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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: The Lake House

« Last post by lighter on June 16, 2025, 11:39:30 AM »

Handyman ready to mow and work on wedding ideas.

DD22 and I found the dead mouse in the house.  Coupled with BIG candle smell, in that armoire, is worse than only dead mouse smell, imo. DD agreed.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Adventures in renovations... again

« Last post by lighter on June 16, 2025, 11:15:25 AM »

So, the old, very short, but solid wood vanity is going.  The new one requires bar top protector to be poured.....I need to get a round sink and oiled rubbed bronze faucet.

Considering running new flooring through hallway and master bedroom.  Would be smart thing to do, ime. 

It looks like the 3"x6" blue glass tiles will be used extensively through the bathroom.  Maybe to the ceiling on every wall. 

The thought is calming.

Black pebbles with black grout on shower floor?  I think, yes.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread

« Last post by lighter on June 16, 2025, 11:08:31 AM »

It's funny to me.....now.  The idea of gently chiding retired nurse for sleeping with the married Yelly Guy neighbor..... honestly...funnily absurd and refreshing to put something, so brazenly chaotic, out there......
on the chaos creators....instead of being on the receiving end, for once.

Once I'm up here....above it, not taking it personal or serious.....not buying in, even a little....I see.....I get nothing from creating chaos.   

Those creating chaos, get something from it,.  I don't have to figure it out.  Don't have to care.  I don't care.  It's enough to understand how it works and put it down.  Turn away. 

Do what I do.  Understand why.  Play my game, not someone else's.

There are so many lovely things to enjoy in my yard.  I'll stay up here, above the intentional chaos......where joy lives.

Once I drop the rope, the tension and energy seems to dissipate.  The chaos creators seem to lose......
::sigh::.
seem to lose their steam.  They soften.....behave more appropriately.

Has it always been their stuff rubbing against my stuff?  Energy meeting energy? 

Withdrawal of all energy, is a choice.  Will take practice.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: The island

« Last post by lighter on June 14, 2025, 08:52:34 AM »

 Guest checked out, I assume, without saying a word.  The only texts came 2 days after arrival ....
He was there ....
One of the caretakers dogs stole one of his shoes ......
He found a cheap replacement pair at a shop ......
The water went off and his missing shoe never reappeared.

I responded....
the water and electricity ebb and flow, as I explained on the website.
He was radio silent the rest of the trip.

I did not have a positive guest interaction, to be honest.  I tried to help him be prepared for late Sunday arrival, but he brushed off every suggestion THEN peppered me with questions to save him from his fate, once he realized all the missing and moving puzzle pieces involved with procuring food.

At least the "caretaker" picked him up at the dock.

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Yard

« Last post by lighter on June 14, 2025, 08:43:45 AM »

It has rained and rained and rained.  Must pull weeds...looking forward to that  honor......tending the moss.  Mindless and happy.

 Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Adventures in renovations... again

« Last post by lighter on June 14, 2025, 08:41:19 AM »

I have the number for domestic violence victims fleeing unsafe situations.  There's another mum, who needs everything delivered, and I have both vehicles full of tile right now.

Will do what I can.....will also help to keep me ruthlessly letting go.....to see them repurposed this way.

You're right .....they feel like good causes....good places to release things into the universe, yup yup yup.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread

« Last post by lighter on June 14, 2025, 08:36:02 AM »

I use the hummingbirds like little mindful gongs......
they're my gentle reminder to return to mindfulness practice......
little buzzy monks, they are.

This morning, I've begun merging my current backyard with my tomato garden/happy place backyard.  Like they're connected.  Not sure what happened there, but I sit on back porch, to begin day.  I think it's a byproduct of choosing to ignore the neighbors, and lean into the peace and privacy available, instead.

I still experience some energetic pull, to resolve some of the "problems."

It's very familiar......like parenting with toxic, selfish people, but the wife of the Yelly Guy is the child, in this case.

And ....there are times it's easy ....I feel a mile above the distractions.....they simply feel like a grain of sand on a beach .....are nothing.

That's the good stuff, imo.  When distractions fade and joy steps up, consistently.... pathways are truly under construction🪷

Lighter
::constructing text to Retired Nurse neighbor...including Yelly Guy apology text,😀admitting what he did, forgiveness for inviting him into our yards, and maybe for sleeping with him/a married man?::.

It's under construction!

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Adventures in renovations... again

« Last post by sKePTiKal on June 14, 2025, 08:35:06 AM »

That's a good cause to donate to, Lighter. I had an opportunity like that in the process of moving up here. But that was through the domestic violence group... and Mom needed to furnish her new digs. Another, was the family of a coworker who lost everything to a house fire.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Adventures in renovations... again

« Last post by lighter on June 14, 2025, 08:21:48 AM »

That's an alternative to using metal tile trim, Amber.....or a different shade of blue.  Will see.

I'm really tired.  Not sure, shockingly, but I think that's bc I'm sleeping plenty.



Must unload truck and CrV....today, I think.

Local single mum needs entire household, and can pick up, so that's will carry away a double bed, queen bed, sofa, much extra HomeGoods stored in garage.....clean out begins!!!

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Adventures in renovations... again

« Last post by sKePTiKal on June 13, 2025, 07:40:22 AM »

Use white for subtle contrast?