What would you think about this comment?

[Stormchild]

You can possibly contact a breed rescue group in your former home state to get the dog away from him. Don't contact the SPCA, they euthanize, so what's the point?

Good luck OR, you're launched and soaring!!!

[Anonymous]

Only:

I vote for no contact.  How dare he threaten you with putting the dog to sleep!  He is doing all this to pull your strings to get a response.  He wants to continue this little "dance" to see if he can still manipulate you.  Why else would he tell you these things?  The only concern he has right now is how much is it going to cost him in child support.  He WILL try to use your daughter to get back at you and try to manipulate her to get what he wants.  Especially when he sees that his behaviour is  failing with you and his brother.  I can see the "oh poor me routine" and "look what your mother has done" etc. on the horizon as your daugher gets older. Ignore him.

Just stay the course and keep your focus.  Keep on keeping on.  Much love Patz

[mum]

Only.  I would also ignore him, although do what you can for the dog/ultimately your daughter (I assume she is attached?).
A rescue group would be good to contact...OR, look up dog transport services.  If he says you could pay for flying the dog...who is the person who would get the dog to the airport?  Have THAT person help you get your dog.
Best of luck.  You are doing so well. You are still my hero.

[Anonymous]

Hi only,
My perspective on e-mail is mixed. A great portion of my case against my brother is based on the rants he sent me and others. However I blocked his e-mail about a year ago and must admit it gave me peace of mind not having to listen to him.
Its hard to say. If you have a legal problem coming up with him, and it sounds like you do, his whacko e-mails could come in mighty handy. Might even force him to back down. How much do you need peace of mind? Its worth a lot.
It turns out my bro kept e-mailing me for months after I told him I had blocked his address. I guess he couldn't believe someone would not want to listen to him anymore.

You are still my hero.

OR, mum's the word, so to speak. You're still mine too.

mudpup

[Anonymous]

Dear, dear Only:

You have done so much!  Settled a great deal so quickly!!  You are doing so very well!!!  I am really and truly proud of you and happy for the good that is happening already.  May God bless you with much more!!!

Now......forget peace of mind
            forget his ability to push your buttons for a little while

and think.....proof.

Keep every single one of the emails he sends and forward a copy of them to someone you trust....a lawyer is best but if not....some reliable adult... as proof of date of receipt.

Keep your email addy and let the stupid son of a bees wax rant his little dumb self into as cooky looking a corner as he possibly can.

Put up your walls of emotional defense and decide not to believe one word he says or let his words cause you one moment of sleeplessness and save those ridiculous threats and comments and rants and button pushing attempts to be used later.....to prove without a doubt exactly why.......you deserve full custody with supervised visitation......at the minimu of your daughter....for her and your emotional well-being and safety.

My two cents.

Take care Only.....you are doing great but take care to keep whatever evidence of his disturbance he so brainlessly supplies you with.

GFN

[onlyrenting1]

Thanks for keeping in touch

Today found out from Social security my D has 400 a month that follows her. my H will be notified in the next few days. He told me she only got $15, but 3 mos ago that changed.  I couldn't find our SSI cards so I had to go down to the office,good thing I did.

He would always complain when she needed things, so I have been paying for the clothes, dances etc.  

He is telling me today he is demanding our D to call him by noon on friday or he is getting  lawyer.

I will only have her call when somone else is monitoring the conversation.

I have my Ca,neighbor helping me with our bit pull dog. she will let me know whats goin on.

will write more later ....OR

[Anonymous]

Only:

Sounds good girl.    Patz

[Stormchild]

You go girl!

There's definitely a breed rescue org for your dog's breed, and they should be very active in CA, so your neighbor should be able to get some help right there on the spot if she needs it. You can breathe easier about that.

Be careful about taping the phone calls between your daughter and your ex, some states are very against that. You didn't say you were going to do this (just so you know I'm not inventing things and attributing them to you - Ns do that - brrrrr!) but if you can't find someone to help with monitoring the calls it would be a natural next step, so this is the time to caution you.

((((Onlyrenting1))))

[onlyrenting1]

Hi to everyone

I start work today, got some new clothes too.

MyD spent the night with a new friend. she had a great time.

My BIL, has continuied his emotional support of both my D and I.

My H is still telling us, about him being on deaths bed, now he claims his face shows signs of a recent stroke.

I told him to seek out an animail rescue,he wants to fly our dog here,but we can't take big dogs.

got to go get ready for work OR

[Kaz]

Hi OR
Take no notice of his medical complaints; strokes don't 'show' just in your face!  
I'm so happy for you and your new life,
Kaz.

[Anonymous]

Only!

It sounds so good to hear you are doing ok!  I just love the progress!
The N is going to use his "illness" to pull those strings girlfriend for all the primary gain he can get.  Onset of strokes are sudden and they usually accompany slurring of speech, paralisys etc...........I noticed he "stroke" did not prevent him from still harrassing you now did it?  Press the ignore button.

Post when you can.  Love Patz

[Anonymous]

I'm so glad to hear things are going well too, Onlyrenting!!!

Good luck with the new job!!!   I'm sure you'll do great!

Press the ignore button.

I love it Patz!!!  I agree.....if he was really ill, he wouldn't be focussing on trying to convince you of it.  He'd be seeking medical attention and playing all the medical staff for every bit of special attention he could get.
I say do what Patz says and ignor (but keep copies of those emails).

Glad to hear your D is doing well and making new friends.  That is so nice to hear!!

Sorry about your dog.  Maybe the animal rescue people can find a good home for the dog?  I hope so.

GFN

[Anonymous]

GFN:

It is good to be at this board with our "family" as it were.  I like to read your  and Mudpuppy's insights.  It is good to present our problems here and get different angles.  I might see something that I have totally over looked and is important to understand.  I am very proud of Only.  It brings back so many memories of that road I have already traversed.

Only will look back and wonder "why did I wait so long".  It is good to see the servitude of Nship broken.  Patz

[onlyrenting1]

hi Patz & GFN

Had a wonderful time my first day at work.
I'm able to be home before 4:30, to have the time with my D.

I agree with you both, on the ignore button.
I check my H's web site, he is writing and no mention on a stroke,he sounds fine.
He didn't write me today, so I checked out his site if he mentioned anything to them, nothing not even about us leaving him.
He writes music reviews and talks like he is just fine.

got to go it's late, ....OR

[mum]

OR: so very happy things are going well for you.  Relieved as if it were me, even.  YAY!  You give me hope..........you really do.  Keep on, brave woman!