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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026
« Last post by sKePTiKal on May 20, 2026, 09:01:37 AM »Oh no... not his last Hops! The batteries in med devices have about a 5 yr life span. So to keep pain levels tolerable for the rest of his life, replacement is necessary.* I just hope we get a closer surgical center.
Yeah - I feel he's kind of entitled to his reactivity. Some days I do a better job of managing of my own; and when I can't we're both good with taking our "stuff" somewhere away from each other until we settle. The only thing I interfere with is when he starts his negative tape in his head about how things ALWAYS turn out badly for him; as if he's cursed. We tend to play out: overwhelming force and immovable object with this. After many repetitions, I am slowly making headway to him seeing the possibility that "this is now; it's different; results will be different" as compared to reliving former trauma.
* The scary part is that already, the surgeons are starting to grumble about going thru all his scar tissue - internal as well as external. And that there may come a point when replacement simply won't be possible. That bridge isn't going to be crossed, even in imagination, until we get to it. You've seen Outlander - B's back is scarred; but not as badly as they made up Jamie's to be. He was self-conscious coz of some inconsiderate comments about it. Until I told him "chicks dig scars".
Yeah - I feel he's kind of entitled to his reactivity. Some days I do a better job of managing of my own; and when I can't we're both good with taking our "stuff" somewhere away from each other until we settle. The only thing I interfere with is when he starts his negative tape in his head about how things ALWAYS turn out badly for him; as if he's cursed. We tend to play out: overwhelming force and immovable object with this. After many repetitions, I am slowly making headway to him seeing the possibility that "this is now; it's different; results will be different" as compared to reliving former trauma.
* The scary part is that already, the surgeons are starting to grumble about going thru all his scar tissue - internal as well as external. And that there may come a point when replacement simply won't be possible. That bridge isn't going to be crossed, even in imagination, until we get to it. You've seen Outlander - B's back is scarred; but not as badly as they made up Jamie's to be. He was self-conscious coz of some inconsiderate comments about it. Until I told him "chicks dig scars".