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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread

« Last post by lighter on May 26, 2026, 08:10:41 PM »

The guru stuff bounces off me, Hops.  My introversion works as an auto-reject shield, maybe?

Meh, I like to re read books, using different highlighters each time.  It's interesting to see what jumped out each time.

I'm guessing your grandmother's sister was aware of family dynamics in your life.  Sharing the book with you seems like a warmly extended hand of healing secrets..... I'm a huge fan of sharing information like that.

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026

« Last post by lighter on May 26, 2026, 02:31:52 PM »

I'm happy to read surgery went well, Amber. 

Is B relaxing into good possibilities?

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Predatory grooming

« Last post by lighter on May 26, 2026, 10:51:28 AM »

Oh....when the mom started hanging up on her Aunt.....bc she didn't appreciate feedback....I was instantly cleared of anxiety.

Can't save people from themselves..... certainly the Court's not there to save any children.

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again

« Last post by lighter on May 26, 2026, 10:49:37 AM »

I hope that pasta salad is enjoyed to it's fullest.  I remember a pasta salad making phase....it was yummy!!!

Let us know how things go.

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Predatory grooming

« Last post by lighter on May 26, 2026, 10:24:19 AM »

Oh....I have quick turnaround karma, Hops.... shouldn't have had that giggle.  Nope, nope, nope.

 Chlorine gas exposure, at second Airbnb, handled that, toot sweet.

Toot?
Sweet?

Is that the saying?

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026

« Last post by sKePTiKal on May 26, 2026, 09:49:55 AM »

Yeah, the tension let go. I read trash epic fantasy novels to lull myself to sleep. Sleep helps. That and back to back rainy days! Old movies on YT. Permission to just relax and cocoon and keep B company. He's working on rebuilding the front door latch (again). Internal pieces jiggle out of alignment and stops the handle & lock from working correctly. Good thing we live where we do - I just put a chair in front of the door when we go out. It's not a strenuous job to do this - but it IS important - and he needs to keep his mind occupied. He can sit if he needs to.

Yesterday, I actually had the motivation to get up and get some more things done... so 3 days to settle down, rest and recover. Not bad.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread

« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 25, 2026, 06:00:39 PM »

I've read four agreements long while back. My grandmother's sister who I never met sent me that book. It's the only thing she ever sent me so it stands out in my memory.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again

« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 25, 2026, 05:57:58 PM »

AND

When I had my car I did a lot less planning for picnics and it was sublime peaceful solitude and commute almost nothing.

It's way more effort now.

So since it happens that I now have an abundance of picnic type stuff... I made pasta salad again today and cut up pickles and stuck them in a bag.. And cut up veggies... and saw I have a can of tuna in the closet... and fruit getting ripe. So I am doing it all over again to meet a different friend tomorrow. Nobody does this anymore. You would think I was prepping for a family reunion. But my friend just told me it's her birthday and she worked on her birthday so this will be sort of nice I hope. The weather is promising to be gray like Twilight movie of course. Gloomy. Shrug. There's always coffee. And then coffee = toilet stops. Sigh.

long time ago I did international travel and the amount of prep that goes into that feels almost on par with me packing a picnic. Oh well.

no art, no garden, so now just picnic packing as a hands on make something outlet I suppose

at least we are doing something that is the goal

the intense panic to have a summer in the pacific northwest

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again

« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 25, 2026, 05:47:57 PM »

- I did meet my friend to go to a street market -- a museum -- a couple well known city parks I've never been to and some other stuff and then directed her to a honky tonk bar for live music. She seems to think I hang out in bars all the time. I'm like NO ... I am finding us affordable music because going to a real concert is something you would never agree to bwahahaha and I don't have the money now anyways.

We were both exhausted by the end of the day. We ate the picnic on the tailgate in a very pretty part of the city because parking. We found parking and that is better than finding a picnic table I suppose.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again

« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 25, 2026, 05:41:20 PM »

Hops, I tend to make things from scratch and frugally so I end up with messes because more bits.

IF you are having a kitchen disaster what if you gave yourself two weeks to clean the kitchen -- and ate only microwave burritos on paper plates for those two weeks lol. And yogurt and banana. I'm not sure what is going on there but you need some kind of strategy. Put a book on take or music. Pick one quarter of the kitchen or one counter top to clear and if there is just too much stuff for some reason... throw it away. Minimalism makes it cleaner and easier too. 

But also. I am in no position to give advice to anybody about anything.