mudpuppy]

OR,
 
Your lesion wrote,

What ever it is for distruction or rebirth it is the lords will
I will accept it that way
I do believe by medical events & legal proceedings in my personal life you are unaware of
A great new life free of health and financial worries awaits me
God also said " I chasen whom I love"
" Do not rebuke the chasening of the lord"

What an egg suckin', squid faced puke, to qoute Mark Twain.
It is true that whom the Lord loves He chastens.
I hope and pray He really, really, really loves your soon to be ex for the next few months.

He also wrote,

I must obey God

That triggered my gag reflex as well GFN?  I guess I missed the "thou shall threaten to shoot thy wife" commandment.

What a punk.

mudpup

[mum]

Man, OR, let him keep writing.....what a nutjob!!!
This is not a rational, sane person's writing.
All will be well.  YOur daughter is doing well, you are away from a crazy person.....(terrifically obvious), so I believe you will do well in court.  Keep those crazy emails comin' pal  

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OR, hang in there.  Just take the next baby step.  Don't worry about the steps that may come after that.  You are doing a fantastic job!  I agree with the others, STBXH's writing is truly bizarre.  It's stupefying to consider how anyone could possibly reply to this writing with any positive effect.

[OR]

Hello, to all.

Speaking with the Legal Aid about the filing on OSC, I keep the e-mails all the damaging information for mediation. There will be a mediator for each of us. We will both fill out a questionaire along with this I add the medical information, e-mails etc. Having a physological evaluation would be costly if he wanted one for me, I already have his HAH!
The mediation will determine if he should have supervised visitations, physical custody or legal.  

For now I mailed my papers regarding my income. I have put everything I thought he might have. I do believe he has money from his settlement, wants our D because of the SSI. The sooner he gets us out of the picture the better for him. He is already talking about how his health will be better and money is coming his way. I'm glad divorce suits him, so glad he's not asking to get back together.  When the mediation starts he will be seen for the liar he is.
I will show them the e-mails, so they understand lets move forward to end the marriage.

OFF to work   OR