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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again
« Last post by sKePTiKal on May 11, 2026, 04:32:50 PM »
Me too. Lots of things on my list I want to do - but it's either too chilly making me want to cocoon or too hot, which means I'll be miserable. I did remember that pollen does this to me, some years. But it should be going away soon. I hope!

I dunno; I'm not beating myself up over being "lazy". I have some "have to" things coming up that I need to have a lot of energy/smarts for... sigh.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again
« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 11, 2026, 10:56:12 AM »

-- Instead of hanging out with someone yesterday I kept thinking of the regret of not doing it but also I was tired
-- Sometimes there is tired that is cured by doing stuff
-- yesterday morning I identified a feeling of pressure in my chest but then I changed location and didn't want to start again

-- I'm just having morning coffee
-- In a while I will get on bus and go sit in a quiet place to do therapy thing
-- last Friday, Sat, Sun I was in a "down" phase sort of where I wanted to stop the therapy stuff
-- the therapy does take up my time and I feel like I am wasting the therapists time
-- I've been drifting for a few months not getting a lot done  <----
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: The Lake House
« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 11, 2026, 10:47:37 AM »

That sounds very nice Lighter. Good luck with the meese. Have never had a meese infestation though I have seen some wild footage of meese mobs.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by lighter on May 10, 2026, 10:33:16 PM »
You so deserve lovely fellowship, Hops.  What an amazing time you had!  Please do drop interesting points, from that interesting memoir, and it's nice to know one's work is appreciated!

What an uplifting post, yay for'ya!

Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: The Lake House
« Last post by lighter on May 10, 2026, 10:29:21 PM »
I'm baiting rat traps with peanut butter.  Not bc I think we have rats, but bc there are mice, and all traps have, once again, been deployed.

Meeces seem to be mostly on back patio and mechanical room......the traps are set around 2 suspicious holes in the exposed insulation, where drapery tassels have been stolen and stockpiled.

I ripped part of a nail back today.....nutsy heavy king mattress flip..... there's some regret involved.

The yard's clover is lush and happy.....almost everywhere.  Some root rot, but that's been replanted.  Don't put clover in without asking me what NOT to do first, is my advice.

I'm pleasantly exhausted.....oldest DD and bf drove in yesterday morning.  We had a nice dinner out BIL suggested, and covered. We went through photo albums, the kids both on DD's baby grand for a while.....DD played Hans Zimmer's, Davy Jones Theme.  The bf improvised in a style DD recognized.  I did not, but it was heaven.

We watched Practical Magic, sleepy and nestled together with the pug.......a good time was had by all.

Lighter



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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again
« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 10, 2026, 01:28:34 PM »

- I decided not to go to church today
-- there is no reason I have to be a sheeple and keep doing it without thinking about why I am going
-- some days it's okay to have fewer destinations
-- I think I will go off to a cafe eventually once I make some toast etc.
-- not doing is also an act of self agency
-- I thought a lot about the social invitation I received and I feel stressed about it mainly the logistics of it but also I was reflecting on the mismatch of lifestyle
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by Hopalong on May 09, 2026, 03:27:26 PM »
Amber, your description of how you and B have carefully stepped into this real relationship was mind-blowingly wise to me. Beautiful!

I am nursing a serious crush on the old family friend who once had a crush on me. The reunion finally happened and I felt joyful throughout. The two brothers and the sister....all welcomed me like a long-lost cousin.

As to Crushman, he's written the most brilliant, funny, moving and fascinating memoir I've ever had the privilege to read. It's almost 700 pages long, and completely absorbing. I was up all night binge-reading.

Alas, it's not for sale publicly. He just "gifts" copies to specific people. I'd try to describe it but it's so encompassing I don't know how. He does have an earlier book, Take Me With You, about him traveling the ENTIRE world until he finds a local person to invite to come visit him, on his dime. That book is on Amazon, just ordered it.

My head's still spinning from all that, with gratitude. He loved my poetry, which felt good. But back to California he (and his wife) go now, so I'll be forlorn a bit.

hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again
« Last post by Hopalong on May 09, 2026, 01:56:05 PM »
I SO enjoyed that video!
For some reason I asked myself, why no female singers? But, ehhhhh, culture.

I can see why the group is so successful.

hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again
« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 09, 2026, 02:11:10 AM »

https://youtu.be/kQRHBoq3Xp4?si=pt7kAgexQKFWSIwZ
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: N.
« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 08, 2026, 05:52:56 PM »

Personality disordered people have a higher rate of psychosomatic illness.



Specific disorders like Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) are associated with higher rates of chronic conditions, including cardiovascular disease, arthritis, and gastrointestinal issues like IBS.

El-Gabalawy, R., Katz, L. Y., & Sareen, J. (2010). "Comorbidity and associated severity of borderline personality disorder and physical health conditions in a nationally representative sample." Psychosomatic Medicine, 72(7), 712–718. 

Finding: This study identified a unique association between BPD and numerous physical health conditions, specifically cardiovascular disease, hypertension/arteriosclerosis, and gastrointestinal disease. 

Quirk, S. E., et al. (2016). "Borderline Personality Pathology and Chronic Health Problems in Later Adulthood." Psychosomatic Medicine, 78(8), 920–929. 

Finding: BPD features were significantly related to the reported presence of heart disease, arthritis, and obesity. 

Gastrointestinal & Syndrome-Like Citations
Zanarini, M. C., Frankenburg, F. R., Hennen, J., & Silk, K. R. (2004). "The association between borderline personality disorder and chronic medical illnesses, poor health-related lifestyle choices, and costly forms of health care utilization." The Journal of Clinical Psychiatry, 65(12), 1660-5. 

Finding: Non-remitted BPD patients were significantly more likely to have a history of "syndrome-like" conditions, which include chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia, as well as higher rates of osteoarthritis, diabetes, and hypertension. 

Frankenburg, F. R., & Zanarini, M. C. (2006). "The association between borderline personality disorder and obesity." Psychotherapy and Psychosomatics, 75(5), 315-322. 

Finding: Confirmed that BPD is related to an increased risk of obesity and its related medical comorbidities. 

Comprehensive Reviews
Gunderson, J. G., Herpertz, S. C., Skodol, A. E., Torgersen, S., & Zanarini, M. C. (2018). "Borderline personality disorder." Nature Reviews Disease Primers, 4, 18029. 

Finding: This comprehensive review notes that BPD patients have a higher prevalence of somatic comorbidities, including endocrine, metabolic, respiratory, and cardiovascular diseases than those without the disorder.
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