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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again
« Last post by Dirty Hippy on July 15, 2026, 12:37:15 AM »I do have an old trench coat Hops.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread
« Last post by Dirty Hippy on July 15, 2026, 12:33:12 AM »Yo Lighter.
She is probably having campfires somewhere.
On the beach.
Playing frisbee with glowing dolphins.
She is probably having campfires somewhere.
On the beach.
Playing frisbee with glowing dolphins.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again
« Last post by Hopalong on July 12, 2026, 09:11:55 AM »Not only do twits not get to judge you, but if I ran the universe, YOU don't get to judge you! Wear a trench coat with nothing underneath and flash rude people.
Social anxiety sucks, any form of snobbery or exclusion sucks, and I completely love YOUR dress code. Dress for comfort and delight -- your own.
I wish you weren't in a just-getting-by financial situation. I feel it from some of our Village members and it sucks. Life's unfair but also wonderful. It all comes and goes.
Meanwhile, can't wait to hear about your next creative exploration. You are always an artist, imo.
hugs
Hops
Social anxiety sucks, any form of snobbery or exclusion sucks, and I completely love YOUR dress code. Dress for comfort and delight -- your own.
I wish you weren't in a just-getting-by financial situation. I feel it from some of our Village members and it sucks. Life's unfair but also wonderful. It all comes and goes.
Meanwhile, can't wait to hear about your next creative exploration. You are always an artist, imo.
hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again
« Last post by sKePTiKal on July 12, 2026, 07:28:12 AM »Find something that feels comfortable, looks reasonably "dressed up", and stop fussing. Dress codes can be part of the fun of certain events - Hol is going to a 20's themed house warming/wedding party. You are still YOU, regardless of your packaging... and who among that crowd has the authority to issue a "good housekeeping award" on your attire in the FIRST place??
Those people don't get to judge you, Hippy. That's where an experience turns "rude". I can remember kids doing that to me, simply because my clothes were home made. Then, I stopped caring about it... and then things got better.
Those people don't get to judge you, Hippy. That's where an experience turns "rude". I can remember kids doing that to me, simply because my clothes were home made. Then, I stopped caring about it... and then things got better.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again
« Last post by Dirty Hippy on July 11, 2026, 11:58:40 PM »Once I get my adulting done.
IF I get around to it I might try to drop into a thrift store and put myself on extreme budget for a crap dress i would only wear once ugh. Needing to impress people with clothes doesn't impress me I am too old, too tired, too bored of it, dressed up too much for work for people who didn't give a rats ass.
The worst thing that could happen is they uninvite me or have a malfunction.
These are not real problems. These thoughts are not real thoughts.
I will sit on it but I need to also not bail at the last moment.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again
« Last post by Dirty Hippy on July 11, 2026, 11:35:49 PM »Sort of had a plan to go to an event but there is a bit of a dress code which usually I can fake my way through but I ditched my stuff which was in storage so I have not a lot which doesn't seem to usually bother me but now I can't even scrounge my way creatively to correctness.
Contemplating my rudeness and also how it's kind of rude to have a dress code. Also contemplating my priorities and energy level and my focus. My need to focus on more important stuff. Now If I had a fun event I would have a suggestion but it would be - dress how you like, formal, casual, whimsical. It covers everything and it says go for it.
This is dumb that I would contemplate this. I feel like I don't need friends who have dress codes. So I got to struggle with this. Do I want to go. I'd prefer to lean towards creative camp.
Then there are the shoes. It's not enough to find a dress one must also find the shoes.
I almost forgot what my point is.
My point appears to be stress.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again
« Last post by Dirty Hippy on July 11, 2026, 10:32:22 PM »I'm tired.
Before I read I am going to type something.
Went for a walk. Thought I saw unusual movement on a plant so I bent down thinking I might see a frog or a snake quivering the stems. I didn't see a frog. There was a fake silver necklace chain. I pulled on it and it came out of the greenery & there was a charm on the necklace. I thought the charm was corroded it didn't look right. I absent mindedly held it in my hand and kept walking. After a few minutes I glanced at it again and it wasn't corroded from the weather as I thought it was it's like my eyes saw it wrong the first glance. The necklace had an initial on it the first letter of my name. It is a cheap girl style sparkly necklace. I put it on for a while and then took it off. It's just weird that I bent down thinking I would find some little tree frog landing from stem to stem. I mean I am in the city. The odds are not that slim that someone is going to find junk. Just thought it was a funky coincidence.
The movement was flower blossoms falling off the plant not a frog.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026
« Last post by sKePTiKal on July 11, 2026, 12:15:37 PM »Yes, Debbie was here when the power went out Sat night! She left early, because it dawned on me this was going to last awhile and when I set up the generator - I opted for the furnace instead of AC. Imagine my surprise when we finally drove into town at just how close this little tornado was to us! Just over the ridge to the west. We didn't do a lot that weekend; deck was still in progress. Last tweaks will happen next week.
Well, I'm hoping Lighter is living it up on a world tour! I'm sure she'll pop in soon. Board access being spotty might've just convinced her to go do real life stuff for a while.
Well, I'm hoping Lighter is living it up on a world tour! I'm sure she'll pop in soon. Board access being spotty might've just convinced her to go do real life stuff for a while.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026
« Last post by Hopalong on July 10, 2026, 10:20:09 PM »How'd it go with/for Hol? I'm sorry C peed on her 4th of July parade.
And you? Did Debbie make it, even though our posts are a year later now?
We've hadda couple rainstorms, not long enough to deep-water anything, but we're lapping up raindrops like it's manna. (Pup and me.)
I finally caved and have hired two cleaners to come tomorrow and rescue the house from the pit I let it fall into over the last few months. I'm going to take Pup and go visit several friends and stay out of the way. It was beginning to feel odd that I've been to BN's house multiple times and never had him over here...so that'll be a relief. Haven't slept at ALL for two nights this week, so tonight I'm gonna, and will be joyful to come home at the end of the day.
BN and I are visiting that Village member who's on hospice together tomorrow. She's the amazing woman (fully blind now) who built her own sailboat and sailed across the Atlantic on her own years ago. The people we meet....and BN's really enjoying being part of the Board and strategic planning. Plus, we're saying nice things to each other about how meaningful our companionship feels.
Had to get her permission to bring him along, and she replied it's okay because Pup is going to be getting all her attention anyway. (She's not very interested in men....LOL).
All in all, an encouraging day. Hope that same's true for you and B.
(And where the HECK is Lighter? Official Worry Time?)
hugs
Hops
And you? Did Debbie make it, even though our posts are a year later now?
We've hadda couple rainstorms, not long enough to deep-water anything, but we're lapping up raindrops like it's manna. (Pup and me.)
I finally caved and have hired two cleaners to come tomorrow and rescue the house from the pit I let it fall into over the last few months. I'm going to take Pup and go visit several friends and stay out of the way. It was beginning to feel odd that I've been to BN's house multiple times and never had him over here...so that'll be a relief. Haven't slept at ALL for two nights this week, so tonight I'm gonna, and will be joyful to come home at the end of the day.
BN and I are visiting that Village member who's on hospice together tomorrow. She's the amazing woman (fully blind now) who built her own sailboat and sailed across the Atlantic on her own years ago. The people we meet....and BN's really enjoying being part of the Board and strategic planning. Plus, we're saying nice things to each other about how meaningful our companionship feels.
Had to get her permission to bring him along, and she replied it's okay because Pup is going to be getting all her attention anyway. (She's not very interested in men....LOL).All in all, an encouraging day. Hope that same's true for you and B.
(And where the HECK is Lighter? Official Worry Time?)
hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026
« Last post by sKePTiKal on July 10, 2026, 07:08:35 AM »Ah.... we're back!