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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: The island

« Last post by lighter on November 10, 2025, 08:34:21 AM »

Thinking of going to the island for Thanksgiving.  Could stay through mid February.....longer if I have "caretaker" move out to renovate guest cottage.....thinking headboard bathroom walls and paint entire interior.

We're all sick, so I'm not feeling strong about it.

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Thought slams: sudden insights that surprise

« Last post by lighter on November 10, 2025, 08:28:36 AM »

Revisiting your thread, Hops.....
judgement, of all kinds, is not often helpful, IME.

When, my dear Bill. was alive and well, he said his T taught him to assume everyone was doing their best.  That brought him some peace....over his drunken father and years with a warring/suicide threatening PD wife..... generally, in all things.  It was a relief to stop wondering why, also. 

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Yard

« Last post by lighter on November 10, 2025, 08:22:36 AM »

The leaves are falling....like an invasion of moving, live things.....wind blowing them, as though they have minds, and targets, of their own.

It snowed this morning....just enough to dust the cars and porch.  It's so cold, a wet windy cold.... I'm glad I winterized the outdoor shower and hoses yesterday.

The lake is ok, I hope.  At least the well pump is protected.

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025

« Last post by sKePTiKal on November 08, 2025, 11:15:52 AM »

Sigh. The board is loading faster now. But now reply is sticking for me.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025

« Last post by Hopalong on November 07, 2025, 06:12:43 PM »

SOOOOO happy the procedure's behind you, Amber!
And for the excellent report.

I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU CAN FREAKING TYPE, THIS SOON!

Thanks for the post-op update.
Many good wishes for a just-boring and pretty-quick recovery.

Put Stinker in charge; he knows what you need.

big hugs,
Hops

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025

« Last post by sKePTiKal on November 07, 2025, 07:03:01 AM »

Maybe the difference is that I had two procedures. The first was laser; to correct a bit of astigmatism and break up the cataract. The 2nd was robotic, to suck out the old fuzzy lens and insert a new one. I tried to pay attention.

The nurses told me, that with the anasthesia I was given, I'd remember some things but not all. I was very curious about the procedures; worried about how they'd feel, etc. I remember a lot of that. But I think I lost some time in post-op and don't remember how I got into a chair. Which I suppose is a good thing. It helped me avoid the feeling of invasive physical trauma while nothing was going on.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025

« Last post by lighter on November 06, 2025, 10:34:36 PM »

Sounds much different than my surgery experience.  I wasn't aware of much ...maybe the light.  Once.

You sound good, Amber....I hope you're back to, an improved,  normal soon

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025

« Last post by sKePTiKal on November 06, 2025, 06:31:35 PM »

No dark glasses; no pirate patch (asst assured me he'd have one next time) and I wasn't really "out" - and the procedure was over quickly. Then a few minutes talking with post-op nurse who walked me out to B in the jeep. The weirdest thing was the laser; the eyecup suctions around the eye to keep it open. There was some kind of electric zap and a very bright light at the end.

Now that the dilation has worn off, I had to take that lens out of my glasses. Vision is still a bit blurry but will improve over the next week. Eyedrops 4x a day.

I don't see myself driving yet, and I'm a bit not sure where my body is in space - I expect tomorrow will be better. But both Hol & B can drive me places.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025

« Last post by Hopalong on November 06, 2025, 03:41:12 PM »

The incredible intuition and kindness of many animals blows me away. I note that he was kissing your EYELIDS. Wow. Go, Stinkers, you empathetic creature.

Hope it all went well today and you'll soon be through the wake-up tunnel, comfy and settled in for a couple more days of not much.

Sending much love and not much light until those big dark glasses are off....don't worry about anything. Maybe that's your real job right now. Releasing worry. Relaxing with full comfort. Releasing others' over- or under-reactions or clumsy help.

It's okay. You're okay, they're okay, and Stinkers is most DEFINITELY okay!

(One way I weather medical procedures is to go when I can into Very Grateful mode....orienting myself as both cooperative and appreciative, thanking everybody before and after, etc. If I do that I find my feelings do catch up with my intent and I actually am extremely grateful for their expertise. It's a good trust-and-receive experience, ime. But I also understand ymmv.)

hugs
Hops

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025

« Last post by sKePTiKal on November 06, 2025, 05:45:35 AM »

I was just a grumpasaurus. I think I'm over it. We're up early because (thank you time change) we went to bed shortly after dark. Last night Stinkers hopped up, sat on my book, and proceeded to give me lots of kitty kisses, even licking my eyelids! It was really sweet.

Yes Hops, you could use a B. Maybe a local high school youth group has service projects? I don't remember how it was organized, but I know I participated in some yard cleanups, and exterior painting for people requesting assistance. It wasn't affiliated with any school or church group, I don't think. But finding things for kids to do, used to be a "thing" back in the 70s.

If anything tweaks my triggers, i plan on "removing myself" from my bodily sensations Lighter. Deep breathing, mental focus elsewhere, whatever "magic" is involved for me to just "step out" for the 10-15 mins the doc said was required for the surgery. it's just the coming back that could be a tad dicey. And since the location of the surgery is right next door to B's pain management doc, he's going to pop in there and see if they've heard from the gov't yet. (Not likely.)