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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.

« Last post by sKePTiKal on May 04, 2026, 08:40:45 AM »

Yeah, I've been noticing a lot of people around me just absolutely convinced that nothing good, kind, or easy would ever happen again to them. My 50-50 number is just my way of reminding people that both things are equally possible on any given day.

I would also caution anyone in a new environs to NEVER get so absorbed in the phone, a book, or anything that would distract you from basic situational awareness - things going on around you. That's a human skill that technology is degrading. It's a survival skill. For me, when the vibes in a place are "off" when I enter - I up my awarenes and hurry my business so I can leave.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad

« Last post by Meh on May 04, 2026, 12:13:00 AM »

All forms of whoopdedooey prohibited until further notice.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again

« Last post by Meh on May 03, 2026, 08:50:54 PM »

Went to church - Hung out with people after because I wanted coffee and why not. Talked to a woman about gardening and that was nice. She was telling me that what I found in the garden once was likely a vole not a mole. I think they look helpless and cute. I put some water down next to it and stuck a leaf over it so it wouldn't get eaten. The church lady was in favor of killing them because she says they eat tulips.

She is one of the friendlier upbeat cutesy church ladies. Very likable.

And I talked to another woman there who said she doesn't have kids. They stated so because mother's day coming up.

I did some minor job research stuff this morning.

Feeling so much ambivalence. I need to kill this ambivalence stuff. -- Don't make decisions nothing bad can happen -- lack of decisions lame stuff still happens.
 

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again

« Last post by Meh on May 03, 2026, 08:40:23 PM »

We're having the most amazing weather, Meh. 

The sky....clouds....breeze.  Heck, it hailed after a rat a tat rainfall, then the sky went pink.  What an amazing sunset.....chirping bats.....golden light hitting green trees, and newly planted hosta.

Lighter

That sounds beautiful!

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.

« Last post by Meh on May 03, 2026, 08:38:18 PM »

Well, why not look at the fear that something bad will happen. Statistically, in general, I think a case could be made that it's just as possible something good will happen. I'd say it's almost 50-50 chance.

Why do you think you're singled out for just bad things? Bad things happen to ALL of us, at times. But it's usually not a life or death situation. It's usually just a problem that needs solved. You aren't helpless - we all know you're smart, have agency and can do.

If, in your pondering of this, you can pick out 3 things that inordinately make you afraid... how about thinking of a list of solutions or ways to protect yourself? Bet you can think of a lot of ways.

50/50 chance is something ... so toss the coin I guess

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.

« Last post by Meh on May 03, 2026, 08:37:11 PM »

-- Don't worry about it Hops.

I will get the offices and ID stuff figured out soon. Was just frustrated that day but then I look at myself and realize I have to also let go of frustration and just move on. I already moved on.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.

« Last post by Hopalong on May 03, 2026, 01:15:09 PM »

I felt frustrated at the person who couldn't or wouldn't help you resolve the ID issue. Were you able to ask her what exactly is needed? Did she understand that the place had told you, you must bring exactly document X or Y? And here they are?

Grrrrr. I hope next steps are clear and make more sense.

The filterless public behavior....sad to me. Nose in book sounds like a good way to handle it since you were stuck on a bus.

A new city? Very interesting. Got a Pros and Cons list going? Those have helped me make key choices in the past. Whether things work out perfectly or not, doing that process has made me feel something like....my rational mind is helping me with this. So whatever decision I'd make wound up making more sense and easier to live with. Another method is Must-Haves, Likes, Wishes, Dealbreakers -- those lists helped me sort my priorities.

hugs
Hops

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again

« Last post by Hopalong on May 03, 2026, 01:06:31 PM »

I just wrote a poem about seeing the northern lights from a field in the south. With religious stuff, or beyond-religious stuff. Felt good. Still working at it.

Breaking off with Poet seems to have freed up some writing channel. Good thing. It's unusual for me to write two in a week. The other one was about words themselves.

Confrontation with kitchen is overdue. It's right bad, y'all. But I will be visiting D, my friend with glioblastoma this afternoon; perspective is everything. Last week I drove a man my age who'd had a stroke and is living on his own, walking like a fragile tortoise. I liked him, but so far I like nearly all of them. As does Pup!

Beautiful day here, despite the drought.

hugs all,
Hops

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.

« Last post by sKePTiKal on May 03, 2026, 01:00:53 PM »

Well, why not look at the fear that something bad will happen. Statistically, in general, I think a case could be made that it's just as possible something good will happen. I'd say it's almost 50-50 chance.

Why do you think you're singled out for just bad things? Bad things happen to ALL of us, at times. But it's usually not a life or death situation. It's usually just a problem that needs solved. You aren't helpless - we all know you're smart, have agency and can do.

If, in your pondering of this, you can pick out 3 things that inordinately make you afraid... how about thinking of a list of solutions or ways to protect yourself? Bet you can think of a lot of ways.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad

« Last post by Hopalong on May 03, 2026, 01:00:28 PM »

Thanks, y'all. Bday was peaceful, and sweet in the afternoon when neighbor brought me lovely irises and a bottle of wine. What a yak that was.

I'm sad for Hol but glad if it's the right change for her about C. Don't know what the toxicity was but it sure does happen. Too often, to too many.

Happy B's getting new pain relief and fascinated by his massive turtle-pace move. It's a happy thought that y'all have persevered with belonging together through all of these obstacles. There's got to be something deep going on, or being created.

Bird Nerd and I will be in friend zone for a good while or maybe forever, but I do enjoy his company so far. Not enough info yet and slowwwwww is my mantra. Anything rushed or whoopdedooey is a red flag for me.

One back-of-mind concern is his EXTREME introversion. I was babbling away over a brew and he was just nodding, smiling, listening. His ex is alcoholic and a painful subject for him. He has two grown daughters who're functioning well, sounds like.

Nothing to worry about. I'm very leery of any mantanglement right now, but still enjoying the contrast.

hugs
Hops