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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread
« Last post by lighter on June 09, 2025, 12:08:41 AM »Hops: The kind of people, who leave dog mess on other people's property, aren't the kind who bother picking up dog mess, IME. Ever. They can't bend over/see OR they figure the rain will wash it away, no big deal, IME. I know people who say these things out loud. Not bad people. Just people who hold piggy beliefs around their dog's messes, and not feeling responsible for them.
Gently suggesting, they become people who care, is wasted effort, IME.
I'm happier, accepting their piggy ways, sans needing them to change.
It's the way it's always been.....some clean up messes. Some are little piggies.
And....
Killing people with kindness. I still do, some, but it's not on auto pilot anymore.
My inner gremlin wants to rise up.....perhaps BE the person some neighbors think I am. Ya.
People aren't used to me creating chaos, just bc I can. I wonder if it would feel like freedom......and/or release....to BE that gremlin? Well.....just saying their embarrassing truths, out loud, would feel like being a gremlin, I suppose. Will see.
Curiosity, replacing judgement, is an interesting thing, IME.
Lately ......the urge to bark ....
"You should have known better" and "Let that be a lesson to you," when dumb stuff comes up, is on the tip of my dismissive tongue. Wag my finger at them, maybe, but with humor. There's very little emotional charge involved lately, if any. I simply don't care.....and it's revelation!!!
Not sure, but it's a balm to "consider the source, and dismiss."
Yup yup yup.
DD22 and I enjoy barking....
"I simply don't care about that!" And, just like that, freedom and release arrive. It's a celebration every time.
DD24 pretty much rolls that way. So did my mother.
Lighter
Gently suggesting, they become people who care, is wasted effort, IME.
I'm happier, accepting their piggy ways, sans needing them to change.
It's the way it's always been.....some clean up messes. Some are little piggies.
And....
Killing people with kindness. I still do, some, but it's not on auto pilot anymore.
My inner gremlin wants to rise up.....perhaps BE the person some neighbors think I am. Ya.
People aren't used to me creating chaos, just bc I can. I wonder if it would feel like freedom......and/or release....to BE that gremlin? Well.....just saying their embarrassing truths, out loud, would feel like being a gremlin, I suppose. Will see.
Curiosity, replacing judgement, is an interesting thing, IME.
Lately ......the urge to bark ....
"You should have known better" and "Let that be a lesson to you," when dumb stuff comes up, is on the tip of my dismissive tongue. Wag my finger at them, maybe, but with humor. There's very little emotional charge involved lately, if any. I simply don't care.....and it's revelation!!!
Not sure, but it's a balm to "consider the source, and dismiss."
Yup yup yup.
DD22 and I enjoy barking....
"I simply don't care about that!" And, just like that, freedom and release arrive. It's a celebration every time.
DD24 pretty much rolls that way. So did my mother.
Lighter