Dear Lighter,
I just now read this:
"Eventually, you have everything internalized and understood so that you can respond and remain calm to any craziness they throw at you.
It's the best feeling to face a person who causes guilt and confusion to keep you off balance.
Imagine their surprise when you stare them straight in the eye and stay on track.
People of the lie...... don't like to be nailed down with facts.
don't like to answer on target questions that expose them.
don't like to stick to the subject.
don't like it when you remain firm in your ideas and refuse to be sidetracked with emotional terrorism.
Lordy Loo..... the ones that ACCUSE you of DOING EXACTLY WHAT THEY"RE DOING.....
really don't like it, lol; )
Maybe that's what becoming comfortable in our own skin is all about?
Just figuring out how we really feel about something.... then honoring it?"
Yes!
That's it!!
Lupita repeated it.
Just thought it bore repeating... again! Thank you!
Dear Lupita,
I agree with Lighter about the need to finish this business.
When we try so hard NOT to think about something or someone, that's exactly when the haunting begins. This stuff needs to get out there into the open where the Light can chase away the shadows. You write and talk and let it all out there until it's purged.
And dear Lupita, I believe that your sister-in-law honestly likes you.
I cannot imagine someone not liking you, Lupita.
Whether she is strong enough to stand on that truth and walk by it in front of the rest of the family doesn't change that fact. You are likeable and loveable, Lupita.
If your sis-in-law is too weak to let the rest of the family know how wonderful you are and how much fun she had with you, then that is her weakness showing, not anything about you. Her weakness does not reflect on you at all, okay?
Yes, it counts that you had fun. In your heart, I think you know that she had fun, too. I hope that you will be able to stop feeling like there is some weight hanging over your head about what she may say to the others. She may not be strong enough to speak her truth before them. But you are!
Hugs and love,
Hope