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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Hair

« Last post by sKePTiKal on August 18, 2025, 07:08:25 AM »

Getting mine cut tomorrow Lighter. Woman who was cutting my hair is moving; so trying someone closer to home. i just wear a bob coz it''s wash & wear.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Hair

« Last post by lighter on August 17, 2025, 03:47:02 PM »

My sister chopped 8" off and I feel so much happier.  Easy peasy!

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Amazons

« Last post by lighter on August 16, 2025, 10:20:48 PM »

I've been so lucky to have this forum's support.  As I get ready for bed, in another country, airline (I booked)on strike....I revisit this thread, and remember how important these voices were....still are. So familiar and comforting.  Truly.....feels like sitting by a fire, sharing wisdom and strength.

So many Amazons moved on, but, reading here, brings their voices back to me.

Changing, Izzy, CB, and Debkor....I remember you, your strength, and fellowship.  How extraordinary to walk with so many wise Amazons.

Tonight, I'll bring everyone to my tomato garden bonfire....my safe space, where all my parts and important people rejoice, dance and fly.

It seems right and good to do so, now.

It has me marking my calendar......what are the things I need to do....what can I do, now.

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Nothing much really

« Last post by lighter on August 16, 2025, 06:14:36 AM »

I think the unhinged litigants tend to admit they've brought a bogus case, once the Judge understands they're lying liars.  They, the unhinged, do this, bc they have no shame, and believe they're entitled to punish and torment, without questioning what they're doing, IME.

Now it's in the court record.  I'm hoping the case was dismissed with prejudice, meaning they can't file this case again.

Sleep heals us, Meh. 

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Nothing much really

« Last post by Meh on August 16, 2025, 12:13:43 AM »

Thanks ladies.

Internet is slow and I'm tired but I read what you wrote. Appreciated.

This board at times has given me a little anchor.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread

« Last post by lighter on August 15, 2025, 02:40:32 PM »

It seems like he acts like a faithful husband, while with male relatives.....maybe?  I can only say what he does with me, and other female relatives, which is behave and speak inappropriately.

I know he's sending inappropriate texts to cousin's friends....of the sexual nature.  Wet brained drunk...... activities.

That's, perhaps, not a kind truth, but it's truth, nonetheless.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread

« Last post by sKePTiKal on August 14, 2025, 03:24:08 PM »

Yep; there should be consequences for his behavior - and being drunk isn't a get out of jail free card.
ESPECIALLY at someone's wedding, the gents should've ganged up on him and shut him down after the first incident.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread

« Last post by lighter on August 14, 2025, 12:43:23 PM »

About the wedding reception....
the drunk put his hands on female staff, was cut off at the bar, somehow was naked, answering his door, in front of staff, represented his wife as his "sister," while hitting on female staff.

All this inappropriate touching, sans consequence.  Makes me feel......confused.  Women NOT rocking the boat.....
so the bride could have her best wedding reception? 

I mean ......do creepy drunks go to jail for touching women....like that?  Do they go to jail for being drunk in public? 

Holding drunken creeps accountable is so rare in my world .....I don't know what it looks like, and it's important my daughters see and understand it.  I don't want it to be just a rumor, in their lives.  I want it to be an absolute fact in their lives.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread

« Last post by lighter on August 14, 2025, 12:34:39 PM »

Therapist practicing 10 minutes of mindfulness every hour.

Sounded good, but I in realize.....it was beyond my power to practice 6weeks ago.  It might be beyond my power today.  At least it occurs to me.  I can try.

Two mini splits were delivered today.  Contractor refused delivery on one. Beadboard going in right now.

Will get clean, and go outside.  The black bobtailed squirrel looks like a hopping bunny, till climbing a tree....I want to see him hop again....
and just now, we have a crisis within the extended family.  Saw it coming.  Surprised it's happening now, though.

I'm really curious if I can squeeze 10 minutes of mindfulness practice, out of each hour, now.

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread

« Last post by lighter on August 14, 2025, 12:25:10 PM »

Therapist practicing 10 minutes of mindfulness every hour.

Sounded good, but I in realize.....it was beyond my power to practice 6weeks ago.  It might be beyond my power today, but occurs to me.  I can try.

Will get clean, and go outside.  The black bobtailed squirrel looks like a hopping bunny, till climbing a tree....I want to see him hop again....and just now, we have a crisis within the extended family.  Saw it coming.  Surprised it's happening now, though.

I'm really curious if I can squeeze 10 minutes of mindfulness practice, out of each hour, now.

Lighter