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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: The island
« Last post by Hopalong on October 14, 2025, 01:13:17 PM »
It's exciting to think of this particular ownership burden as OFF YOUR BACK, Lighter!

Fingers crossed for a swift and smooth sale.

hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Predatory grooming
« Last post by Hopalong on October 14, 2025, 01:11:33 PM »
Science stuff (though I'm no scientist) and rational thinking help me avoid risky trusting of the internet. In my mind, gravity is True (real). Love is True (real, if it's  sane healthy love, etc).

I think there's a whole lot of Truth one can discover and experience and trust directly. To me, that seems like the best approach. When people say "I do my research" I always wonder, what does that mean? Are you following an influencer or attention-seeker or moneymaker online? Are you falling for "special secrets" gobbledygook or unrealistic pitches? Do you have evidence-based explanations or trusted institutions? I still ask myself those screening questions, and it helps ground me.

These days, being careful about what and who I affirm seems ever more important.

hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by sKePTiKal on October 14, 2025, 07:01:19 AM »
How would you describe mono vision? I've seen people saying they chose near or far sighted and use readers as needed, but not this mono. Don't see the actual surgeon till next week. Lots of people seem to be thrilled with the results - so that's calming me down.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Predatory grooming
« Last post by lighter on October 13, 2025, 08:51:09 AM »
Friend's niece is experiencing problems with GAL, and....maybe the stbx is a very convincing guy?

Doesn't sound good.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: The island
« Last post by lighter on October 13, 2025, 08:49:39 AM »
Potential buyer was delayed one day, bc of "flight mix up." Not sure what that was about, but he/guest, fixed a plumbing leak, upon arrival at the cottage....
THEN had no hot water yesterday, at all.  In fact, there was no water coming through hot water taps.

When he opened the water valve, into the water heater, as instructed, water went everywhere.

It seems something in the water heater broke, AND housekeeper blamed handyman's repair, told me she had plumber "fix" the "screw up", then didn't check hot water after "plumber" said he "fixed" the screw up, but really .....
"plumber"
just
shut
off
water
valve
to
the
water
heater.....did nothing to "fix" the leak.

When housekeeper called the "plumber", for the brand new smaller leak...."plumber" didn't answer.  That was a couple days ago.

When she called him yesterday, he said he's not doing plumbing.  I say, he stopped well before....but kept it A SECRET while pretending to do repairs?!?

What the bloody hell is wrong with people?

I'd be unhappy, about this situation, in any case.  That the potential buyer, is the guest, experiencing this...
:: sigh::.
makes it more upsetting.

My brother is boating in a new microwave and water heater, today. I had no idea he was going, but am grateful for the assist.

After all that ...the potential buyer is lining up a survey.....still....which bodes well, IME.
He also has a pretty good idea, about how things get done, on the island.....now.

He'll have "a partner" in the ownership.  That will be helpful, IME, as will his ability to repair things.

Lighter

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Whew boy.  I imagine myself living as my mother and Auntie P lived.  Out and about.  Walking dogs, for Auntie P.
Shopping, for my mother, who created circular pivot marks, on her right shoes....all of them.  Such busy bees, doing what they loved, till their ends.

We've had this discussion, you and I.  Every time I go up stairs, I think about staying strong.  Every time I lift heavy groceries/things.....I commit, like it's a precious ability I need to preserve.

It IS, for me.

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by lighter on October 13, 2025, 07:54:46 AM »
Amber, my sister just had both eyes done.... cataract surgery went easy and 2 days apart. 

My surgeries were farther apart, but went well. 

Pro's, you'll appreciate....
1.  You'll get true blue back.  Wonderful, as I adore blues.
2.  Vision correction. I chose moni vision.  Far sighted in right eye. Near in left.  Neither is perfect, but will survive in apocalypse with ok, uncorrected, vision, imo. 

I will say, my brain despised having imperfect vision and mono vision for a good long while.  I admit....I demanded the doctor UNDO it, and wanted contact lenses BACK.  He demanded I try it out.  It's what I have now, and I acclimated...my brain acclimated....I need readers, but am ok without distance correction. I need it, but make do.

I should have gone back for a touch up, but couldn't make myself go.  You should avail yourself, as it will likely be offered.

My sister just enjoyed her touch up, and is so glad she did.

Will say this .....my brother had mono vision first, and was frustrated when operating heavy equipment.....it was an adjustment for him.  It would be, for you, also.

I suggest you ask your doc for Ativan, or something to calm your Nervous System before surgery, if allowed. 

I remember seeing things, during surgery.... which was ok, but.....not ideal.

That's happened before.  I think my body metabolizes drugs quickly?  It's a thing.  Docs and nurses very freaked out when I tell them things they did, during surgery.  If course, you'll be Uber loopy, perhaps difficult to wake/get moving, IF they increase the anaesthesia, IME.  It's a balance.

After surgery, maybe figure out how to center up toilet, before sitting.  You'll likely fall half-into the tub, or floor, many times, post op.....you won't be able to trust your instincts, so stop, line things up, then carefully place your weight.  Only a suggestion.

Will be ok.

Lighter



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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by sKePTiKal on October 13, 2025, 07:19:49 AM »
Then patience is the word of the week, Dr. G! Sometimes it's something simple. Sometimes it's not.
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Hi Amber,

"Hmmm. Seems like things have settled down with the board. Fingers crossed!"

Still problems!  Working on it with the web host...

Take care,

Richard
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by Hopalong on October 11, 2025, 01:16:35 PM »
Wow, I can see it now: Women's Mountain with Amber the landlord.
B might lose his mind but boy, would it keep you busy!

There are lots of tiny home villages, from the video trails I follow. Very appealing, and once established, people seem so happy in them. I think it's a wonderful alternative.

Glad you're settling down about the surgery, and superb advice from Hol so your doctors are well informed. That's exactly the right thing to tell them, imo.

Hope you don't have long to wait, or meet happy cataract-liberated people in the meantime. You are safe. You will be safe during and after. They are helping. Good mantra, maybe. They are helping.

Wish I could.

hugs
Hops
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