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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again
« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 07, 2026, 11:04:13 AM »I figured the password issue out yay me.
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I figured the password issue out yay me.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026
« Last post by sKePTiKal on May 07, 2026, 08:57:05 AM »All that is true Hops. I'm usually barefoot these days - or some close facsimile. I have a couple pairs of sewn cotton tai chi shoes and lately have been wearing those for certain grounding properties. Apparently they are unobtanium these days... but I think I can still find the video on the traditional technique for making them.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again
« Last post by sKePTiKal on May 07, 2026, 08:53:19 AM »Thanks for the tip on the fonts! I like your images.
Interesting directions to experiment with, in that AI explanation of physical play especially about balance. If you post an email address one of us can ping you, if you need help getting logged in from Dr. G.
Interesting directions to experiment with, in that AI explanation of physical play especially about balance. If you post an email address one of us can ping you, if you need help getting logged in from Dr. G.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026
« Last post by Hopalong on May 07, 2026, 08:49:24 AM »Do NOT request my endless rant about women's shoes with high heels....noooooo pleez do not, it's quite unsafe also because I can't stoppppppppppp....
deforming
back and joint damaging
enfeebling
disempowering
cognitive (spinal) dissonance
self-harm for the male gaze
....that's just clearing my throat, actually.....I'll bellow the rest in a pillow.
(You got virgin feet, Meh!).
hugs
Hops
deforming
back and joint damaging
enfeebling
disempowering
cognitive (spinal) dissonance
self-harm for the male gaze
....that's just clearing my throat, actually.....I'll bellow the rest in a pillow.
(You got virgin feet, Meh!).
hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026
« Last post by sKePTiKal on May 07, 2026, 08:42:08 AM »Well - back in the younger days - I wore heels a LOT. Work and play. After an early intro (pre-80s) to Earth Shoes. Tai chi got me out of heels pretty much permanently. But I did notice, that ankle injuries felt better with some heels. Which seemed backwards to me. I did NOT wear stilletos then; I would tower over a lot of guys if I did. And if I put them on now, it's only for a short time - for effect. <big grin> At home. With the "do not disturb" sign on the door.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026
« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 07, 2026, 01:00:19 AM »I've never owned or worn high heel shoes my entire life.
Feet are too wimpy for it.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: The Lake House
« Last post by lighter on May 06, 2026, 08:56:23 PM »Haven't seen the Puerto Rican neighbors since the wife picked up the bedrail yesterday? And left us a basket of eggs. The dh had a kidney stone, flat on the floor. It's been pretty peaceful here, till I saw the clover was rotting at the roots from the straw contact....wet. Too wet, and by now matted under the clover and throughout.
We spent the entire day pulling up straw.....sewing bald patches with more seed.
A storm just came up fast, purple lightening flashing.....we ran to the back porch and watched the rain start.
Our backs will be wrecked tonight. And our hands....elbows, from leaning on them.
Here's a pointer ..... don't plant in a draught. There are I'll be back breaking regret involved, IME.
Lighter
We spent the entire day pulling up straw.....sewing bald patches with more seed.
A storm just came up fast, purple lightening flashing.....we ran to the back porch and watched the rain start.
Our backs will be wrecked tonight. And our hands....elbows, from leaning on them.
Here's a pointer ..... don't plant in a draught. There are I'll be back breaking regret involved, IME.
Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again
« Last post by Hopalong on May 06, 2026, 08:50:06 PM »Maybe she's looking for an adult-daughter aged friend?
Could be so nice if it works out.
Would she be able to come pick you up, if bus routes won't work?
I'll think of you when the day comes.
hugs
Hops
Could be so nice if it works out.
Would she be able to come pick you up, if bus routes won't work?
I'll think of you when the day comes.
hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Friendship Moments: good or bad
« Last post by Hopalong on May 06, 2026, 08:39:59 PM »I think he might be interested, Meh, but I'm not looking for anything intense. Just some company and conversation over a brew now and then is fine for me. Or not.
We're both volunteers for a local nonprofit (part of vtvnetwork.org), so we have that in common. Also, he reminded me of the kindly, scientific-nerdy types who worked with my father. I read a feature on his life in our newsletter (which I write, except for the "bio" features) and thought we'd enjoy a chat, so I reached out by email. He was pleased, and we've met up several times and have enjoyed it. Good organizations tend to attract good people, imo.
Lately I have been socially busier, you're right! But my overall introversion is way more powerful than I'd realized before. And that's okay too, just an adjustment.
I'm too overwhelmed by the home stuff to be more ambitious right now.
hugs
Hops
We're both volunteers for a local nonprofit (part of vtvnetwork.org), so we have that in common. Also, he reminded me of the kindly, scientific-nerdy types who worked with my father. I read a feature on his life in our newsletter (which I write, except for the "bio" features) and thought we'd enjoy a chat, so I reached out by email. He was pleased, and we've met up several times and have enjoyed it. Good organizations tend to attract good people, imo.
Lately I have been socially busier, you're right! But my overall introversion is way more powerful than I'd realized before. And that's okay too, just an adjustment.
I'm too overwhelmed by the home stuff to be more ambitious right now.
hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again
« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 06, 2026, 08:00:39 PM »So I went to a church group thing today again and one of the older ladies invited me to visit her house on mother's day. She says she doesn't have plans. It seems like the nicest thing ever. She does have adult grown kids but they live far away from her. I'm not sure if I can get there. Still considering it in the back of my mind.
She eventually told me today "most of us here have dysfunctional families" ... I didn't exactly tell her my relatives are dysfunctional I said it more like "fragmented."
These people can't be fooled they seem to read between the lines. Anywho.
I'm already tired for my day. Got some exercise didn't do any on Monday or Tuesday so today was the day.
Maybe I will take a nap and then get up and be productive idk.
I'm going to try to remember and change my password. If I never come back on it's because I've locked myself out.
There are 1743 total members on this board and there are only 3-4 regulars at this point?
🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋 I'm sleepy.
She eventually told me today "most of us here have dysfunctional families" ... I didn't exactly tell her my relatives are dysfunctional I said it more like "fragmented."
These people can't be fooled they seem to read between the lines. Anywho.
I'm already tired for my day. Got some exercise didn't do any on Monday or Tuesday so today was the day.
Maybe I will take a nap and then get up and be productive idk.
I'm going to try to remember and change my password. If I never come back on it's because I've locked myself out.
There are 1743 total members on this board and there are only 3-4 regulars at this point?
🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋 I'm sleepy.