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Sela

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Non-conflict thread
« on: June 16, 2006, 10:38:34 AM »
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Hi there.....ya'll and good morning!  Ain't it a beaut?  It's sunny here and life is quite calm, cool and collected.
Hey......1........2..............3...........this is the 4th thread started to do with/sort of......the same kind of thingy.  I like the number 4.

I figgered, why not start a thread for anybody who doesn't feel like getting into another discussion about conflict, who might be too tired after a long week at work to bother getting all riled up, who might have nothing useful to say (like me) about the whole scene at this time, who may just feel like staying OUT of triangles and wars and like it might be a waste of their time to get involved, because it might backfire.  Also, for those who are wearing their chicken suits (how do you like mine?  I love yellow!!  8)) and are afraid that by getting into another one.....things could escalate, again, and once burnt...twice..something or other?  :shock:  :?

Oh ya!  And for anybody who wants to say that non-conflict is just as good and fun and pleasing and cute as conflict is......and who wants to write that on a bumper sticker and glue it to the back windshield of their hummer!  Feel free!! Post here!!  :D 

Plus.......I haven't started a thread in awhile because I really seem to have to build up some kind of mental/emotional courage and examine my intentions and make sure it seems like something others will be interested in and maybe might want to talk about or at least.....might lead to something worth talking about....that may help me or someone, at least, and plus be an honest expression of something within me that needs to come out and all of that and ..........

Heck!  I just threw caution to the wind and started this one anyhow.  No need to reply, if you don't want to or think it's silly (it is!! :D :D  Or is it??  :? :?  I can't tell  :?).    Or........put your own deep stuff here, if you want......do the highjacky thingy and feel absolutely no, not a smidge, nor a drop, or a dram of guilt about it!!

The best rule is:

1.  BE NICE!

Ofcourse, I don't make the rules and certainly have no way of enforcing them, so forget that rule, unless you feel like following it, then by all means...........

I think I'm rambling now. :roll:  Am I?  Ok......since I'm making up rules I have no right to make up and can't enforce (nor do I want to have that much power, come to think of it, anyhow...that's for warriors and police and moderators and bosses and stuff :arrow:).......but since I'm thinking up rules to make that can't and won't be enforced by me........how about:

2.  Ramble if you want to just don't be mean and rumble!!

'Course, I can easily go on and on about rules and not getting into conflict, today, 'cause I feel like it and 'cause I'm not the one being called N or told I'm over-reacting or might be over-reacting or feeling the need to defend anyone who's been called and N or told their over-reacting or who might be over-reacting because the last time I stuck my nose in where it wasn't polite to do so......look what happened?

Silence.

Ok next rule then........

3.  No going silent.

Talk.  Talk respectfully.  Talk honestly.  Talk with sincerity.  Talk with an open mind (or an empty one, like mine eh?)......but do talk.  Don't go silent and stop talking and divorce all possibility of resolution.  Only by talking will that possibility ever happen.  Talking is good stuff.  Not talking is.......

No fun at all (  :( )  It's too quiet.   Although....silence is golden eh?  Ok....but so is harp music.  :D  I love harp music.

And I like having fun ( :mrgreen:).

I do.  I like so much here and so many people.  I like seeing conflict resolved.    I like seeing it not start, to begin with, and I like how others dooooo step in and speak their minds and try to get their points across and how sometimes........people's views change, in a good way, and things work out lovely.  I like it when we treat eachother with respect.

Alrighty then......last rule (that I can't make nor enforce, mind you:)

4.  Be respectful please.

Hahahahaha!  I've broken all those rules myself, sometimes!  ( :oops: :oops:  that was embarassed laughter, by the way).

I like the number 4 and the fact that I can write 4 rules that I can't enforce and the fact that I bet someone........maybe more than a few people here.......will gettttttt what I'm ramblin' about!  That is another wonderful thingy!  Lot's of times.....people here get what eachother is saying.

It's not always misunderstanding or conflict.  Not even that often (statistically speaking......if I had any idea about the statistics or were a person inclined to research them, which I'm not, not those particular statistics.  I have other stuff to do today-----like grocery shop----and laundry---and cleaning---all the fun stuff!).

Ok .....off I go.  Hope you all enjoyed this as much as I did.  We might need 42 more threads that inter-relate, I'm not sure.  :wink:   This one would be lovely if the rules were followed.....what do you think??

 :D Sela

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Re: Non-conflict thread
« Reply #1 on: June 16, 2006, 10:45:22 AM »
Ok... sword on the ground by the door... shield in same place... out of warrior pose now  :lol:
Here's a little hug for u
To make you smilie while ur feeling blue
To make u happy if you're sad
To let u know, life ain't so bad
Now I've given a hug to u
Somehow, I feel better too!
Hugs r better when u share
So pass one on & show u care

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Re: Non-conflict thread
« Reply #2 on: June 16, 2006, 10:55:01 AM »
Ramble not rumble, hee hee, I like that.  Doesn't really rhyme but does sound really cool.

PP
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Re: Non-conflict thread
« Reply #3 on: June 16, 2006, 10:56:24 AM »
Ok serious now…. Hi Sela ((((((((((Hugs))))))))))

I think this is a good idea….

One thing you mentioned was about starting a thread…. I’ve been thinking about this, and while I don’t find it too difficult to start a thread, I find it really hard to be the first person to respond to a thread, the first person to respond and worry that other’s may not agree with me, or that I’m not helping the person in question, or that they won’t like what I have to say….  I feel more comfy responding when there are several responses already.

Take care

H&H xx
Here's a little hug for u
To make you smilie while ur feeling blue
To make u happy if you're sad
To let u know, life ain't so bad
Now I've given a hug to u
Somehow, I feel better too!
Hugs r better when u share
So pass one on & show u care

Sela

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Re: Non-conflict thread
« Reply #4 on: June 16, 2006, 11:14:49 AM »
Hiya H&H, PP:

Nope.  I haven't rushed off to grocery shop yet.  I'm .....procrastinating.  I lied.  Grocery shopping is not fun, for me.  But it's better than some other stuff.

H&H:  Pick that sword up please?  I don't want you to waste Hoppy's marshmallow and my chocolate and graham wafer!  We need to roast that s'more don't we?  Who's got a lighter/matches/flame??  :shock:

Let it hereforewith be known.....that PP likes the sound of cool sounding almost rhyme! ( :mrgreen:  Thanks PP.  :oops: :oops:  I'm almost a poet eh?).

H&H.....I get that same not wanting to be the first to post to a thread thingy too and then also get a .....nobody's posting so I gotta post something kinda thingy or .....a I'll be brave today and try to say something useful thingy and .....all kinds of weird stuff.  Our brains are truly amazing eh?  The stuff mine comes up with sometimes...... :roll:.....

Hey!  Speaking of which!   Guess what I bought yesterday?

A "rain forrest" cd (with birds and calming music and dripping tree sounds and all kinds of rain forrest type stuff on it).  I've decided:

I'm going to make a real committment to relaxation, visualization, positive suggestion and even subliminal suggestions to myself!  I know it works and it's time to focus.  (Might sound a bit batty but hey......at least I'm not announcing that I have the blue prints I was looking for to plan that bank robbery or I've dyed my hair neon green and pierced my bottom lip.....which I might do.....iffffff I live to be 96!).

So....how is this related?  I mean that last announcement is related to our truly amazing brains and my decision to work on making some improvements to mine.   I feel like I've officially finished grieving and am ready to move on towards a more serene state.  Does that sound entirely nutty?  :shock:   Well, it's how I feel and it's like some kind of accomplishment, almost.  Well, it feels like it.  I've been so dang down for so long and it feels like a weight has been lifted.

But there is much work ahead.  I guess I'm just glad to finally be feeling like doing it.

Anyway......thanks for listening and talking.  ((((((((((((((((all)))))))))))))))))))

 :D Sela

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Re: Non-conflict thread
« Reply #5 on: June 16, 2006, 11:19:45 AM »
So I suppose you people in the US are going to have S'mores on this thread too.  OK!!!!!  I am going to go make chocolate chip cookies.  So there!!!!!!!!

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Re: Non-conflict thread
« Reply #6 on: June 16, 2006, 11:21:49 AM »
That's wonderful about your intention for serenity, Sela. Bravo.
And funny you mentioned the calming sounds...my D was up this weekend and poked through our boxes in the basement (I never unpacked after moving in)...and found my "Sleep Machine"! I forgot I'd owned it. Sleep (and serenity for that matter) are real struggles for me.

So I turned it on last night to the sound of electronic surf...I swear it helped me sleep better, and I've kept it on all morning while working on my laptop at home. Lovely invention. It's got a soft clack-clack train-in-the-distance sound too, which reminds me of the train I used to listen to at night when I was a little girl...I can still hear its whistle now and then, since this house is not far from the old one.

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Re: Non-conflict thread
« Reply #7 on: June 16, 2006, 11:22:23 AM »
So I suppose you people in the US are going to have S'mores on this thread too.  OK!!!!!  I am going to go make chocolate chip cookies.  So there!!!!!!!!

And fresh strawberries with cream and dusting of icing sugar.... yummy!
Here's a little hug for u
To make you smilie while ur feeling blue
To make u happy if you're sad
To let u know, life ain't so bad
Now I've given a hug to u
Somehow, I feel better too!
Hugs r better when u share
So pass one on & show u care

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Re: Non-conflict thread
« Reply #8 on: June 16, 2006, 11:22:59 AM »
I'm running for the plane!

drooling,

Hops
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Sela

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Re: Non-conflict thread
« Reply #9 on: June 16, 2006, 11:40:08 AM »
Hey Jona!  H&H put her sword down so we won't be making s'mores afterall.  Can we all come over to your place for some of those cookies?  I'll bring chocolate milk?

But wait!  :shock: :shock:  H&H, you have strawberries and what?  :shock: :shock:
Maybe you feel like sharing?  Ok.  There's got to be a way to do this so everyone gets a taste?

Reminds me of years ago, a friend of mine had a "strawberry luncheon".  Everyone brought a dish made with strawberries.  We had strawberry soup, with strawberry scones, and salad with strawberries, kiwis and mandarines in it.  Also, strawberry tea and strawberry juice and strawberry spritzers (with alcohol in them, even) and oh ya...strawberry margeritas.  And strawberry shortcake, strawberry tarts, strawberry cheese cake and strawberry pie for dessert.

We all ended up stuffed and bloated and red and looking like big strawberries ourselves, by the time we were done.  It was marvelous!!  And to think....I've been invited to a blueberry pancake breakfast coming up (different lady's house).  We're all to bring blueberry stuff!  And we'll likely end up quite blue looking, afterward.

Where was I?  Oh ya.......Thanks Hops.  Oh your sleep machine sounds lovely!!  I'm glad you found it and are using it!  Whatever helps eh?  Good for you!  Sleep is sooo important, I think.  Another prob I'm dealing with too.  I fall asleep real quick without any trouble.  But staying alseep?  I wake up every hour or so.

So yesterday, I also went to a reflexologist and had a "treatment".  It's costly but great therapy.  Slept like a baby last night.  Which is another thing I've decided.  I'm worth that costly therapy.  I'm going to go for it because it helps.

 :D Sela

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Re: Non-conflict thread
« Reply #10 on: June 16, 2006, 12:11:32 PM »
Hey Sela,

Are you an N? Who do you think you are posting rules for us to follow? Why do you think you can exclude conflict from your own thread? Is that grandiose or what?
I'm gonna do the opposite of all four of your 'rules' and hold my breath til I turn blue just to top it off.

But first I'm going to have to sit down and figure out a way to ramble, be mean, go silent and hold my breath simultaneously. Could I have a smore while I think? And I'm not saying please. :x :P

There, I hope that saved someone the trouble of posting something along those lines seriously.

mud

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Re: Non-conflict thread
« Reply #11 on: June 16, 2006, 12:36:49 PM »
Hey Muddy!  Glad you put your foot in here!! ( :D)

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Are you an N?

I'm avoiding labels today but thanks for asking.

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Who do you think you are posting rules for us to follow?

I'm Sela, I think.  :roll:  Awwwww but Mud, to follow, not follow......the rules I can't make or enforce.....'tisn't up to me eh?  But thanks for offering.  :?

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Why do you think you can exclude conflict from your own thread?

Is that what I think?  Ok then, thanks for letting me know.  I'll try to think differently...but I might fail eh?  Happens all the time.  :(

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Is that grandiose or what?


It's what, I think.  I like what better but hey......it could be grandiose.....or just grand......or...largiose.....or fine or lovely or big or.......

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I'm gonna do the opposite of all four of your 'rules' and hold my breath til I turn blue just to top it off.

Look.  I know you're a man and for all I know, maybe you don't cook, but you can't get invited to the blueberry pancake breakfast by simply turning blue.  No way buddy!!  Go buy a pie or something!!

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But first I'm going to have to sit down and figure out a way to ramble,

You don't have to sit down.  You can stand up, if you like.  Or lie on your belly and wiggly around like a mudpuppy.  Whatever feeeeeeeeeels ok.

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be mean

Ok, if you want to, but I'm telling you turn as blue as you like and you still have to bring a pie.

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, go silent and hold my breath simultaneously.

Now how are you going to eat pancakes and pie in that state?

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Could I have a smore while I think?

Oh for crying out loud!  There aren't any s'mores any more.  No s'mores!  No more!  No more s'mores!!

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And I'm not saying please.


It won't do you any good no how 'cause there ain't no more!!  No more s'mores!!

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There, I hope that saved someone the trouble of posting something along those lines seriously.

That was very considerate of you Mud.  Ok, you can come to the pancake breakfast.  Bring serviettes. How's that?

 :D Sela

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Re: Non-conflict thread
« Reply #12 on: June 16, 2006, 12:54:42 PM »
But wait!  :shock: :shock:  H&H, you have strawberries and what?  :shock: :shock:
Maybe you feel like sharing?  Ok.  There's got to be a way to do this so everyone gets a taste?

strawberry soup

Strawberries & Cream... think of Wimbledon.... very english  :lol:  There's plenty to go around so we can all look red or blue or whatever colour we choose to.....

Strawberry soup.... serious?   :?  :?  :?  :?

Must dash.... hope you all have a great Friday! xx

PS on edit... loved your posts Mud & Sela.  Found them really amusing and great that we can laugh about things like this.
Here's a little hug for u
To make you smilie while ur feeling blue
To make u happy if you're sad
To let u know, life ain't so bad
Now I've given a hug to u
Somehow, I feel better too!
Hugs r better when u share
So pass one on & show u care

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Re: Non-conflict thread
« Reply #13 on: June 16, 2006, 02:23:35 PM »
yum,
I bought a whole box of Entemann's donuts and they're the best with coffee?  Anyone?

bean

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Re: Non-conflict thread
« Reply #14 on: June 16, 2006, 02:33:51 PM »
Serious Strawberry Soup:

Ingredients:
1 cup apple juice
1 cup water, divided
2/3 cup sugar
1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1/8 teaspoon ground cloves
2 cups fresh strawberries
16 ounces premium strawberry yogurt
Additional strawberry slices (few for each bowl and a mint sprig, if available)
Mounds of whipping

In a saucepan, combine the apple juice, 3/4 cup water, sugar, cinnamon, and cloves. Bring to a boil over medium heat; cool. Place cleaned strawberries and remaining water in a blender or food processor; cover and blend until smooth. Pour into a large bowl. Add in apple juice and yogurt. Mix well. Cover and refrigerate, preferably for 24 hours. Serve in chilled bowls.  Garnish with additional strawberries and whipped cream topped with a sprig of mint.

Serves: 6 to 8
« Last Edit: June 16, 2006, 03:00:09 PM by Sela »