acapella and the other n-partners

[Anonymous]

If you are tired of the whining then why did you bother to come to whine?  I feel that your actions made you look like a whiney playground bully who can't resist a ruckus.  

If you are not involved in this business why do you feel you need to put your sad excuse for two cents in?  Unless you are the one these people came here to whine about, that is a thought, and if you are all I can say is they should have left alot sooner than they did.

Ladies if you give this remark a second thought it would be a second to many wasted.  Take that second instead to pat yourself on the back for standing by someone being attacked by a playground bully.  

I would like to also inform everyone that some times people decide if you can't beat them just join them.  As some one stated there is no better way to tolerate a N then to become one yourself.  That really gives you an inside view into their insanity.  It appears to me that there have been some people who thought this to be true.  By the looks of it they joined them.

[Acappella]

Ladies if you give this remark a second thought it would be a second to many wasted.

yes and I am suspecting it may be giving someone attention for the sake of attention only, negative or otherwise.  Someone may be vested in keeping the tension going.

[Jaded911]

Yo, tired so your whining,  whoops that is a typo, NOT

You know what, ok say I agree with you that herm gave the wrong answers, say I agree that we are whiney bitches, say I agree that sand is a N, whoops I threw that one in there.  The bottom line is this, WE HAVE THE RIGHT TO VOICE OUR OPINIONS, SO DO YOU, thought I would type that in bold letters so you would see it or understand it, whatever the deal is with that idiotic post of yours, I wanted that to be understood.  But what we do not have the right to do is D  I  S  R  E  S  P  E  C  T   others, ya remember thats why we sought a board in the first place.

So no matter if I do agree with you, or do not agree with you, it does not give anyone the right to do what you just did.  Thank you though, you reinforced that I did the right thing.  You acted just as Sand did, I couldnt stand it then and I cant stand it now.  

See the way I look at it if you arent sand you just proved why you stay there. Misery loves company.   Does it make you feel smarter when you stated that about herm?  Do you feel you are a wiser person now becaused of this?  In my experience when someone does this they are trying to prove a point, is that yours?  You are now crowned the smartest kid on the block.  Goody Goody gum drops.  Your post is a waste of my time.  If you want to state something, why dont ya grow the heck up and talk like a big girl and make your point in a nice lady like way without the name calling and the crap you presented.  But hey, its your opinion so I respect that.  Besides that if herm lacks so much brain like you accused her of, she wont be able to understand it anyway so whats your point?  Even if she stated something wrong, I do not remember seeing the initials behind her name that said MD.  So be gone with your smack talk.

If you want to direct something at me about this, do it in private so other people do not have to waste their time wading through the crap.  You just are not getting why this began are you.  It was remarks just as yours listed below that made me take a step back then take great leaps to defend the person being attacked in the very exact manner that you continue to attack.  These remarks are nothing less than abusive and demeaning aimed to hurt someone.  Ya just gotta know when to admit you are wrong or you just have to learn when to shut up.  Either way, these remarks indicate you need to do both.  And I meant to state that is only IMHO.  These are an attack on someone and you wonder why people get offended over silly things like these remarks.  Because they have a right to, and they also have the right to not tolerate it.  I wont and I am only speaking for myself.  Take it private if you want to say empty crap like this below.  


hermione quit the board.thats not her fault. yet you attack her.besides the herm character gave blatantly wrong information.

you sound like a bunch of whining children because you didn't get your way. who's the n here? not sand.

it was you who caused all of this because you couldn't take someone opposing your views. so you made this big dramatic post about leaving. then everyone attacked a good manager on a good board and she is paying the price for it.

get over it and move on. thats what most adults do.

Now to me it seems like you are not getting over something yourself.  So act like an adult, figure out what it is do not come back until you can learn to play nice with others.  You appeared rude, had nothing important to support anything that has happened so you must just wonder what your motive was.  Oh ya, to defend a great leader of a great bunch of caring bunch a loveable folks.   How I could have forgotten that?  Silly dang me.

Run along and play, we do not want to waste our time playing with people who can not play nice.  I do know someone who can play that plays just like you.  It is my xN, he lives in chicago, if ya try to stand up for yourself, I must warn ya, he has a mean right hook.   Look him up, I am not interested in playing the N game anymore.

[hope2003]

How about Sand's double standard of not banning Mariatree for calling certain posters N's on the "our friends" thread?  I was banned before I told sand that I agreed with Mindy that she was the N.  Sand doesn't even reprimand Mariatree.  Mariatree is clearly referring to some of the banned members, but also some of the current members who have posted in our defense.

Tired of the whining sounds like you could be Sandahl yourself.  But, guess what?  You get to come over here and call us names and insult us, and nobody is going to ban you because you are entitled to your opinion.

[bunny]

Tired of the whining,

I think you are Sandahl, but don't have the integrity to come out as yourself because this is not your personal empire.

[bunny]

Nofights,

I agree that it is optimal to know one's limits and move on when necessary without explanation. That is what I attempted to do by leaving with one little goodbye post not giving specific reasons. My post would have been deleted instantly had I explained anything. However, sometimes a person has to stand up for themselves and not take a lot of crap. I try to pick my battles.

[Jaded911]

Amen bunny!  

I still have yet to understand what they feel was whiney about your goodbye post.  Perhaps maybe the reason is because I think of my xN.  He would have preferred I just go away and not ask any questions, not give my goodbyes to his daughter, never speak to anyone he knew again, that way it was less work for him.  But ya know bunny.  If I would have done that, I would have needed to evaluate myself as a person as well.  

A goodbye is a goodbye.  It is not an invitation to beat the bajeeby out of me, just wave goodbye and I will be gone.  But you have to wonder wtf would make someone into what this has become.  

Bunny when she told you that you were the one that caused this mess, she was demonstrating projection.  Sound familiar??????  I went through it for 2 yrs.  Maybe thats what jumped out at me bunnyherm.  I listened to my gut this time, something I had been willing to let go before.

[bunny]

Thanks, Jaded. I agree. I think "Tired" (aka Sand) is having some problems and is blaming me. I wonder what her followers would think if they saw her posts over here.

[Jaded911]

Tired of the whining wrote:

you sound like a bunch of whining children because you didn't get your way. who's the n here? not sand.


Maybe there are whining children that are N but then again maybe those children are whining because of the N.  Either way you look at that sentence, just because a child is whining does not mean they are N.  That is only something their N parent would say to them.  

Now correct me if I am wrong whine but wasnt it you that came to inform herm she was, how did you state that, oh ya, "besides the herm character gave blatantly wrong information. "  

I would make sure I had my facts straight before I posted something about somebody else giving wrong information.  Whiney kids does not mean they are N.  Palease, when ya think you have seen it all, ya just give it a second and something tops the hell out of it.  Just fagetaboutit, go eat dinner and hug your cat.  I am going to hug my whiney children who are not N.

[Jaded911]

Not a damn thing bunny.  They would think exactly what they thought when she posted the last nasty bunch to you.  They just do not care and ya know what I think about that, I do not care.  I know one thing I do not regret having my own right to speak.  

I am not saying everyone there is alike, I am only talking about the few who continue to prove me right about the N thing, you know, the horrible N word I mentioned.  Hell proves I learned something after all.  I knew how to spot the N behavior.  Can I get a hell ya!!!!!!!   Looks like I do know what to look out for when observing.  I know this girl will not be a repeat offender on that N ride.

[Anonymous]

hell ya!!!!!!!

Echo (I really am gonna change my on screen name...I have graduated).

[Jaded911]

Woot Woot Echo we dun gradiated.  

Glad to know we learned something out of this hell.  We gradiated from the how to spot a N scool, wait, skuel, skoowl. however you spell it we gadiated.

Now lets remember the lessons we learn and practice what we preached we hated.  You know:  demeaning, dismissing, projecting,denial of own actions and words.......so on.  We graduated and I dont need a dang degree to prove I learned.  Proof is in our actions, not theirs.

[hope2003]

By the way, Engel if you are reading this board.  I want to thank you for your kind words.

My divorce is getting worse.  My N is becoming more and more vicious.  He wants us out of the house by Dec. 31, wants all of our cars, all of the furniture, and literally says that I can leave with my clothing, jewelry and personal items.  I guess he has forgotten about the holidays or that we have two children that he is booting out.

We have a motion scheduled for next week.  Hopefully, he won't be successful, and we will be successful asking the Judge to amend her findings.

that's the update.

[Guest]

I'm mostly a lurker on N-Partners.   I read the current posts and the archives too.

First,  let me tell you that the Herm person is a ***SELF-
ADMITTED*** N.  If you look in the archives of N-Partners, SHE HERSELF says she is an N who has had therapy.    Whoever she is referring to as being an N or having N behavior, must be a projection by her.  

Too bad the archives do not have a search feature.   If you want to see that, just look at when that character name joined, and go through the posts.    It's a big job yes, but what I am saying is there, and it was visible in her attitude several times.    

She acted like a child in leaving without even any contact to Sandahl privately, to see what was wrong and trying to sort it out first.  Seriously, think carefully about it for a moment.   How childish is that?   This kind of abrupt behavior without even any attempt at sorting it out peacefully is exactly what drove me mad with my xN.    He was offended by something he **thought** I did and we went through all of this distancing and silent treatment crap before he told me what the problem was.     It was so unneccessary when he could have just come to me with clarification right away.   But N's do not do that, do they?     Instead, they react **first** because they have no control over their emotions.  

Proof that it was more in her mind and that a talk with Sand could have put it all to rest, is her saying that it should be obvious as to why she left.   Most of the people didn't have a clue.   It wasn't **obvious**, it was distorted by her thinking into something bigger, therefore she figured it was as big/obvious for others too.  

She also got sucky and defensive other times when people disagreed with her.   I don't even know why she was there dispensing "advice" that was not even solicited.    Many seemed to appreciate it and fine, but I can't figure everyone appreciated her "I am the expert" style.  

As far as Sandahl,  her mistake in all of this was deleting the Hermione "goodbye" post.   Had she not done that, none of this would have happened.   There was nothing inflammatory in that thread and it could have been left indefinately.   Eventually, people would have just said "oh well, who knows what happened, but if you are out there Herm, please come back".     That's it.    

I'm not sure if part of it was that she didn't want people to figure out that Hermione's leaving had something to do with her.    I'm not saying it is that.   It was just a passing thought.  

I don't know what happened with Hope because I was out and she apparantly deleted the thread right away- so I never saw it.  

There are some sad losses to that group as far as I'm concerned.

Anyway, the bottom line is that Hermione characters actions contributed to this whole thing, and then Sandahl wanting to delete the thread.   It all went downhill from there.

[Anonymous]

GAAAAWDDDD....."Youre an N!.." "NO, Youre an N!" "NO, YOURE an N!!"..."UHUUU, YOURE the N!!!"....You all sound like you need something to keep you busy.