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NH Bagworm Does It Again- Bleeh!
« on: November 17, 2007, 12:18:28 AM »
Last night the Bagworm was scheduled to come to the (unknown to him almost empty) house. He and his moronic lawyer (hereinafter referred to as The Moron) did not submit a list of items to be retreived or a confirmation of the appointment. Letters went out from my attorney's office setting a new date and time. I have a major paper due Monday but still have work going on at the house. I am exhausted- I slept on the floor the other night with no covers, just layers of clothes and it was super cold, so I didn't sleep enough. I went to my friend's place ( I had paid $600 for the use of a small room but it is full of stuff and has never been cleaned out, a small bed is downstairs which I used once before, with no linens. I bought new linens and she immediately covered the bed with all manner of disgusting items.) The other night she begged me to come over and write a letter to her work regarding some negotiaitions, etc. I did so, after school and after working on the house. I worked on her items late into the night and when I tried to put my shoes on, I couldn't (my dodgy foot) With slippers I could not walk or stand. I was also woozy from lack of sleep, so she cleared the tiny cot/bed and I went to sleep immediately (I wanted to leave but couldn't move- I was so exhausted )
I have been working on the house and hired workers. The walls are beautiful and the floors have come out wonderfully. I have also had law school , my lawyer and other major items to deal with. My workers and I get along well (we sometimes sing along to the music they bring as we work), and they often try to give back a portion of the money I pay them daily. Tonight we finished a big project and it really looks lovely. I paid them and then I changed clothes as I had to go to meet with my lawyer (I didn'treally want to as I need some sleep and some time to work on my paper. I was stepping outside and I noticed the workers were still on the porch, and very quiet. I told them that it was Friday night and they should go have fun and kick up their heels! They remained silent. I looked toward the front and there stood the Bagworm. He had done another arrogant parking job- this time blocking my egress at my front gate.
The workers remained, standing silently on the porch. They easily could have gone but stood watching (bless their hearts). I went to the front and told the Bagworm that I had to leave to see my lawyer, and he said that his lawyer  (The Moron ) told him to show up at 5PM on the 15th . I tried to tell him that this is the 16th and that they hadn't submitted a listt and hadn't confirmed the appointment, but he turned his back and left in a contemptuous way (his manner with me ever since I became disabled) and sped off!
I called my lawyer and he became incensed about Bagworm violating the NC, and is really starting to put the pressure on Bagworm, and has worked out a way to get to my house ASAP if there is any trouble. After the call, I walked back to the house and the workers were still there, waiting. I wonder what NH Bagworm would have done if I had been alone? When I met with my attorney, he said that he has no choice but to get nasty with the Bagworm and Moron- they just won't learn!
As Ami says- Bleeh!

Love,

Changing


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Re: NH Bagworm Does It Again- Bleeh!
« Reply #1 on: November 17, 2007, 12:51:05 AM »
Oh my gosh changing,

Is it where you sleep that prevents your sleeping, or is it worry, or fear?? I cannot go without my sleep. I am useless

Why did the men stay on the porch after Bagworm sped off....on the wrong day, yet? They were protecting you, I suspect when bagworm  (well what did he do to block the gate....weird parking or more?) Was it so weird it made the men stay? How nice that y'all sing along together!

Oh dear ! The friend's place sounds.....hoardy????

Such a time you're having but your lawyer is a sweetie. You are hanging in there like a burr on a dog. Good for you!

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Re: NH Bagworm Does It Again- Bleeh!
« Reply #2 on: November 17, 2007, 01:09:37 AM »
Hi Izzy-

I love the porpoise so much!!!! It reminds me of a facet of your personality, funny, lively, playful!

I have very little furniture here, and floors and painting, etc, making it tough to sleep, as well as having to get up early and stay up late just to keep up with things. A bad combo.

God bless my workers and my lawyer. The Bagworm doesn't challenge or bully them, only women with canes. I will try to sleep tonight, not work too late on my paper.

Love,

Changing

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Re: NH Bagworm Does It Again- Bleeh!
« Reply #3 on: November 17, 2007, 01:28:30 AM »
Deep the silence 'round us spreading
all through the night.
Dark the path that we are treading
all through the night.

Still the coming day discerning
by the hope within us burning.
To the dawn our footsteps turning
all though the night.


Humming, pretending to be an angel (prolly not many unitarian angels around, but wot the heck)...watching over Changing....

protection and care,
Hops
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Re: NH Bagworm Does It Again- Bleeh!
« Reply #4 on: November 17, 2007, 01:41:53 AM »
Hoppy-

You are an angel, and you helped lead and guide me out of N hell. Bless you, you little Unitarian you!!!

Love,

Changing

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« Reply #5 on: November 17, 2007, 07:53:27 AM »
Dear Changing,
  You are always a picture of dignity and integrity whatever situation you find yourself in. I think that it was Divine Intervention that the workers were there.
  I am sending prayers .. Keep yourself led by the Divine and use all your smarts and intuition. You are such a precious person. Bagworm seems defeated ,as he comes alone and with anger.
 He seems to have known that he has lost.
 I worry about you being there if he feels that he can just "come by". What do you think? I wish that your dog were older and the protective instinct has kicked in.
  Consider having s/one there with you if you can.You are a wonderful example of handling a horrible situation with grace.           Love   Ami

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Re: NH Bagworm Does It Again- Bleeh!
« Reply #6 on: November 17, 2007, 11:11:56 AM »
Still surprising.... after all this time.... and all the crap he's pulled.... still manages to shock, doesn't he?

I will say.... when I've slept on the floor in the middle of projects or after... I got a lot done.  I may not sleep well or comfortably but it's usually a sign that I'm in high gear production mode.  Sounds like you're doing just that and good things will come from your hard work.


You're a nice person so I'm not surprised your workers stood by you and made sure Bagworm got only to squirm last night. 

I'm curiouse about what your attorney does next, now that bagworm and his moron have pushed so far. 

Get throught the  school stuff... doesn't have to be perfect... just complete, remember>?

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Re: NH Bagworm Does It Again- Bleeh!
« Reply #7 on: November 17, 2007, 11:42:27 AM »
((((((((((((((Changing)))))))))))

Sending a hug to you and continued courage and strength.

Love, Beth
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Re: NH Bagworm Does It Again- Bleeh!
« Reply #8 on: November 17, 2007, 12:08:44 PM »
Changing,

I think your workers are great to stay when they knew something was wrong. Bagworm must be getting desperate, now he knows he can't get his own way. Hopefully, it won't be too long before you're shot of him for good.


Janet

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Re: NH Bagworm Does It Again- Bleeh!
« Reply #9 on: November 17, 2007, 01:51:50 PM »
Dear (((((CB, Ami, Lighter, Gratitude, Janet)))))-

What a joy to have a bevy of advisors and kind listeners whilst one is disentangling from an N- no one else could understand! Thank you so much- the advice is crucial, the support divine, and the feeling of being understood irreplaceable. One can process all of the seemingly incomprehensible N actions with the help of wise and caring counselors, amke sense of things and be able to discuss them with the non-N intiated, as well as formulate coping and fighting skills!!!!!

CB-Thank you, you sweet and stalwart friend- it is good to know that this will pass! I hope things just keep getting better for you! The house fixing is something I can do to make myself happy and I will be paid back for whatever I spend, out of the divorce (YAY!) I want to stay, because it would be hard as a disabled law student to qualify for something else, and in the long run, I will always make money from a house- tax write off, low housing cost, no landlord, large yard for the pups, etc. Of Course, I will just deal with whatever happens, but my lawyer says that I can keep it if I want to - he wanted to know in order to formulate our battle plan strategy.

Ami- You are such a pillar of strength , faith, and comfort for me. I only hope that you enjoy your happiness and do not sacrifice yourself and your precious time for others (including me) and lose out on the time that you have for yourself! My Sammy is getting bigger and he is very protective- but still an innocent baby. He is a lover boy with bug white teeth and a big low bark and a yen to sit on one's lap!!!

Lighter- You are right, as always. If there were children here, I would have to maintain the basics of domesticity. Instead, I can clear out all of the N vibes and accoutrements, and fashion a new place to my liking. I find pleasure in having something creative, practical and productive to do amidst the chaos- I can see a little progress every day!
My Lawyer and I worked for a long time last night, on getting different documents ready to be filed at a moment's notice, as different contingencies against the Bagworm and Moron. That way there will be no lapses in action and reaction times, unless it would be to our benefit to slow things down. We have a battle plan- if they fool with us during the implementation of plan A, we will go to plan B, etc- each step is progressively more contentious, etc. They would be smart to be civil and cooperative and honest, as the court has already admonished them for their bogus hearing filing, and this certainly taints future views of their actions in the eyes of the court. But who knows with an N (or 2 Ns)!!!! Letters detailing Bagworm and Moron's bad acts (except for possible fraud in Work Comp and Moron jumping my fence, which were broady hinted at) were created as well. So we will see what happens!

Gratitude-How you have stuck by me and understood my ups, downs and mistakes is truly miraculous, and I have much GRATITUDE for you. Thank you for the hug!!! I am glad things are clearing up for you ( and hope I can follow that path as well)!

Janet- My Darling and Wicked Artist Daughter! I hope you are happily doing your symbolic heart and soul messages- art bypasses the artificial boundaries (Art v artifice) and illuminates our species. I have at least until March until I am free. I hope Bagworm stops his relentless violations- at least he hasn't profited from them lately- maybe that will teach him?

Thanks to all!!!I got to sleep late again last night, but did notget up early today!! Delicious!

Love,

Changing


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Re: NH Bagworm Does It Again- Bleeh!
« Reply #10 on: November 17, 2007, 11:44:56 PM »
Hi Changing--
Briefly, because I know you're busy...but would you enjoy describing a bit about what you're doing to transform the house? (I'm watching a home show right now--I adore seeing homes transformed...)

Only if it's fun.

xo
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Re: NH Bagworm Does It Again- Bleeh!
« Reply #11 on: November 18, 2007, 06:59:38 AM »
Dear ((((((( Changing ))))))))

Love, Hope, Peace and Joy, with Courage, for your New Life ahead.

Love & Hugs,

Leah
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Re: NH Bagworm Does It Again- Bleeh!
« Reply #12 on: November 18, 2007, 08:57:17 AM »
Changing....... I'm

in....

absolute.....

jaw dropping.....

awe.

Most attorneys do NOTHING but what their little crap formula calls for, usually without any mindful thought to the matter and certainly long after being proactive, was an option.

How outstanding this attorney must be?

How fortunate you are to have received this gift, not only bc he's your advocate but.....

bc he's also your teacher.....

and he believes in you.

I'm.......

never speechless, let's face it but, but.....

if I were going to be.....

it would be over something like this.

::sitting quietly by the keyboard feeling...... grateful:

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« Reply #13 on: November 18, 2007, 07:02:47 PM »
Hey  changing

How are you doing?

I left a post for you on GS's  'Progress" thread. I just finished my cleaning and remaking the bed!!

But you are without a bed are you not? Are you not aching and paining in every body muscle you have?

I just love your workers. About what age would they be? I'm interested in knowing that, like if they are so young it would be unexpected for them to help.

I find that workmen, delivery men, male clerks are very friendly and helpful---well except for the guy who cleaned my carpet a few months back--not him really, but the carpet itself. It's like the cleaning just 'hid' certain stains and they popped up later?

There is one spot just where my front wheel sits as though someone spilled, as in dripped, something  and I NEVER had that stain BEFORE he cleaned. Booga Booga. I see familiar stains popping back up, but not all. If I had oiled my front wheel and it dripped I could understand--but I didn't. Ah well! Can't see it when I'm sittin' on it!

How about your sleep? I couldn't do that. I am almost a narcoleptic, as I can doze off at the computer.

How about another update on Bagworm and Moron!

All is quiet here on the Northern front! Seems I have no new voiceless news!


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Re: NH Bagworm Does It Again- Bleeh!
« Reply #14 on: November 18, 2007, 07:32:48 PM »
It's like the cleaning just 'hid' certain stains and they popped up later?

And you too Izzy !!!

I could not believe my eyes when a couple of stains popped back up --- thought it just happened to me  :) 

The very reason I had the carpet cleaned in the first place!

Love, Leah

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